Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships

Could the very thing that feels like connection be part of a darker cycle of abuse? This is a continuation of my conversation with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde from Ep. 47 where we explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and her experience of having sex used as a powerful tool for manipulation. If you've ever struggled to leave a toxic relationship because of the physical intimacy that kept...

Trying to come to terms with knowing that your ex was someone completely opposite of who they presented to be in the beginning? This dives deep into the experience of falling for someone who presents themselves as the perfect person, only to later realize their true nature. You will hear Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde’s story and what she experienced as her ex narcissistic partner’s masks fell off during...

Ever find yourself wondering, "Why do I keep dating people who seem to be allergic to basic empathy?" Yeah, you're not alone. In this episode, we dive into why some of us (no judgment) keep choosing partners who make us question our picker. Spoiler: Childhood. If you've ever felt like your love life could double as a reality show, this one’s for you! Here’s what you’ll get from this episode: A-ha...

Have you ever had a conversation so twisted, you walked away wondering if you’re losing your mind? How about 50 of those convos? How about an entire relationship that had you thinking you were crazy?  I’ve been there too—stuck in a relationship that messes with your reality so much, you start doubting your own memory. And it totally sucks.  So, buckle up for this episode where I break do...

Why do we stay in painful, confusing narcissistic relationships even when we know they hurt us?  If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional highs and devastating lows, this episode will shed light on the deeper dynamics at play in trauma-bonded relationships and how early experiences shape these unhealthy attachments. In this episode, you’ll discover: How codependency and l...

Is staying in your relationship leaving you feeling drained, yet the idea of leaving has you feeling powerless? This episode dives deep into the reality of breaking free from narcissistic and painful relationships, showing how it’s not only possible to heal but how doing so can free up your mental and emotional capacity, helping you feel like yourself again. In this episode you will: Discover how...

Ever look back on an unhealthy relationship and think, "What was I  thinking —was I blind or just a professional red-flag collector?" (I’ve been there, no shame here.) If you’ve ever found yourself cringing at your past choices and wondering why you stuck around longer than a bad Netflix series, this episode dives deep into the  real  reasons behind those decisions—and how you can f...

Is it dysfunctional or is it abusive? Sometimes it can be hard to tell what type of relationship we are (or were) in because abuse doesn’t always leave a mark. In this episode Khryzza Kelley shares with us how she realized that the relationship she was in was emotionally abusive and how she found the knowing that it was time to leave. She relays her journey through trauma healing and repatterining...

Unsure how to access that self-love thing everyone is talking about? Or are you feeling overwhelming judgement and distrust in yourself? This episode is here to help. We’re diving into the magical (okay, evidence-based) world of EFT tapping. If anxiety, self-doubt, or just a bad case of the “I-can’t-think-straight” blues are your current reality, you’re not alone. We’re exploring how this simple t...

Sexual trauma is a violation on the body and mind and to heal it, we have to tend to both. This episode dives deep into understanding how unresolved sexual trauma and toxic relationships impact our ability to connect authentically with ourselves and others - and how you can heal. We are honored to hear my friend Shanna Wilton as she shares her journey of finding safety, trust and pleasure again in...

Has your intuition let you down, leaving you questioning your ability to trust yourself and your decisions in relationships? If you're struggling with self-doubt and finding it hard to trust your inner voice, this episode is for you. We dive deep into understanding how to reconnect with your intuition and rebuild the trust that's essential for making confident decisions, especially after you’ve be...

If you are ping-ponging back and forth, one moment sure you should leave, and the next feeling waves of guilt and pressure to not hurt your partner by leaving them, this episode is here to help you set down the paddle and cut through the noise. This quick 20 minute episode will help you reframe breakups and find the confidence hidden in your deeper knowing. In this episode you will: Be able to cle...

If you’ve been mindf*cked thinking, “IS he a narcissist?”, stuck on not being able to find the answer while second guessing everything, this episode is for you. I’ve been there, and together we will piece together some understanding around the answer that you seek 💡. In this episode, we’ll cover: 3 simple yet critical questions to ask yourself to help you piece out narcissism What you can do to f...

