Honeydew Me

Why do relationships feel so DAMN complicated these days? Modern love comes with sky-high expectations—partners are expected to be our best friend, therapist, co-parent, and soulmate all rolled into one. In this episode, Nicholas Velotta, Ph. D. student and Head of Research at Arya, shares why relationships feel harder today, what the science of intimacy has to tell us, and how building community...

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: “Hi there! Been a looooong time listener of the pod and have a question/need for advice. My fiancé and I have been together for almost 4 years, we’re in a super healthy relationship, and I feel very happy with him. The last few months or so, our sex life has been a...

If you’ve ever had sex you didn’t really want to have— to avoid awkwardness, not hurt your partner's feelings or just get it over with—this episode is for you. We’re joined by Claire Perelman, a Queer, Jewish, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in the Bay Area who specializes in working with queer, poly, and kink communities. Claire breaks down what it really means to “push through” during sex,...

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: "I’m in my mid-20s now, but I still feel like my breakup from high school is affecting the way I show up in relationships. Like… my attachment style, my trust issues, the way I react when someone pulls away. It all kind of traces back to that first heartbreak. Shou...

Self-trust isn’t just a cute idea, it’s the foundation for literally everything. This week we’re joined by Emily Romero, trauma therapist turned author and creator of The Self-Trust Model™, to talk about how to stop overthinking, start trusting your gut, and finally feel like you’ve got you. If people-pleasing, insecurity, or indecision have been running the show... this one’s for you. We cover: W...

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: I’ve been with my partner for almost three years and I love everything about our relationship… except for the fact that he never compliments me. In the years we have dated he has never once told me I look pretty, hot, beautiful, nothing. I tell him often that I lik...

Ever get hit with a wave of anxiety, sadness, or anger and think, “Cool, but what do I do with this?” This episode is your answer. We’re joined by somatic coach and nervous system expert Béa Victoria Albina, NP, MPH to talk about exactly what to do when big feelings show up (without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending you're fine). We’re talking mini, step-by-step action plans for managing ang...

Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we’re showing you how to make your single era the main event. Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn’t a gap, it’s the glow-up. What We Cover in This Episode: Why singlehood isn’t a “p...

In this episode, we’re joined by Nicole Thompson, a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast. Nicole brings a trauma-informed, radically compassionate lens to the way we talk about sex, relationships, and desire. Together, we explore how shame holds us back from pleasure and how we can start speaking up, owning what we want, and creating the kinds of connections...

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: "I'm in a really loving and supportive relationship and I want to have sex. Like, I mentally want it—I’m attracted to my partner, I crave intimacy, I feel emotionally connected… but it still takes me a long time to feel fully turned on physically. I don’t just get...

We sat down with Susanna Brisk, Sexual Intuitive®️ and certified sex educator who's been helping individuals and couples for nearly a decade reignite their sexual spark. We're diving deep into what really happens to sex and intimacy after having kids, exploring how parenthood can reshape desire and sharing practical tools to reclaim your slutty self. We cover: How to reignite sexual connection aft...

This week we're diving into all things intimacy while pregnant and postpartum. Cass is answering listener questions about her experience navigating sex and relationships as a new mom. We cover: WTF a mucus plug is How Cass navigated body changes while pregnant and postpartum and a PSA on stretch marks Normalizing postpartum vaginas  How Cass navigated sex and intimacy while pregnant and postpartum...

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a bunch of research. The Question: "I think my penis might be too big for comfortable penetrative sex with my girlfriend. We’ve had open conversations about it and she’s super reassuring, but I still end up feeling guilty, like my body is somehow making things harder (pun uninte...

You know when you're in a long term relationship and the sex just gets a little... meh? Maybe it's feeling routine, lacking spice, or just isn't hitting how it used to. That's why we're chatting up Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with a game plan to get your sex life back on track. We cover: The science behind why passion ebbs and flows over the course of a long term relationship W...

We're joined once again by the LOVELY Susan Morgan Taylor, MA a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach, but this time we're diving headfirst into LIBIDO. We cover: What a normal libido looks like & how we define low vs. high libido Common myths and misconceptions about having a low libido How to navigate sex drive differences within a relationship The importance of the 3 N's: Noticing, Namin...

We're revisiting the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE. We cover: Expanding your definition of foreplay How to turn yourself ON Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage How to feel ENTITLED to your needs How to make...

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a whole lot of vulnerability.  The Question: "My best friend and I have been inseparable for years, but now we’re in different life stages—she’s focused on her career and dating and I’m starting a family. It’s hard to stay as close as we were. How can we keep this friendship str...

If the sex you're having is overly focused on penetration, you're missing out on a WORLD of pleasure. Treating P in V as the main event is keeping us from exploring the endless buffet of sexual options, which is why we're learning to broaden our menu with Claire Perelman, a Certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we dive into: WHY you need to start decentering P in V sex The BENEFITS of focusing...

Ever had sex that didn't live up to your expectations? Maybe you didn't feel the way you thought you "should" or things didn't turn out the way you imagined. Moments like these can lead to some serious negative feelings, making you want to avoid sex altogether. Luckily, Sex Therapist Jessa Zimmerman is equipping us with all the tips, tools and knowledge to navigate these tricky times. We cover: Wh...

Ever wish you could hit refresh on a few of your personality traits? Maybe you want to be less nervous, more outgoing, or become a little more organized. Olga Khazan, author of the new book "Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change" is chatting us through the HOW TO's of all that and more, so grab a pen and buckle up. We cover: The "Big 5" personality traits-- emotional stabil...

Chances are your masturbation practice could use a little *refresh*. That's why we're giving you a step by step guide to crafting your PERFECT solo play ritual. We cover: What our current masturbation practices look like (HINT: not ideal lol) WHY you should be prioritizing masturbation The MANY physical, emotional, mental, AND relationship benefits of masturbating How to set up your space for a pe...

Whether you're looking to take charge in the bedroom, feel more confident in your everyday life, or learn wtf it means to be a lifestyle dom, then this episode is FOR YOU. We're talking with Mistress Damiana Chi, a legendary Dominatrix with over 25 years of experience and a Ph. D. in clinical psychology who uses BDSM as a healing modality. We cover: A refresher on what BDSM is and what it means to...

BIG transitions are a part of life. Whether you're moving in together, getting married, having a baby or experiencing some other form of change, your relationship is bound to feel a little (or a lot) different. Cue Tarah & EJ Kerwin, two therapists on a mission to provide couples with the tools they need to GET THROUGH these transitions without giving up on one another. In this episode, we cover:...

We're diving DEEP into the history of PORN with our friends over at Right Answers Mostly, Claire and Tess. From the dawn of time to the creation of the internet, porn has captivated us horny little humans for basically EVER. So in this episode we're covering: Ancient porn (because, again, humans have been horny from the start) Porn in the 1800's (including erotic novels, naughty nudes & Stag Films...

SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! Which is why we're introducing you to a BUTTLOAD of games you can start playing in the bedroom and beyond. We cover: WHY you need to start playing sex games and their MANY benefits Games to help you and your partner get to know each other Teasing games to help build the (sexual) tension Orgasm denial games Food games Games to play with sex toys Timed games & actual board...