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🔸 Bringing the love forward. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸IBS & a desire covered by happiness 🔹 Parts: Part feels stuck/lonely. Lonely forever. A grey clay ball. Memories of 4yo, doing stuff on my own. Sadness. Scared to try new things scared to be exposed scared of judgement. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Too much hypothesizing. Listening back, trying to figure out what else was going on for me, and I see this was my first call since be...

🔸 What is it like to have a safe place to share? 🔹 Parts: E: Lost. ill equipped. 12 yrs old P: Disassociate: a dark black wall. A protective layer. "Poof!" P: the manager: skeletal form, "been around for ever". trying not to be lost 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Talk less, guide less, stay out of the way! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Com...

🔸 Is Self actually genuinely connecting? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: If this is a self-like part or Sally, I'm trying not to pull the rug out from under it. I'm standing back, observing, keeping my responses more neutral / hypothetical like “I can imagine, *if* a part is hearing that ‘bring it on’, it might not trust...” I'm seeking input from the target, with the assumpti...

🔸 Not great! (am I allowed to say that?) 🔹 Parts: E: mousy, dark hair. grapes. Looking for a leader. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Terrible boring kaleidoscopic fruit salad. *The picture might not be accurate 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I didn’t offer that minute of meditation any earlier, like I said I would. And I'm holding back a lot of "sounds like ADHD..." The compromise that works for my system has been to discuss it outside of IFS calls. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Fo...

🔸 Time to learn what works for me 🔹 Parts: Media gobbler Rushing to do everything or else health fails. Why can’t we be like people who spin all the plates. Science says do the optimal thing Don’t be pathetic, don’t pity me Wants me to create a program we can do! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more...

🔸 If we don't avoid, when do we rest? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Serious symbols; fear of dying again. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 To be an amazing woman 🔹 Parts: P: If I can just get this right. Must pick the best option, The perfect intervention. wedding day. E: im not good. Lump in throat P: critiquey. Things go to shit, you can try all you want to understand, it’s not good enough. Cloaked. Rebellious teen “you don’t even know what I’ve done”. Sick of “giving up, sloth like”, “weak, don’t know what to do”, “embarrassed...

🔸 She doesn't have to do anything ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Fear & anger; losing partner, job, self. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Genie's year-one review 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Listening back, I notice the shift in energy after meditation. I should offer that sooner. It’s not true that I never skip 'feel towards', I just wanted to drive it home here. In fact, her intuition of “ask it for space or to see me” is likely how I would respond (with second part). So perhaps she's bringing 201 skills to a 101 exam. O...

🔸 Performing for no one, managed to be pretty. 2️⃣ The 5 year old and the dark spot. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Too pushy? Yes, I can hear it: “Don’t say it again, James! Give it a rest, try direct access!” Maybe I should have! But, I'm in the dark a lot here. My concern with D.A. is that I may get sideswiped, ghosted, and/or have my own frustrated parts come up. I can’t see in, so we’re...

🔸 Thanks for the dress, it'll go with my mask. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 I'm supposed to surrender to Self because... I'm stupid? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 What to say when "you’re not listening to me" ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Deeply cut, not ok. The worst breakup. 2️⃣ I can't process my way out of this. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Plenty I could do differently... It’s hard! Maybe because I relate so much. So I kept checking in w parts in me. And that limited how much I could show up for her. But I don’t know another way. There are times I feel like I'm not doing a great job In guiding caller, but my biggest...

🔸 The rebel wants me to be myself... too much? 🔹 Parts: The rebel, strong, important to be myself, doesn’t like being told what to do, snowballing. Teenagery. Likes its job, but not pushing people away, and sad & angry about locking up parts when it wants freedom. Trusts Milan, rather team up w cheerleader The people pleaser, stays locked up by rebel. Possible exile(s): feeling of being cont...

🔸 A glimpse over the edge 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Too much dot-connecting / guessing? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 A bad habit. Why can’t we get this off of us? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 She can't sing like that. 🔹 Parts: P Distracted humming, decoy P teeth grinding/self harm. Stop singing, learn the truth. Worried about how I’ll respond and get into trouble. Stop me crying out loud when I was a baby. P we’ve been through this before, it’s a load of shit. Make up some stuff and get out, been working on it so long, if you haven’t got it by now, you never will E crying alone in...

🔸 FOMO. Ocean, net, shell, pearl. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Trying to stay out of the way. But that can backfire. If I'm not actively guiding I can become more of a backseat driver, just throwing up dot-connections. They mostly seemed to land, but, worst-case scenario would be that I'm taking us off track, if a caller has parts that just go along. But today I could sense that analyzer g...

🔸 Making up is life or death ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 If you just stay mad then it’s only your own heartbreak you’re holding 🔹 Parts: P: better to be angry than take on a lineage of powerlessness E: sensing, sensitive, wanting to take it all in. Had to develop a tenseness to keep out the heavy, dark energies around her. Shutting down her powers. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Still sick during this call which i feel effects my overall energy...