Let's Relieve Regret: Honest conversations for women who are tired of overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism and carrying emotional baggage.

Send us Fan Mail During the check-in this week, Shadoe is at a 4/10 since she still has a lingering cold. But, her Cause For Applause is that she is getting better!  Victoria is in much better spirits and her Cause For Applause is Ben and James from Tori's Bakeshop. One day, Shadoe and Victoria will visit this cafe together and both drink Heavenly Cream tea.  To skip the check-in, please jump...

Send us Fan Mail We start with our check-in, which includes the different levels of friendliness in Toronto neighbourhoods. Cause for Applause this week: finding the joy in the snow. Skip to 10:01 to get straight to the regrets. Victoria opens up about mistaking self-confidence for self-worth. Luckily, her physiotherapist helped tweak her path to a more balanced way of living.  Shadoe opens up abo...

Send us Fan Mail Have you been wondering how to be a guest on Lets Relieve Regret?  Find out how in this episode! Step 1: fill out the Guest Application Form   Step 2: pre-interview with Victoria or Shadoe to review any questions and set up a time to record. Step 3: Receive the Regret Worksheet to help guide you in writing your regret and relief statements.  (You are free to write and paraphrase i...

Send us Fan Mail This episode starts with a quick discussion of the sarcastic reel Shadoe posted on her IG . This episode was recorded on Groundhog Day; a day that Shadoe has hated in the past! This year, she wants to lean into the fun and joy that this day brings for people. During our check-ins, we discuss this in more detail. Victoria also explains how to use Instagram to stay in the present mo...

Send us Fan Mail During this episode, Victoria opens up about the impacts of Seasonal Affective Disorder ( SAD ) and Shadoe explores lingering regret about her art project; " The Word Fat ".  As always, we start with our check-in.  This week that includes:   mega-sleep  puns human connection Then, Victoria shares a cause for applause about the latest episode , a letter from Nurse Alex. (...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we welcome Alex Burcea . Alex is Victoria's sister-in-law and a compassionate, wonderful person that shared with us a regret about putting herself last. As always, we start the episode with our check-ins and cause for applause. This week, that includes catching up with an old friend (Shadoe), presenting at a panel event (Victoria) and Doing Something NEW on h...

Send us Fan Mail  Welcome to Season 4! On this episode, we welcome Nadia Shahbaz. Nadia Shahbaz is a writer and former news producer of Afghan and Italian heritage. Her work has been published in a variety of magazines and illuminated on buildings in New York City. She is currently working on a novel on her Sicilian family’s fascist past. She also runs a community writing studio and newsletter on...

Send us Fan Mail It was our 1st Anniversary on November 17, 2023! The lead up was so exciting!! A year, already?! Wowee!   And then the day came, and we didn't feel like celebrating. Both of us were only feeling around a 5/10 and thought about postponing the recording until a day we felt better.  However, we want to make sure that we avoid Toxic Positivity and follow our own advice of you can...

Send us Fan Mail During this episode, Victoria and Shadoe welcome Urmi Hossain to the show.  Read more about Urmi following the episode description. Episode Description:  As always, we start with our check-in and discuss Wonder Walks. Wonder Walks are a way to tap-in to our sense of playfulness and joy on something as simple as a daily walk.  Seeking something new each day to stay in the present m...

Send us Fan Mail In this short podcast episode, Victoria explains Toxic Positivity. Toxic Positivity is a way we try to stay upbeat. However, toxic positivity can lead to losing empathy instead of actually helping someone feel better. In this episode, Victoria provides examples of toxic positivity as as well as an alternative way to connect with others and ourselves. We want to feel the lighter em...

Send us Fan Mail In our check-in, we discuss making adjustments to things we love in order to sustainably keep them. For example, Shadoe recently invested in necklace extenders and has been able to upcycle heirloom jewelry. Victoria's cause for applause is seeing the sunrise.  We then all talk about the power of routine. (spoiler alert, Shadoe gets BORED when this happens). To skip the check-...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, it is our absolute pleasure to welcome our second guest, Sonam Singh!  More About Sonam Singh  Sonam is a licensed and registered psychotherapist (qualifying) at Shifting Your State Therapy. Having used her experience as an elementary school teacher, she began practicing a year ago as a licensed therapist and loves the work she does. She empowers her clients throu...

