I Care About You

I thought today I would share something with you that comes up for me often. I think it is something we all struggle with, regardless of who we are. I am talking about feeling ugly physically. I know it sounds so superficial and trite, but I think it is something that can be damaging to us and our lives as a whole. Ugly can be physical, mental or emotional or a combo. Often if we feel ugly in one...

Today, we are talking about problems we have with building relationships and staying connected, which is often referred to as Relationship Avoidance. It isn't that we aren’t friendly or nice, but rather that we struggle to have deep relationships, build friendships, and make long-lasting connections. Why do we have difficulty connecting with others on a deep level? Why do we have trouble forging f...

This is a remastered version of an earlier podcast. What am I doing here? The struggle is too hard. Everyone is suffering. I am suffering. There is no end insight. I tell myself it will improve, but I secretly do not believe it. I am lost. I thought I knew what was going on, but I didn’t. Feeling hopeless, like nothing you can do, will make anything better? Maybe you feel you will never get over s...

Welcome to the "I Care About You" podcast, where we dive deep into topics that enhance your well-being and empower your life. In this episode, we explore the art of manifesting your desires through visualization, meditation, gratitude, and overcoming limiting beliefs. Join us as we uncover practical strategies to align your thoughts and actions with your aspirations, fostering a journey of persona...

Welcome to part 3 of our three-part mind traps episode. This is the I Care About You podcast, and today, we are discussing mind traps. For the sake of this series, the mind traps we are talking about are beliefs that you use to govern your choices and decision-making. They also affect your views of people and the world. We think these beliefs are truths due to biases, experiences, and past events....

Ever wonder why you think the way you do? Today, on the I Care About You Podcast, in part 2 of the discussion, we review 5 more cognitive biases that shape your thinking. We talk about how they work and why you might be using them to support your own beliefs or define things—even when you might be wrong. This can help you better understand your relationships and why people think as they do. Knowin...

Part 1 of a 3 part series Ever wonder why you think the way you do? Today on the I Care About You Podcast, we are talking about cognitive biases that shape your thinking. We discuss: What is a bias? 5 types of biases How they work Why might you be using them to support your own beliefs or define things—even when you might be wrong? How to spot them in others PREORDER MY BOOK REASONS TO LIVE: https...

Are you experiencing gaslighting? Has chronic exposure to gaslighting affected your ability to thrive? Are you suffering? Today on the I Care About You Podcast, we will discuss What gaslighting is? Why do people do it, How to recognize it when it happens. How to respond when it happens. If you feel you are suffering from domestic abuse (be sure to clear this from your computer if you are in danger...

Investing in yourself means putting your time, effort, and resources into your personal development and well-being, with the expectation that those investments will yield a positive return in all aspects of your life1. It’s about intentionally nurturing your skills, knowledge, and mindset to become a more experienced, well-rounded individual. offered in this episode of the I Care About You Podcast...

We are hardwired to seek friendships and connections. When we feel we do not have these things, we feel lonely. Friendships are a relationship of equality. They are essential for feeling valued. Without friendships, we feel alone, but other relationships can also create connections. We need close friends, tribes, and acquaintances to find belonging. Today on the The I Care About You Podcast, we ar...

Recently, I have been reflecting on a long-term relationship I have and why I am so resentful about things that happened long ago. Every time something happens that reminds me of my resentment, it all comes right back, and I am mad all over again. This led me to a few questions I had never considered before: Why do we have resentment? How does it start? How is it impacting my life? How do I get ri...

Today, we are talking about toxic positivity, how it differs from optimistic behavior, its effects, and how you can overcome its lasting effects and get in touch with your feelings. We will be talking about~ What is toxic positivity? How do you recognize toxic positivity? A few of the harmful effects of Toxic Positivity What do you do if you feel that toxic Positivity is part of your life or histo...

Today on the I Care About You Podcast, we are talking about being too hard on ourselves and ways to shift. We are all hard on ourselves sometimes. It is hard not to be. We live in a world of high competition. From a young age, we are taught to compete with one another. While casual competition can be “healthy,” we often see competition becoming too extreme. We have all been to a children’s basebal...

