Live IFS

🔸 Lots of protectors upfront. We work systematically, bringing some fresh insight from a 3 year old. We cover new ground like dealing with possible false memories. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I said something about killing the father, which triggered a "feeling judged" part in Jo. I was genuinely curious and we’ve worked together so much... Was it a misstep? ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedbac...

🔸 The anger and the anxiety. We let them play. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I told Daniel it would be fine for him to be late to our meeting, having forgotten that I had a pro scheduled to record right after. I was alerted to that mid-call, and it destroyed my focus. That's why I just kept deferring to him. If you're there, you got this. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback F...

🔸 Figuring out figuring out. An attempt at direct access. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The figuring out part, the others. see notes. Uncomfortable with meditation Set up to fail Blanking Fear of hurting others Rejection  ⬥ Rosie shared her parts list:   Exile:  Alone cuz me part  Sad/lonely/shame/terrified because  bad/difficult/burden/problem/wr...

🔸 Rachel is overwhelmed. We talk to anger, and circle exiles. I introduce the "self like" caregiver concept.  🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Just using my judgement about going ahead vs not. I suggested we go for "angry" even though she brought up "scared" first. It seemed like the more protective of the two. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: D...

🔸 Recent public speaking is stressing Ian's system. We perform an exorcism. (kidding!) 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The domineering angry lecturer at the podium Afraid others will fail if they don't get the message Rather be enjoying natural conversation Thinks Ian is 34 (older than real age). Sees lots of ages in audience of subjects Needs a friend 🎓 What I'd like to d...

🔸 A failed drug test provides a nice opportunity for parts work. We go straight to a 15 year old exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Sad being excluded from community age 15 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm sick today. IFS helps ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more peo...

🔸 Now what? 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had to keep attending to my own sad part: "Well, guess you don't need me anymore". More importantly, for me, is recognizing that this is also my frontier, I genuinely don't know what's next. But that's not anxiety, that's me. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems...

🔸 "Just being compassionate turned this little kid completely around." Daniel is relatively new to IFS. We meet lots of parts. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The overworker Right shoulder Afraid of being a loser on the street, aka worthlessness Needs to do more IFS 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Improve how I deal with explainer/analyzer parts. Sometimes I just let th...

🔸 The twelve year old feels lost in space, the drive to fill it protects, the organizer responds. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The judge of that ball of energy. Fears being scatterbrained, and its social consequences Rather be organizing, integrating Needs to be listened to! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: (I mention watching the clock as Brandon typically calls from...

Percy is a Harvard-Trained Psychiatrist, IFS Psychotherapist, and soon to be sex and relationship coach. His work with Psych Garden includes Psychedelic / Ketamine-Assisted therapies, though he believes many medications are overrated when compared to quality talk therapy. He cofounded Implicit Bias from the Outside-In, and worked with Black Therapists Rock, Fathers Uplift, and the IFS Collaborativ...

🔸 Worthlessness leads to anger leads leads to tears. We're covering a lot of ground, and contacting an exile, though parts blend with each other and Self. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Through much of this call I was pulled between teaching, yielding, and going forward. That first-time targeting of an exile may be the trickiest of all....

🔸 Jo: I can't do check-ins on my own. Me: prove it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Fear, three year old Head, clinging Afraid of not being able to help other young people or parts to be continued... 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people...

🔸 Rosie came back! I demonstrate yet again that the practitioner doesn't have to be very clever for IFS to work; the healing comes from you. Let's get to know this reactive part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Reactive to being told its not doing it right, among other things Afraid of choosing between non existence and being along Rather be expanding creatively Thinks she'...

🔸 Why do I do this? It's been a month: has Luke's work with the exile paid off? With a bundle of new diagnoses, is parts work relevant? And about this addict part... 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people....

🔸 A part that hates disappointing people, including me. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Around the heart Afraid of being cast out, socially Rather be brave and act as advisor Age: didn't ask, but there are connections to 8th grade 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm torn between following the script and improvising. I just worked with Emily Kerpelman and enjoyed her int...

🔸 Brandon does it his way. I feel like a passenger on an excursion far from the beaten path, but with a driver I trust completely. I play 'count the parts' and just enjoy the ride. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The 7 year old wants to break the rules, throw eggs The 12 year old is afraid he'll look an idiot, and that Brandon isn't responsible enough to be around the...

Emily is a Personal Development Coach and Level 1 Certified IFS Practitioner.  Her coaching method is centered around listening, providing guidance and clarity, honesty and transparency. She sees coaching not as therapy, consulting or teaching, but a combination of all three.   Website: https://ek.coach 🔸 James investigates physical wellbeing, the parts that fight over his time spent on...

🔸 ""You're not allowed to have fun"" part, we learn more about where that comes from. Plus babies. But first a followup: the ""no boundaries"" part got a win! I get the feeling that the closer Jo gets to caring for babies, the better, and we're full-on here. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): You dont get to have fun part. Jaw, throat Afraid she will end up back in the psych w...

🔸 A whirlwind of parts. I scramble for footing. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Alone, not good enough → Prove I'm good enough → Blank out the emotions. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Yes I sincerely enjoyed this conversation, yes it was challenging, and I think I made plenty of mistakes. What do you think? Total failure? Moderate failure?  A part says: "Weak. I s...

🔸 Rachel sees an IFS therapist, but thinks they may have hurried through some steps (protectors before exiles). We get to know those protectors, and it's wonderful. We explore some aspects of the process more deeply; perhaps a good illustration for anyone new to IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The projecting into the future part Afraid of being alone, not good enough R...

🔸 Productivity > stress > freeze > flatten/avoid. Amazing how similar these patterns are in so many of us, and how profound an introduction of Self is to that cycle… But what’s in that snow globe?? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Freeze, chest, fear of the system collapsing like an old building Rather be free Thinks he’s 6 Flatten/avoid/distract, similar fear. Rath...

🔸 We aim for the angry firefighter, but managers don't want us to go there. The exile is so close. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My response to repeated blending was to stay quiet, non-reactive. I would have been more by-the-book, and guarded more against blending, if I didn't trust Brandon's process and know he's doing the work. That's...

🔸 New parts? Sexual harassment triggers Jo’s firey protector, who could relax if this “afraid to set boundaries part” wasn't so afraid… these parts are young young, we do some unburdening 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): This second part, exiley, is like a holocaust victim. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come cha...

🔸 The Exile. We’re at full power. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The exile, the boy in the sandbox Age 4 or 5 Needs are simple 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I almost lost it! Hooray for the buddy system! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a ratin...

🔸 A part says “your crazy”, but an irritated protector doesn’t want us to go there. It then reveals an exile of helplessness. We also meet a scared part, and the exile behind “crazy” of loneliness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I learn so much from calls like this. She shows up with multiple parts but sees and expresses each so clearly....