Send us Fan Mail In this mini-episode, Victoria explains the difference between guilt, shame and regret.  She also explains the four types of regret: foundation, boldness, moral and connection.  As this is a mini-episode, there is no check in and no three breaths of letting go. However, these are available in all regular length episodes!  Support the show Thank you for listening! CHECK OUT THE 10-...

Send us Fan Mail "Never underestimate the power of sleep, sunshine and water". We start this episode with a correction regarding the tree story Shadoe told in the previous episode. Victoria then gives an update about how her sleep experiment is going so far! We also chat about crisp fall weather and a few magical moments we saw at the lake.  To skip the check-in and get right to the regr...

Send us Fan Mail "Are you here for battle?" During this episode, our check-in includes Head of the Trent stories, embarrassing moments and axe-throwing. We also talk about unseasonable warmth and how to prep for winter. >> Click here to join the 'Worry Free and Joyful Living' Facebook Group. Members of this group have access free Motivational Monday  video calls! At 14:22...

Send us Fan Mail "Measure with your own yardstick." In this episode, both of us have regrets to share about our small businesses.  As always, we start with our check-in; discussing the classic would you rather question "Would You Rather Be Too Hot or Too Cold?".   Jump to 11:37 to skip the check-in and get into our regrets.  Shadoe goes first - opening up about the frustration...

Send us Fan Mail "Our brains need outside support. We need outside perspective to function as a human being."  Welcome to a new season of Lets Relieve Regret! In this episode, we talk about how our brains can trick us.  As always, we start with our check-in. This episode was recorded in mid-July, just before the Barbie movie came out. This impacts the episode in more ways than one! To sk...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we answer questions from our listeners and wrap up season two. As always, we start with a check-in. To skip this and get right to the Q's and A's, start the episode at 15:31. Questions include: When did you meet?  How long have you been friends?  Why are you never at a 2 out of 10 during check-in?  Do you use templates?  Can I be on the podcast?  Season...

Send us Fan Mail "No marriage is perfect, but most of the time its pretty great." This week, we are re-releasing our very first episode!  It's all about our weddings!!  To skip the intro and check-in, jump to 7:58.  Shadoe regrets planning her own wedding and not knowing how to ask for help.  Victoria regrets not standing up to one of her family members.  As always, we end with our...

Send us Fan Mail "This feels like a charley horse of emotional growth". To skip our check-in, skip to 12:31.  Shadoe talks about choosing easy hobbies.  Around the 37:00 minute mark, we also calculate how many hours are available in a week (168!) Victoria then teaches us about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria and Recognition Response Euphoria. Then, she opens up about a pattern she has of...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode; we talk about the 'fake' beaches in Toronto and planning for vacations.  We also talk about the 'perfect' month for your birthday.  Does everyone wait a full year for their birthday or is it just the December babies?  To skip our check in, jump to Victoria's share at 15:15.  This is the opposite of a regret!  It's a rowing story relat...

Send us Fan Mail "Wherever I go, I go."  In this episode, we are so excited to introduce Ana Alexandre, creator of the Vitalicious Nutrition Program. Ana and Victoria have been good friends for a long time! As always, we start with our check-in, share two regrets and end with our three breaths of letting go. The difference is that only one host will share and then our guest will share to...

Send us Fan Mail This week we talk about transitioning to a 'real' wardrobe after years of comfy clothes.  To skip the check-in, please fast forward to 13:33.  Victoria opens up about undercharging for her services when she started her business! This leads to an interesting conversation about value and how to keep our cup full.  Shadoe opens up about not trying stand-up comedy and how it...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is all about that hard-to-define line between a social connection (like a colleague) and an emotional connection (like your longest friendships).  We open this episode talking about how we both feel calm and content this week. Regular listeners will know that is rare for us!  To skip the check-in and get right to our regret letters, please start the episode at 13:24. ...

Send us Fan Mail >>>>  Click here for your FREE PASS to Victoria's Letting Go Class! Welcome back everyone! Both of us are feeling energized by being outside again!!   This is a super fun episode.  If you were a teenager in the 90s you will likely laugh a few times and nod your head more than once! During the check-in; Victoria tells us all about how much Spring Cleaning she has b...