Ready to ditch those wobbly, one-legged toxic relationships for something that won’t tip over at the first sign of trouble? In this episode, we dive into a a powerful metaphor shared by a client of mine that highlights the stark difference between relationships built on shaky ground and those that offer true stability and balance. In this episode you will: - Hear one client’s life changing metapho...

Are you struggling to differentiate between genuine affection and the overwhelming rush of love bombing in your relationships? If you've ever felt swept off your feet by someone who seemed too perfect too soon, you might be dealing with love bombing—a tactic used in narcissistic relationships to manipulate and control. In this episode, we break down how to identify love bombing and distinguish it...

Is there fear that consumes you when you think about ending your relationship? Going back and forth in your decision because of layers of fear you’re feeling is something my former client Laura Herrmann experienced before she divorced her ex husband. We talk about how she moved through it all and came into her knowing, as well as the inner child healing that allowed her to finally get her light (a...

Have you rolled your eyes at the thought of doing inner child work, or avoided looking at your childhood trauma even though you know you’ve been through some sh*t? Studies have shown the consequences that childhood trauma has on our brain structure as well as our attachment abilities in adulthood. Today, Tammy Vincent and I sit down and dive into how a traumatic childhood has shaped both of us, ou...

Have you been irresistibly drawn to certain men, even when they’re not good for you? This episode explores the concept of trauma bonding, revealing why we often feel magnetically attracted to people who ultimately cause us pain, and why it is so damn hard to leave them. It sheds light on how past childhood trauma shapes our present relationships, a topic that can resonate deeply if you’ve ever str...

You’re about to get an inside look into why I decided to rebrand this podcast. This episode is vulnerable, you guys! I share many of the fears that I had/have in making this change along with how I realized I was playing small. There are such good parallels here to any sort of change that you are experiencing in your life. It’s one you won’t want to miss ❤️ PS. The old podcast name was Lucid Livin...

Do you feel completely lost on when it's the right time to start dating again after a painful breakup? Maybe you’ve exited a narcissistic relationship, been betrayed, and/or had the rug pulled out from under you — leaving you heartbroken, confused, and unsure when you’ll be “healed enough” to get back out there. In this episode, we'll breakdown the simple things you need to know in order to decide...

Do you long for real love but aren’t sure what a healthy relationship looks like If you're tired of feeling unfulfilled or anxious in your relationships, perhaps attracting narcissistic people over and over again, understanding what makes a relationship healthy can transform your love life and help you break free from toxic rollercoaster vom-fest 🤢. In this episode you will: - Learn the 5 greenes...

How do you protect your children (and yourself) from the toxic effects of a narcissistic co-parent? Co-parenting with someone who displays narcissistic traits can feel like navigating a minefield. In this episode, Margeaux Groene MA, LPC and I give you crucial advice to help you manage this tough situation and shield your kids from emotional harm. In this episode, you will: Learn how to spot the 4...

Ever wondered why you keep going back to your narcissistic ex, even when you know it's a bad idea 🤯? You're not alone, and you're definitely not crazy. In this episode, we dive into the mind-f*ckery of narcissistic relationships. We'll uncover why these toxic connections mess with your head and why it's so hard to stop going back. If you're struggling to understand your own behavior or feel stuck...

Are you struggling to see a way through the heartbreak 💔 of a recent breakup (especially if that person was narcissistic and you’re an empath)? If you're feeling overwhelmed by pain and unsure how to begin healing or regain your self-esteem, this episode offers 4 practical steps to help you take control and start moving forward. In this episode, you’ll discover: - The top 4 actionable steps to al...

Are you second-guessing yourself on if you should leave your relationship? In a world where empathy often blurs boundaries, discover how to navigate compassion while still honoring your own needs and following your intuitive knowing. This episode is full of tips and inspiration as Hailee Johnson and I talk about her very experience trusting her gut and making the solid choice to leave her relation...