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🔸 Giving time 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Check presence of my own sense making parts. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Looping back to #399. 2️⃣ In a business-like relationship, managers connect. 🔹 Parts: E: 2yo feet in sand, lost water wings, can’t just sit and be P: sleepy 2️⃣ P manager above. It all has to make sense. P wants to fix it P “spaz” this is all fucked up, all a big ball of confusion P/E kicking in the crib, metal shoes cuz it’s feet were ugly. “get away from me, business person, I need you” 🎓 W...

🔸 Daughter: there’s not an actual resource here that I can go to, nobody’s home ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Where the buzziness drops off. 🔹 Parts: Anxious deer on the spot: other peoples anger. dangerous to be perceived in a way that’s not true to me . Dream “massive misunderstanding, im expected to do x, the struggle to stop things to say ‘this should not be happening’” Pattern seeker. How do I map this? No, if you stop to write it down or think about how it comes across, that’s not the real exper...

🔸 Flowers and shit 🔹 Parts: P: the people pleaser, eagle eye, really good at observing others. “Look how pretty I make everything!” Ugliness (opposition, defiance) is not safe, be flowery and sweet. Thinks im 5. Cleaning up the mess (feeling guilty and bad) made by: P: Brutally honest. Defiant Teen. “I see through all your shit”. Gets shit done, get respect, keep us safe from two faces. Frighten...

🔸 Knocking on doors; what are these people thinking? 2️⃣ How to tell the truth and be protected? Unburdening the 13 year old ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page q...

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🔸 Little one: you always have to have your eye on 🔹 Parts: P: you’ve been avoiding this P: research analytic E: abandoned, exiled, secrecy, quicksand. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE...

🔸 Who’s responsible here? Take a ticket. 2️⃣ More than understanding; every part has its tūrangawaewae. *The call with Christine referenced is #378 🎫 Tickets: immobilize & freeze sadness (comes up when overshare shows a dam buildup) needs me to take a breath Over share Don’t Be comedic scared to pick wrong Explain yourself 2 jokers 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: She had just shared all...

🔸 Night Vision 🔹 Parts: P you must be doing something P yellow eyed panther, hunter. P tight temple protecting E tiny baby trying to breathe. It’s just fine to be afraid P everything is fine. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: IFS works in the dark? I assume. I should follow up in a few days. I went w shotgun approach, obviously could sound pushy/hunty, but when I get no response, I just want t...

🔸 First is worst? Making it work for dad. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Why are my prompts missing the mark? Why am I rushing the witnessing? Why am I getting blended? We speak every two months or so, I get lost in the context shifts, the windows to connect come and go, and then her Self steps in and makes me irrelevant. And of course I'm dealing with my own mad parts. I took a shot steerin...

🔸 She can’t laugh like that. 🔹 Parts: • P: anxiety, breathless • P: laughing, shaky, bubbling excitement, a carnival fair ground. Nervous, is this too good to be true? Thinks im a toddler. Rather be Druid with cauldrons. Needs to be bigger than sad part underneath: • E: little girl 3yo w fluffy small animal, a tribble, tangled hair, blonde curly. Hated having to sit on dad’s knee, prickly chin....

🔸 The campaign to resolve e-mail anxiety! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Nothing in a galaxy. 🔹 Parts: P: say something! P: you’re just saying that because it’s recent, going on memories P: fear, parts can’t speak w james, it can’t happen. Would be out of control. There's nothing in there P: ladder/rope climber, hanging on, have to speak up w dad and brother, performing E: nothing person. Could have connection w dad through affection but not through knowledge. Too...

🔸 Two face; he became someone she didn’t recognize. And you’re not a guy, how are you gonna give me safety? 🔹 Parts: P just don’t look inside, It’s all a mess. Wants support, community P if we do go there, where to start? Can of worms. I don’t know what to do w this. P target: we have to remember and relive every detail. Because women have to have the case right, or else feel alone and crazy. Cu...

🔸 The stacks. Many parts make light work ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Christmas list. It’s good to be Selfish! vs Who does she think she is? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Sick (and too many Freddie Mercury covers today), why I was avoiding going straight to exile early on. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: It...

🔸 Mama bear unyolked. Naming parts & check-in tips, blessings all around. 🔹 Parts: P: analytical: pump the breaks on things we can’t analyze. Deputy assistant to Sally. Stay one step ahead, don’t get caught up in emotion. White washing. E: Little one E: middle one E: mama bear. In purgatory from trauma around primary relationship. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Com...

🔸 Party time! 📌 Genie followed up: So all the things (celebrations, parties, conversations etc etc) happened yesterday - AND, I didn't freak out!! I got through it all and it was mostly fine. I'm still actually processing it all - because there was a lot, and some of it really surprised me - in terms of how I reacted. I can't explain exactly how - (I do have a little inkling) - IFS was part of t...

🔸 Nano nightmares, playing dead. Waking up the sleepy part 🔹 Parts: E Sad baby, immobilized, metal bars on feet. Nobody gets me sees me hears me P tantruming Brutalizer triggers: P Sleep rescue part reinforces lack of initiation. Wants to take me to rainbows and sunshine but instead nightmares 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Asking sleepy part to connect dots was wrong move on my part. It’s...

🔸 How to care for nervous 🔹 Parts: P: Nervous has been knocking on my door for a long time. Pre toddler P: analyzing is default mode E: Sad when cared for, in the corner playing w dolls. Toddler, 3ish. Seems content. Mysterious. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: First-time callers presenting w “Nervous, about to cry” remains one of the trickiest situations for me. It’s not obvious if we’re wit...

🔸 The other word. Striving v allowing 2️⃣ Action, cut, rewind. How I feel about how I feel. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Started with two never-before-seen tech problems, both show-stoppers, one most definitely my fault. That's always a major shake-up for my system, “oh shit how many other times?” and my nieghbor is outside playing with guns the whole call, really distracting. I had troubl...

🔸 Life sucks, please prove me wrong 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I wanted to meet parts where they are, enter their frame, but playing philosophy, we don’t find the answers or rest in the “no answer” space or get closer to Self. And clearly it affects my self-presence, as those parts of me struggle to keep up. So I think I'm done with that experiment, philosophizing, and need to take “no a...