Live IFS

🔸 "...it's all made up" The Skeptic doesn't trust me, the process, or Justine. Justine takes the direct route, attains Hubble-vision. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The skeptic, "No one can be trusted". Thinks she's 3. The exile: pain around the heart. The sea anemone, the nebula. Nestled in. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was ext...

🔸 Worthlessness parts came up as result of last call. We talk about our work together, and concerns about public Discord conversations, then attempt to go to it, but "beating myself up" keeps coming in. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): "Beating self up" Afraid she'll go along with others' decision, not take care of herself Thinks she's 12? Needs Rachel's presence, and for he...

🔸 "Everything being taken away" a 2 year old in a hurricane, whose wants haven't mattered. We discuss "agendas". 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Protector afraid "I would drop all my wants, if it doesn't do it's job, I wouldnt exist at all." Exile "afraid it will pretend it will go along", it just wants quiet moments. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form...

🔸 Possible ADHD diagnosis brings up "Not good enough" exile. "Blocking / fear of freaking out" and "Agenda" show up along the way. Strategies for solo parts work. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Agenda: concerned about blocking parts, won't be able to manage. And concerned about not getting results from this process. Blocking needs to know it will be respected, concerned co...

🔸 A grownup protector-in-exile: "back to bed", sick-mentality.  🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): P: Superhero, formerly called Wonder Woman, wants to do all the tasks, minimize and forget the pain, "prove I'm ok" P/E: Go back to bed, not worth it. Too scary. Too much to do. Might still be sick. Nothing I do makes a difference. No help, no one understood. Couldn't take c...

🔸 Salvation. The Devil. A sliver of light. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Doubt about getting into routine "Last is not an option". Spiritual healing The Devil. Keeps the 3 year old. Fear of "not knowing what to do" The 3 year old... ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people....

🔸 "The truest essence" 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Anger and grief (one part) lead us to "tired of being judged", apprx 4 years old. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was lagging behind, and a lot of what I said didn't come out right. Partly because fasting, brain at half power. There's also just a lot going on. For example, with exile we have the stressed out part...

🔸 Somatic therapist & yoga teacher since 2000, Islena Faircrest is an IFS & trauma informed transformational coach, serving clients globally via zoom. She facilitates the healing power of learning secure attachment in relationships, and aids individuals & families in their healing journey towards empowered living.     A mother of two young adults, and former doula and p...

🔸 Feeling threatened by her daughter. Hopelessness, judgement, the 13 year old, and the parts she protects. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 13 year old Afraid of becoming her mother, and pushing down these wants from younger times, perhaps exemplified by Mio's daughter at age 5 Rather be Laughing, hugging, twirling in a pretty dress, relaxing. Carefree! Thinks Mio is 45 (ag...

🔸 Shaming, anxiety and plenty of others have objections to Olivia's excitement about IFS. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Shaming (manager), and Frustrated with Shaming Exile: "my needs, being myself, is too much for them" Caretaker Agenda "hurry up", change them Shaming thinks shes 11, needs Olivia to spend more time understanding. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: My fi...

🔸 Anxiety about the job that starts next week, but coming from a different part. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 12 year old. Forced to be over achiever, fake it. Too many moves, too many hard classes and high expectations from dad. Afraid he’ll, they’ll point and laugh 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I didn't ignore either, but still wondering if we should focus more o...

🔸 The "thinking part" holds it all together, and points to an exile in utero. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Thinking part, always active Tightness head, face, eyes, jaw, brain Afraid nothing would get done, a nonfunctioning heap, and perhaps abandonment, loneliness Needs: Simple! Just "how are you?" every day 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Spotty internet connection...

🔸 A check-in check-in and the judge judge. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The judge of others The judge of the judge 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Listening back a couple weeks later I hear the frustration in my tone. I might say "there's not a right or wrong answer" but my tone can imply that I think there is.  I could hear those parts in her being triggered, b...

🔸 The pressure of going along with external, inconsistent beliefs. We pick up where we left off and find an exile (who protects another) to unburden. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 17 - 21 year old, protecting the middle-schooler Chest and throat Feels horrible, alone, misunderstood, lost. Rather be skiing! Needs occasional check-in, to be reminded that she doesn't have to...

🔸 Addiction, survival, the animal in the zoo, conscious blending. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: We didn't set out to do IFS today so I didn't prepare in my usual ways. Ian just had his wisdom teeth removed yesterday is somewhat sedated. Not sure what I would have done differently, just making note. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE...

🔸 Concerns about a new job, that she won’t know what to do and will be shamed. A three-year-old who always has to know things (or pretend to) goes through an unburdening. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPho...

🔸 Through a sandstorm we arrive with an exile*, murderous rage says it wants out, and we get creative in handling overwhelm.  *I assume 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Running from danger, "We need to save me" protects/related to: Hopelessness "you'll get nowhere" and anger "you didn't want us so we don't want you". Suppression of rage. Anger toward parents. Anger towa...

🔸 Still a part feeling left out. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Feeling rushed during unburdening is tough, but I take responsibility for it. To prevent in future: 1. spend less time chatting pre-session. 2. be more efficient / direct in targeting.  As far as being efficient with exile, I think slow is fast. For example, notice we came to "the mother" last? Mother and Brother in one re-...

🔸 Another lightning round. A Protector → Protector → Exile setup? The driven one, the void, and what lies beneath: a lot of pain. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Void Afraid if it doesn't do it's job, Brandon ceases to exist Rather be comfortable Needs Brandon to bridge the disconnect 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I've had some difficulty following Brandon in the...

🔸 "I'm getting a new friend!" Mio has done a little parts work with a therapist, but never like this. Powerful.  She said later: "This session has gotten me to a new depth, it's actually so simple, and so essential. I have worked with and diaried about it, but I'vve never been able to unpack it." 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): To be loved without being abandoned 🎓 Wh...

🔸 Two teams battle over an exile who doesn't want to be alive. We go for it. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The Director, action taker, and planning part The Resistance: "no action", "no planning", and "avoid, go outside" The exile: "Life is hard, there's no point", wants a new family 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I was eager to address the resistance parts, but she...

🔸 A new record? 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): 1. Afraid of overwhelm 2. Fear of being misunderstood Exiles: Worthlessness, ashamed of free and open play, "I shouldn't exist" 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: There were a couple times where I made assumptions or could have listened more closely, to be even more efficient! Note: it may have sounded like I was merely encou...

🔸 "Oh it's you, mommy" 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): The possessive part doesn't want to share (the attention) The 6-7 year old feels worthless 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I felt like I was on the edge of being too insistent, especially once the blocking part came up, but we did it! ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Disco...

🔸 Abstract! A manager/critic that can't go along with contentedness. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Toothy gear. Throat Rather be sippin juice Age 8, knows Ian's real age Needs supervision 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I enjoyed the convo. It was not typical, but I'm not sure what I would have done differently. Technical difficulties were distracting (internet went o...

🔸 Parts-work hangovers, and meeting the critic. 🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs): Critic, maybe overlapping with Anger Upper body Afraid of being misled, also of feeling diminished, confused Rather be relaxing Thinks she's 14 Needs Aandraya to speak up 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I didn't call it a "figuring out part" in this convo, maybe I should have been more direc...