Let's Talk About Love, Sex & Infidelity

In today's episode, I'm diving deep into one of the most important questions I get: when there's been a discovery of infidelity, when do we need therapy? What kind of therapy? What makes sense? I'll be blunt with you - I think you always need therapy after infidelity. Here's why: it's so painful that emotions completely take over. Friends or family may not always be t...

One of the most common questions I get from betrayed partners: "Todd, do I need to separate from my partner to get clarity? Do I need to separate to have self-dignity?" And I completely understand why people ask this. When you discover infidelity, your nervous system goes into shock. You can't think straight. You're so agitated by your partner's presence that all you want...

After you discover infidelity, everything changes. The sacred boundary around your couple has been ruptured by secrets, and now you need to rebuild it from the ground up. But what does that actually look like day-to-day? In this episode, I walk you through the specific boundaries that are needed post-discovery so that healing can happen and your relationship can thrive again. And I need to be clea...

One of the most painful questions I get asked: "Todd, how do I forgive my partner after they cheated on me?" It feels like a monumental task when you've been so hurt, so tossed around, so dishonored by your partner's secrets. Here's what I want you to know right up front - you don't have to forgive. That's totally up to you. But if you can, it makes you feel bett...

In this episode infidelity expert Todd Creager discusses one of the hardest questions you're grappling with right now: How do you know when your partner who betrayed you is actually becoming safe again?  You thought they were trustworthy before, and then your whole world got turned upside down. I hear this all the time from my couples - "I never thought my partner would be capable of doi...

What happens when your partner hasn't just cheated once, but multiple times?  If you're dealing with serial infidelities, I know you're asking yourself some really painful questions: "What's wrong with me?" "Why do they keep cheating on me?" "Was any part of our relationship even real?" And here's the thing - after decades of working with thou...

Have you ever noticed how your partner can turn you into a defensive teenager faster than anyone else on the planet? Hi everybody, this is Todd Creager. Picture this: You're a successful adult who handles boardroom meetings, manages a household, and navigates life's challenges with confidence. But then your spouse gives you some feedback, and suddenly you're feeling like a scared 6-...

Todd's sharing a conversation that could completely change how you think about betrayal and recovery. He recently interviewed Lora Cheadle, a betrayal recovery coach and attorney who discovered her husband's 15-year affair. What drew him to Lora is that she speaks from a deeper place about infidelity—challenging the rigid ideas that keep people stuck rather than helping them heal. Here&a...

In this episode, Todd Creager shares insights you probably won't find in most relationship books or articles - discoveries he's made from three decades of working with couples about how childhood attachment patterns can directly impact sexual desire in adults. This isn't typical relationship advice. These are real patterns Todd has observed in his practice that help explain why some...

Have you ever wondered why some people turn to addictions while others don't? In this eye-opening episode, I dive deep into the fascinating connection between our attachment styles and addictive behaviors. Drawing from my years of experience as a therapist, I explain how the way we were nurtured as children impacts our emotional regulation and potentially our relationship with addictive subst...

Have you noticed that kissing has taken a backseat in your relationship?  As a relationship expert who's helped countless couples rekindle their passion, I've discovered that many couples who once shared passionate kisses now rarely lock lips – some haven't kissed in months or even years. In this episode, I dive deep into the science and emotion behind kissing, sharing why this inti...

 In this episode, Infidelity expert Todd Creager explores the crucial connection between attachment styles and infidelity - a topic he's helped thousands of couples navigate throughout my career. Drawing from his extensive experience as a relationship expert, Todd helps you understand how your early attachment patterns might be influencing your current relationship dynamics and potentially co...

In today's episode, I'm discussingsomething I see constantly in my therapy practice - attachment styles and how they profoundly impact our intimate relationships. As this topic becomes increasingly mainstream, I want to help you understand what your attachment style means for your relationships and, most importantly, how you can develop healthier patterns. In this episode, you'll di...

In this episode Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager is diving deep into something he's observed over decades of working with couples - the devastating hidden costs of not addressing broken communication patterns in your relationship.  Having worked with countless couples, he's seen how unresolved communication issues can slowly erode what was once a sacred connection, leading...

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over, despite how much you love each other? In this powerful episode, I dive deep into why love alone isn't enough to break free from repetitive conflict patterns and what you can do to create lasting change in your relationship. Here's what you'll discover: • The surprising reason why we get stu...

In this powerful episode of the Let's Talk About Love, Sex and Infidelity podcast, I'm going to share why those moments when you freeze up, explode, or feel emotionally flooded aren't signs that you're broken – they're actually your nervous system trying to protect you. Through my years of experience as a therapist, I've seen countless individuals and couples transfor...

Ever wonder why talking about relationship problems sometimes makes things worse?  In this  episode, Todd Creager therapist and relationship expert shares why "just talking about it" isn't always the solution – and what you can do instead.  He's seen countless couples struggle with communication, only to end up more frustrated than when they started. But there's hope, and...

In this episode,  Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager dives deep into what our parents (and society) never taught us about healthy love.  Just like we take golf lessons to improve our swing or attend medical school to become doctors, shouldn't we learn how to create and maintain healthy relationships?  Drawing from my 40+ years of experience as a relationship expert, I share why mo...

Have you ever wished you could stop an argument with your partner before it spirals out of control? In this episode, I share powerful insights on how to hit the pause button on conflicts before they even begin. Drawing from my 40 years of experience as a relationship therapist, I'll show you how to transform potentially explosive situations into opportunities for deeper connection. In this ep...

Ever wonder why your partner seems to be listening but isn't really hearing you? In this eye-opening episode, I reveal the fascinating neurochemical reason behind why your partner tunes out during conversations or gets defensive when you're trying to communicate. As someone who's worked with countless couples (and experienced this in my own marriage!), I'll explain why it'...

In this episode, I'm diving deep into the intimate connection between communication and sexual satisfaction. As a sex therapist, I've seen how great communication can transform couples' sex lives - and it's not just about talking! I'll show you how both verbal and non-verbal communication can create the intensity and connection needed for an extraordinary intimate relation...

In this episode, I'm diving into something that's absolutely crucial for keeping your relationship vibrant and alive - playfulness! While we're naturally playful during courtship, many couples lose that spark once they settle into the routine of committed life. But here's the thing - playfulness isn't about expensive vacations or grand gestures; it's about using your...

In this podcast episode, I'm going to guide you through the essential process of creating a safe space to heal from trauma. As someone who has worked with thousands of trauma survivors, I know firsthand how challenging yet crucial it is to establish both internal and external safety for genuine healing to begin. In this episode, you'll discover: • Simple yet powerful techniques to create...

In this  episode, I share how love can be the most potent healing force for trauma. Drawing from my decades of experience as a relationship expert and therapist, I share deep insights about how paying attention with care - which is my definition of love - can transform trauma healing, whether it's in therapy, relationships, or self-love. Tune in and you'll discover: - Why having someone...

 In this episode of The Let's Talk About Love & Sex and Infidelity Podcast, I'm diving deep into the three most common ways partners lose trust in their relationships. As a relationship expert who has worked with thousands of couples, I've seen how these trust-breaking behaviors can damage even the strongest bonds - but I've also witnessed remarkable healing when partners a...