Live IFS

🔸 Efficient! Fear around feeling so good! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - afraid part, teen  - afraid Of going back in the world, facing rejection, depression  - dancing  - needs jo to be on the lookout Re: trusting too quickly and giving away too much 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Today I wanted to shake things up with Jo, and make sure to check in w...

🔸 I'm very surprised to go to this place so fast. You can hear my energy shift when I realize the exile. Unburdened! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The part that keeps me from reaching out! And the one it protects…  - solar plexus, feels bottled up  - afraid of not being seen, requests being lost - rather be exploring w my self. Holding hands - Age 4 - needs me t...

🔸 A new approach - we're meeting at not-around-midnight for Aizhan. Parts from past calls still came up, but she has more Self energy to stay with each and get to know it better. I’m learning how they show up, in what order, and why. Yes, tired part, there’s lots to be done, I think we’re up for it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come...

🔸 An exile wants proof, and is answered. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - a part like w teddy bear.  - sternum  - afraid of being tractionless, the bridge isn’t built, the car goes down in flames  - rather be on the beach flat, grounded  - age of part maybe 7 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more p...

🔸 Tension here! She's losing trust in me (or a part is). Are parts of mine reacting? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Sadness, anger, inadequacy, the rational part, the numbing part, the "tired of therapy" part… 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My aim was to target target target. I think, in the last minute of the call, we did that. 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE...

🔸 A 5 year old exile brought back from a dark place. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The judge part that lives in the head and gets mad at her for laying around, watching TV etc.  - It would rather be relaxing in a mumu 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I say textbook, but can that also mean "just going through the motions"? I forgot to mention anything at first bu...

🔸 So nice! I'm surprised by an unfamiliar part after I show up with what I assume are the usual problems that I either don’t want to face, or already have… 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):  Judgy about screwing around w things of little significance   back of neck, head  waste of life, potential   needs me to put it on the calendar, take our tim...

🔸 Whoa! I won’t ruin the suspense but it’s a great one, and only our second call! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - A shadowy figure…  - anxious, chest..  - afraid Molly can’t handle it, Will have regrets…  - We can’t see the age at first…  - needs Daily check ins. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on having a less-flat affect, I don’t th...

🔸 A celebration! An exile she hadn’t met before, unburdened. I say very little in this call. A good template for how to do IFS solo. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - like a raccoon or cat, scared of the unknown, scared of Emily leading herself.  - rather be celebrating  - needs daily checkin and go to fun places 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: A most organic...

🔸 We're way off-script! Starting with tears, and a cacophony of parts vying to be heard. Despite the sadness, fear, doubt, Aizhan communicates with and holds parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I don’t know. I went off-script very early but felt like I was in the right space to do it, and the convo seemed healing in the end. 😀Come cha...

🔸 "If the sadness comes out, we'll be punished. It's not ok to be sad"... A protector is comfortable being uncomfortable . We try a couple new approaches with a familiar exile, the teen. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - busy pacing, insisting. It lives in the head. - a few protectors. The fear that Jo won’t know what to do with this sad part when she works with it - the sa...

🔸 Jo is practitioner! And guess what, I'm nervous! Nervous I might want her to do something differently and not know how to say it, or that I won’t be able to go deep enough because I’ll be focusing on her practitioning. Nervous about losing respect of listeners and peer-workers by sharing these parts of me. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that doesn’t want to as...

🔸 The most efficient call? Too efficient? The longing sounds exile-y to me, and I’m being more insistent about not going to exiles with first-timers. Thankfully, this isn't our last call. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that wants her to move on, move past this longing feeling - in The throat - worried she will get sucked back in to abusive relationship - rather...

🔸 Emily has significant IFS experience! She is quick to touch-in to a vulnerable exile part. Still, I encourage her to stay with the protector: the witness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part at the bottom of the stairs - it’s protector, the witness, standing by - a quivering in the sternum, like after crying - thinks Emily is 16 - needs a voice 🎓 What I'd like to...

🔸 A scary clown with sharp teeth in her stomach and shoulders, afraid of the monster. Thinks she’s a teen... We're going in. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the exile is a teen, chained up in a train car. - Can’t be playful. Became religious fanatic instead. - Been there too too long, wants to be silly - wants to scream it out, they go be in the woods, safe and calm and f...

🔸 Jo is Practitioner! I'm still nervous, but the session is smoother. A familiar exile (fear of success?) shows up, and I vow to go straight for it.. Next time. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the part that shrugs its shoulders about prioritizing a project "fix back pain". - It's too busy, doesn't have the info, nor the permission to concentrate - Age ~28-30, apprx when i...

🔸 Not an IFS session, this is what it looks like when we decide not to do IFS. We're both early risers, and because our time zones are 11 hours apart, we're going past-bedtime. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part longing for connection… - And the sleepy part! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was practicing using bookmarks from last time. Maybe I need to practice...

🔸 Powerful. She's new to IFS, she's in tears, and still the intuition is there, Self knows how to heal. We meet the part that is not ready to allow grieving. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - tightness in shoulders, neck. - afraid of going back to dark, broken place. Afraid of the secret, that Alinda won’t be able to love - rather be reminding her of her progress - needs To...

🔸 A fast paced first-call. Fun! We meet a protector and its exile, dealing with the pain of being alone. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part is frustrated. It’s in the head, behind the left eye, and in the throat. - It’s afraid that it’s the only one running the show, and the other parts aren’t doing their job. - It’s afaid of Lisa being lonely, sleeping alone for th...

🔸 Alinda is ready to meet younger parts, but it's our first call, so I’m being cautious & insisting that we spend some time with protectors. There are some tears, but I think we did great! And maybe I finally did the right thing w that upfront presenting fear! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - A crushing feeling in chest, avoiding the work - afraid she will learn too mu...

🔸 Jo is practitioner! I'm nervous! How much should I share on the pod? How much should I guide Jo? It's a lot to think about. This was recorded in August '21. James-as-client calls sat on the shelf longer than most. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the sneaky, do anything to get out of work part. sorta 5 year old, sorta teen, 22 year old... - he has his back turned - hes a...

🔸 Jo meets the battered woman, the grandmother, who can only clean and clean and hope to not be battered! We set her free! I'm short on time on this one, but still a good call. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The pain in the stomach for the part that feels something in the stomach - The exile was a young person in a cage. Not very responsive. But Jo knows what to do. - Th...

🔸 NOT an IFS session, instead we talked *about* IFS, & how to check in. I give some instruction. The First half of call is just hearing from him, how he’s doing. He sounds great! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Experimented with a new breathing exercise to relax before call. I think was effective. Will try 2x next time. 😀Come chat wi...

🔸 We get more targeted this time. Aizhan goes to an exile to be with it in the way it seemed to need. We discuss changing external circumstances. At the end we talk a little bit about my personal practice and how we can work more together! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Tension, pounding in the heart - longing for community, connection - would rather be exploring - needs...

🔸 We start with a 15 year old, learn about a 10 year, and finally find the curled up 3 year old. Exile: Unburdened. I'm a little lost in the beginning feel like our handling of the exile was textbook. Helps having worked together so much! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - 3 year old. - Hiding, like curled up under bench - fear of father, feeling like can’t do anything right...