Live IFS

🔸 Got 'em! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Exile: "I've been waiting here all my life" Age 10 It's not ok to just be yourself, to fuck up, to not know 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We could have talked less. We were excited.  And now I'm more certain than ever that calling-back to last convo, exile, is maybe the most important thing I can do. Keep holding the thr...

🔸 The anger. The isolator. The little boy. The disassociator. Bullied, misunderstood, alone, yelled at, bored. We got a great map, and make contact with the exile. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: (Here is the shoveler that I confused with Ian call # 121) His responses were slow I had lots of time to think of 5 next questions, so I'm not s...

🔸 The little boy is at it again. Busy busy. Some wandering around trailheads, then connection is formed. We both try to get creative around killing that monster. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): busy boy chest neck jaw Have to stay busy or the monster comes 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I'm rusty from a couple-week hiatus, don't want to do that again. ----- 🗳 Send anon...

🔸 Rage shows up when it's not wanted. How is it connected to the sprinter, the panic, the black hole of worthlessness? And did he have that convo with his wife? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Rage Clenched jaw, tense face Fear of the panic Rather be competing athletically Something happened at age 6. Needs more physical play and challenges, more spontaneity 🎓 What I&#...

🔸 What does a firefighter see? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Addicted to internet/YouTube. right side the terror… rather be relaxing age 0? needs more! More time, more love. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: The past day or two, I've been intensively studying and diagnosing a chronic health issue of mine. Surprise! The more we love ourselves the more we can love others....

🔸 Jane's been with an IFS therapist for 6 months, so when she shows up today with an exile, we go straight through. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 2nd grade, guilt, shame. Having to be an adult back of throat afraid of not being acknowledged, understood, not being able to enjoy the things she loves, her sister's wellbeing needs to hang out with Self, free to sing and dance...

🔸 This is different. I try to make good on my commitment to followup with an exile, but that "shoveler" was from the wrong notes, wrong caller. Sorry, Ian. Still, Self is present & we make progress, but how many of us are in the room…? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Ok I need a better note-taking system.  As a student, I see so...

🔸 Jo reports some healing since contacting the baby; what a shift In this protector! We do a lot of just talk about IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The part that doesn’t want to do checkins Head, shoulders Afraid important stuff won’t get done and so we won’t be loved Rather be at the beach Needs Jo to do the checkins! 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I committed to...

🔸 Is LiveIFS a cult? Deception, marriage. Parts are still a'rumblin', but compare this to our first call. He's doing the work; will it pay off? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The part that omits/deceives In the jaw/face, numb Afraid of being unlovable, afraid of the unknown in other's thoughts Needs to have this conversation with wife. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: P...

🔸 What is boredom? We start with a big bundle and quickly zero in, creating a new relationship and insight with a protector. Afterwards, Alexander asks some great questions about IFS and I share some tips for anyone just starting their parts-work journey. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Butterflies re: the end of summer and the golden hour Chest Fear of wasting life, fear o...

🔸 The critic is here now, at work, everywhere. Elena has been playing with IFS for a few months. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The critic Chest/hiccups Afraid of judgement Rather be playing Thinks shes 5 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Was I too hard on the figuring-out part? In the past I have given these type of parts more space, particularly with first time callers...

🔸 The rage, the suppressor of rage, and the hurt part underneath them. With her experience and clarity, a part of me worries I'll waste her time, just going through the motions. We're delighted to be proven wrong! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The rage, the fire Afraid of the injustices, to others and herself Rather be a powerful policeman, alert, without the fire Thinks...

🔸 New parts! Distracted from self care. Exiles protecting exiles, the 4 year old keeps the baby from crying. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 4 yo boy busy mending toys Fear of monster coming back, keeping the baby from crying Rather be playing at amusement park Needs Jo to stay w the baby 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was prepared to try some new things today. But h...

🔸 Amanda sees an IFS therapist, though they also use other modalities. Her familiarity with the model shows; we advance through many layers here. Shifting protectors, back to first one, finding an exile, then 3! 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): - overeating.... and then others 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Famil...

🔸 Lightning Round! Can we get anywhere in 20 mins? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send James anonymous feedback about this call: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube

🔸 A royal rumble of parts! I'm sure a few of my own are in the mix. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: At times I felt like I was being too pushy and talkative, not so warm and receptive. But I had some context about Luke, he told me how much he has studied IFS and how much he has listened to the podcast, so I felt more free to push when som...

🔸 A bullying critic fights the one who wants romance, and has no idea who the Self is. We're led to a 5 year old, abandoned. Suicidal and achy parts chime in too. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The critic Afraid of having his heart broken. Rather be cutting loose w people Thinks he’s 5 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 🗳 Send James anonymous feedback about this cal...

🔸 Feelings of worthlessness, sadness. I'm trying some new things. Careful not to push past protectors. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): the teen protector saying don’t go to sad part  the sad exile, seems also a teen. Feelings of worthlessness 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had Derek Scott in my head. 1. “My client is the child” 2. Being the pit bull for it 3. Tr...

🔸 The neurotic part and the bullies. The 10 year old, neglected and alone. We jump around a lot in this convo, perhaps well-outside the IFS framework. Still, the parts are all there, more clear, relaxed and ready for more. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I had a thoroughly exhausting day and week, then we spent the first 20 minutes battli...

🔸 Lots of parts and thoughts at first. Tension between the pleasure seeker and its critic. There's an exile behind it all, but we stay with protector #1 in this call 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):  pleasure seeker  afraid of feelings of emptiness, boredom   rather be.. more disciplined? is that true?  thinks hes a teen - needs more time and attenti...

Jen is a Level 3 IFS Practitioner, a former scientist with a doctorate in biology, and a CrossFit coach. She’s committed to helping people both find self-compassion and healing within themselves and to spreading that self-compassion and healing power to others.   https://wearemultitudes.xyz   nstagram: https://www.instagram.com/wholeness.uncovered/ ----- 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PL...

🔸 "So used to not being wanted." We negotiate with two protectors: "don't-trust" and its critic. They're trying to solve the same problem, and let us go to even younger exiles than we've met before. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The exiles: always feeling let down, ignored, and feeling like there must be something wrong with her.   Age ~3 and infancy.  They need...

🔸 An exile behind convulsions, afraid of dad, ashamed of desire to kill him. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): overwhelmed, convulsion all over body vibrating  afraid to let his guard down  rather be on the beach  age 14  needs to still stay sharp… but hugs are good too 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: ----- 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help In...

🔸 It’s been 2 months since we last talked. We're jumping around a bit in this convo. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): panicking about forming a new group  a teen, head and heart  afraid of me telling her she cant  maybe protecting a baby too 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Sometimes I just don't know where to go. Maybe another reason to offer revisiting pr...

Rebecca is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, founder and director at Montana School of Hypnotherapy, and a Level 3 Certified IFS Practitioner. Her passion is helping people to love themselves from the inside, find joy in the present moment, and move into loving acceptance of what is. She is grateful to have the opportunity to use this knowledge to empower others and assist them in making positive changes...