Live IFS

🔸 She's back! I'm a little covid-y in this one. If the ending seems more awkward than usual, it's because we decided to talk non-IFS stuff, so that was cut out. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The resentful part. It starts with what she sees but feels like it’s in her hands. - it’s afraid that if she doesn’t share things with someone, they'll forgotten. It’s tired of star...

🔸 Aizhan is in Kazakhstan (and perhaps the first subscriber to the podcast!) The time difference presents some challenges. And I forgot to write a description of this call after recording it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes...

🔸 I'm nervous because I think I did a bad job the first time we talked. It helped that I expressed that to her pre-recording. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that tells her it’s silly to feel not good enough to do art - in the head, heavy - fears letting her be vulnerable - rather be helping her to do art! - needs patience. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I w...

🔸 Parts + parts + parts. We start with the target: a numbing part. But others won't step back. We go through the process with a different part, but another is present… We get to a joyful place in the end 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Parts don’t trust of the self. - first the numbing part, bt then anger - Feels like it’s in the head - afraid of the numbing - would rathe...

🔸 Will is not entirely new to IFS. His parts have names already. I'm hesitant to work with the 3 year old at first, so we spent some time picking a target. Ended up with his protector after all. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - An older part named Will, who seems to have something to do with this pain in the chest. - He's afraid if he doesn't act as shield or freeze, they'...

🔸 Is this outgoing part a firefighter? No trouble tapping-in, always interesting when working with someone for the first time. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The outgoing, need to connect part - Heart, jaw, stomach - Fear of being alone - Rather be creative, and allow her to just be - Age: teens - Needs to be listened to 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat wi...

🔸 Understanding the weed smoking part, protecting her from the depressed, lay on the couch part. We get to know them both and the external family they may be connected to. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - depressed lay on couch, despondent, like mother. - it's afraid of her father. afraid of the whole world being so difficult - rather be going to amusement park going on a...

🔸 I'm a little shook, feeling out of my depth here. Zoe presents with wanting to know an inner child. This one sent me back to the drawing board. #1: do no harm. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - Scared Inner child. And the part telling her to grow up. - Grow up part is above her - Its afraid she will go out and be hurt, shes too vulnerable - Thinks shes 7-8 - Needs reasurr...

🔸 There is a scared child in there. Our 2nd call, we go deeper, but still building trust. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - The part that wants to withdraw from everyone and everything - It is in the throat like something hard to swallow - It’s afraid if it doesn’t withdraw, she will be broken. - It is a teenager - He would rather be looking out appropriately. - It needs he...

🔸 An analyzing part has a good deal of input, but we'll talk again and I'll be better prepared for it : ) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Angela has a part that wants to reach out to her ex on the anniversary of their still-birth. And another part telling her no, thats not ok, that this feeling needs to be eradicated. Its in her stomach its afraid she will get conned again....

🔸 Great for a first call, I direct us toward the protector instead of the exile. Worst audio quality but it improves dramatically after the first ~25 episodes. Thanks for your patience 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Irritable, anger stomach vulnerability sending energy out, not in child proof 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help IF...

🔸 I make assumptions and push my point too much. Sorry, Fernando! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anxiety, but it is protecting from a heavier part: chaos chaos Is a purple sparkling cloud that says “you don’t like me/want me around!” It would rather be exploring the options and being adventurous It needs Fernando to I’ll listen to it and make a chaos list and have more fun...

🔸 With an exile here. We're now at the point where we hardly have to exchange words. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The falling part. Falling backward. The part that clings to a rollercoaster instead of throws hands up. its in her chest. its a little girl, huddling, hugging her knees, too afraid to look up. the world is just too scary. rather be on the rollercoaster, arms...

🔸 Notice the shift from "explainer" to compassionate, I love it. An author and podcaster in to horror, halloween... 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The righteous anger part. It's red, it needs to be grappled with. She has outlets, but it can still overwhelm when shes with people. In the heart. Its afraid for the hurt younger girl, she is helpless., she is misunderstood and...

🔸 I found this conversation difficult. Christopher gets into story-telling, analyzing, and my patience dwindles. But there was a shift somewhere in the convo, and we did meet and hear from parts! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The loop. The ocd constant reminders re safety Lives in neck Afraid he wont get the message Rather be solving other problems 3 years old Needs him t...

🔸 Efficient! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Curled up in chest. It wants her to work, creatively, to overcome depression. Thinks shes 32 cuz thats when depression got bad, suicidal It wants to go to the beach Let the teen out to play! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I started getting coachy toward the end. Before IFS, I did some professional "coaching", and I could tal...

🔸 Dawn is a visualizer, which makes for a good story, and can make my role easier. She has no trouble connecting and communicating with her parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Angry ball of fire Its afraid wicked step mother will harm her family and get away with it It wants to just be fire of passion, to go to projects. And it wants some compassion. 🎓 What I'd like to...

🔸 Our second call. The first one broke and is probably lost forever. It starts a little slow, but gets good! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Worry. its like a shadowy person right in front of him, blocking the way. Normally frustrated toward worry. Afraid he will get hurt. We didnt go to exile, but offered to. Worry wants to call bravery! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently:...

🔸 The lost Episode! This is the first IFS session I recorded for a public audience, before the podcast was conceived. I had been doing regular peer work with others for less than one month. Clare is a friend. This is our second time working together like this. This is also the only not-over-the-phone session (as of Dec '21), we are sitting together in her kitchen. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather...

🔸 Great convo, I think we were both in an excellent space. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Dull ache in lower back... maybe to do with imposter syndrom, fear of letting people down, especially when they back him. Feels nervous. It would rather be at peace and working in the academic and corporate side of his life, not protecting from the perceived attacks that come with bei...

🔸 A suicide attempt left him with a traumatic brain injury. He has names for many parts, including the part of himself that tried to kill him, and which he says he killed... He references his diagnosis of bipolar and OCD, and is well versed in CBT. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The "afraid i might try to kill myself again" part. (He has a lot of judgment about that, that...

🔸 Andrew brought a lot of curiosity and came alive in this call, but we didn't get past the frame of wanting to explain and "overcome". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Sweaty hands and feet, tight shoulders Afraid of feeling too good. has to suffer It just wants to retire, and it wasnt to be remembered. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Getting comfortable / confident in...

🔸 Chloe's experienced w energy work, is able to connect with and work with her parts quickly. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The trouble knowing where to go part, the "believe in me" part vs the "doubting" part. we worked with both Age: 7 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Chloe was analyzing parts' responses, and the responses were quick, like she was in a hurry or distr...

🔸 As usual Jo goes deep! Unburdens an exile 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 15 yo protector / exile, fear of abandonment. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Establish more connection. We were both a little confused with direction, in future I'd like to just name what's happening, and if she is in self-energy, ask her what's next. ----- 🙏PLEASE help IFS reach more people....

🔸 We meet an exile, and it's very sweet. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The pain and sadness of feeling not pretty enough, always jealous. She wants to supress it But theres a small part, behind her, tugging at her. A child It has a lot to show her - her father let drug users into her bedroom. She hugs the exile, it enters her heart, a pillow fight, they go to jupiter. 🎓...