Live IFS

🔸 “Nobody was around…” A 4 year old is at the front of the line today, and ready to do some unburdening. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - 4 year old, shy. Doesn’t want the exposure, criticism. - rather be swimming with other 4 year olds - needs to be remembered, and to work out solutions for when Linda is busy w not-for-4-year old things 🎓 What I'd like to do differently:...

🔸 This is fun! We talk addiction. Would you believe Leah has no knowledge of IFS or parts work going into this call? (She was referred by another caller.)  🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - the rage - the clenching in the chest - afraid of… that look on her husbands face… and her fathers face when he was aggressive - rather be biking, playing, everything! - thinks she’...

🔸 Who are you when there are no problems to solve? This is mostly me describing my check-in practice. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube

Shira runs a private practice in Jerusalem offering therapy to adults and couples, and has over 15 years of clinical experience. She is a "Level 3" certified IFS therapist as well as a supervisor and a trainer for IFS international training courses. She hosts IFS workshops for personal growth and development in person and online. You can contact Shira via whats app at 3472553514 or email at shifru...

🔸 We try new things, something I learned from Toni Herbine-Blank: two hands to hold two parts. I don't follow up on check-ins, to give space. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - A busy busy 5 year old 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes...

If you've searched for IFS on youtube, you've no doubt encountered Lucas. He's created a ton of free resources, which is just one of the ways he supports people in their growth towards freedom, intimacy and aliveness.  Lucas also teaches coaches how to use parts work in their sessions. He is a trained Coach, Therapist, Bodyworker, currently leading sessions, online groups and trainings at Hol...

🔸 Hopelessness, and this part is not unblending... I try explicit direct access. We end on a high note. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Shame Ready to give up  - In heart  - Fear of losing it all 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: This is the type of call I mark as "to revisit with a supervisor". Some people are simply overwhelmed, in tears. I try co-regulating...

Bill is a certified IFS practitioner and personal development coach. Twice per week, with co-leader Alison Dyer, he leads a free Parts Work Practice group where anyone can join and practice in groups.    I started LiveIFS because I didn't see any other free & open groups of people getting together to practice. Turns out I just didn't look hard enough... I highly recommend this group...

🔸 Perfect test scores, but always feeling “not good enough”. This 4yo exile is mad, feels abandoned. (This is our 3rd call, but the first that we’ve recorded.) Lots of tears, difficulty, but I think a resounding success, beautiful. Linda is great with 4 year olds! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - striving and frustration, protectors. - The four year old - ache in lower bac...

🔸 It's magic! Molly unburdens the 10 year old who saw her father being arrested, and never saw him again 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The protector is disappointment in the pit of the stomach. Wants emotional balance.  The exile is 10. Never got to grieve. Now she can. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more peop...

🔸 Something new! Jo says check-ins aren’t happening for her. I suggest we kinda do one together, and ask her to lead. It seems to work. This is self leadership. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The teen - chest - sad about the dog dying - needs to be held. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: my goal was to follow up on checkins, and I did. Im happy about this call 😀Come c...

🔸 Topic: Sex. Language: NSFW. We meet at least 5 parts in this call. Robert is big into IFS. We have a chatty “about IFS “ rapport , not as structured as most sessions     🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):  The 16 yo. Angry, out for vengeance. Here to fuck & fight. How does he relate to the 13, 7, 18 year old parts?     🎓 What I'd like...

🔸 An 'emergency' call. Casey is so distraught, slept for one hour last night. Seems past parts work opened the lid, revealing more unhappy parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - protector: “we gotta get out of here” - afraid of pain of disconnect, "they all hate you, they all think you’re crazy." - wants to be a good dog, belly rubs. Not tied to a tree barking. - exile: 4...

🔸 Molly's first time as practitioner! And I brought a not-easy one to her. We do a debrief at the end. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - go spend money part - Behind me, pushing off the diving board - afraid I’ll miss out on life - rather be making a wish list - thinks I’m a teen or twenties? - needs me to do regular practice. Weekly wish list making 🎓 What I'd like to do...

🔸 Clearly Molly does her homework! We dive in with the part that slices in w guilt whenever she’s having fun. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - "Your family had it rough, who do you think you are, having fun?"  - core. Belly, right down the middle  - fear of losing the memories, losing lessons, disrespecting family struggle  - rather be honoring it all, the g...

🔸 Jo gets the know a numbing part, and unburdens the depressed part it protects. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): the depressed part has spent so much time in the dark. seems like a 12yo. wants to go to the lake house and be free, joyful 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on specific responses to protector fears that I studied this morning. But when it came up...

🔸 With an IFS therapist for months, but no exile unburdening… we talk to the part that is angry at his therapist. Most callers don’t have a baseline of work with other IFS practitioners to compare. I'm excited to get feedback! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - angry at therapist, distrustful of women - tightness in the jaw, a scowl, eyes rolled back - afraid of being judged...

🔸 The tired part relaxes, the “you fuck up part” shows up. We get to an exile and do some unburdening. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - behind eyes, throat, cheat  - afraid it won’t be safe, will be thought of as stupid  - relaxing by the pool, taking in the details of the flowers.  - thinks shes 28.  we then go to exile - a boy, 6 or 8, and maybe a tee...

🔸 Richard knows this part, and has experience with somatic therapy, but not working with an IFS practitioner. (Though we did a session a few weeks prior via text!). This is a textbook convo, just meaning I don’t deviate from the script, and he responds in the most typical way. And that’s not to take away from the insight or depth, I think it added to it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing,...

🔸 Molly's moving quickly, consistently meeting and working with parts on her own. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Anxious, lonely, codependent, - in head and throat and chest - afraid molly won’t lead right, wants external validation - young - needs to be listened to more 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was working on following up from last week. Then didn’t. And ju...

🔸 Part: "hurry up, no time for parts check-ins." But then we meet the starving prisoner, and do a nice unburdening. Sorry about call quality, I'm driving. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - in prison and seem to be starving laying on the floor but once Joe started talking to it.… - It revealed that yes it had just been kind of starving for her attention, affection - thinks J...

🔸 This is self connecting with parts! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Multiple parts. - The ones that want to immigrate. - The ones that want to stay and fight. - And the ones that are still so sad about a lost friendship 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: a lot I could do better. It’s hard with time zones, language barrier, culture barrier, and even just time delay of dev...

🔸 A lively convo. Sonya knows this dictator part all too well. I get into some explaining, as this part is very no-nonsense and has little trust in being led by self. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Dictator. - Tension in the neck, head, shoulders, everywhere - Fear that the whole system is doomed, psychotic, irrational - Rather be relaxing - Thinks she is 5 or 10. - Ne...

🔸 Casey is a friend. A compulsive-eating part won’t speak, then vanishes entirely. Perservering, she finds something miraculous. We laughed! We cried! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The grasping, frantic part compelled to eat, it takes over. The Tasmanian devil - Afraid she will die. Won’t have fun. - rather be exploring, out meeting people, time without kids - thinks sh...

🔸 Minds blown! This call has it all. She thought the part was her! And I love hearing that she's doing the work with the 6-year-old. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The militant, the mountain, the wall. black and white, director of all decisions.  - spine, ever present  - afraid of other parts taking over, no safety  - rather be reading a book  - think...