Everyone feels shame. How do you deal with it? Shame is a natural response. We all experience shame. It is when shame becomes extreme, internalized and we start to use it against ourselves that it affects our lives that it becomes a problem. In this episode of the I care about you podcast we are talking about shame. Are you experiencing shame that is affecting your life in a negative way? Let&rsqu...

Many of us struggle to find happiness at work. We end up moving from one job to the next, trying to find a work environment that will bring us joy. We often wonder why other people at work seem so happy and the rest are not. Today on the I Care About You podcast, we are talking about how to find happiness at work. I have been in many jobs where I was dissatisfied. Ultimately I thought getting a ne...

One of the best ways to overcome a mindset that is holding you back is to get out of your comfort zone. Our comfort zone can often become something that isn't good for us, isn’t serving us, and could even be damaging to our happiness in life. This type of comfort zone usually originates from self-limiting beliefs about yourself. Today on the I care about you podcast, we get out of our rut an...

Today on the I Care About You Podcast, we discuss negative bias and how negative self-doubt can hold you back. We all talk ourselves out of things at one time or another. Maybe we decide not to pursue a new opportunity or job. What are the deciding factors? Is negative bias at play? Is your lack of self-trust stopping you from moving forward? We will talk about how to change your mindset and open...

Today on the "I care about you" podcast we talk about understanding more of the signs that you are in a manipulative relationship. How do you tell if it is just normal human behavior or over the top? What signs do you see in your interactions and what do you see in yourself that can tip you off? We also discuss why people are overly manipulative and a few things you can do if you find yourself in...

Do you feel guilt or shame when you don't reach a goal you have? Do you find that defeating to moving forward? Me too. In this episode of the I Care About You podcast, I talk about this and ways to help you get out of that shame wheel. The Goal Setting group I refer to can be found at our meetup here: https://www.meetup.com/social-refugees-finding-ourselves-with-compassion-love/ #goalsetting #goal...

Today on the "I care about you" podcast we talk about the red flags and signs that you are in a manipulative relationship. How do you tell if it is just normal human behavior or over the top? What signs do you see in your interactions and what do you see in yourself that can tip you off? We also discuss why people are overly manipulative and a few things you can do if you find yourself in a relati...

Who are You? What are your inner and outer selves? How do you know what is authentic and what is an expectation of others? What is important to you? In this episode, of the I Care About You Podcast, we ask these questions and I outline a simple way to get closer to your inner self. More info on character strengths: https://www.viacharacter.org/character-strengths #selfjourney #findingyourself #fin...

Journaling is a great tool for getting to know yourself, to work on problems and issues, and to manifest dreams and goals. Learn a few types of journaling styles, how to be successful at it, and some tips on how to find a good flow. We discuss ways to journal, types, ideas for journaling, timelines, what to do when you finish a journal, how you can use journaling as a self-discovery tool, and so o...

Getting in touch with your feelings Today we are talking about feelings. Have you ever felt like you were mad for days about something? Or maybe you have been sad about something for a long time? Do you feel your emotions have imprisoned you in places you don’t want to be? I am not talking about being in the first stages of grief or trauma healing. I am talking about things that present them...

How memories affect your happiness. Bad memories can shape our views of the world and ourselves. We tend to dwell on negative memories, allowing them to shape our views of our lives, the world, and ourselves. Learn how you can shift your negative memories and heal from the unpleasant moments in life. How to change your negative self-talk: https://youtu.be/LcGmUa0T_HY #selfjourney #badmemories #hap...

February Who are you? What matters to you? How are you living what you want to be? What does your internal landscape look like? This is a companion Journal to the podcast on Internal landscapes:  episode 68. There is also a companion meditation: episode 70 Want to join our meet-up and discuss the prompts every month? https://www.meetup.com/social-refugees-finding-ourselves-with-compassion-lov...