Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

There are four fundamental questions we seek in our intimate relationships: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter? How we go about answering these questions is the basis for how we learn to love and be loved in our marriages. Loving another person well is a practice. It's something you keep at trying over and over, and learning to get better at it. The more conscious we are\ about th...

With practice patience, determination, and mindfulness men can prolong the pleasure they feel by resisting ejaculation and prolonging their pleasure and orgasm period. So today I wanted to show you that orgasm and ejaculation are actually two separate physiological processes in the body. And how it's the ejaculation that is responsible for the start of their refractory period. And I want to offer...

There's a lot of anxiety in our culture around sexuality in general. And within the topic of understanding one's sexuality, there's even more cultural anxiety around masturbation. I've personally had lots of questions around masturbation, and I'm glad to report that I'm not alone – I get many DMs on our Instagram and emails asking sincere questions about this sexual behavior. I asked Dr. Jennifer...

There's no doubt in my mind that there's a deeply spiritual and emotional aspect to really good sex. When two lovers come together as good friends that want to give and receive pleasure and connect to know each other at a very deep and intimate level, sex takes on deep meaning. Many in American or western culture put a big focus on orgasm and finishing, for good reason: orgasm feels good. Really,...

Like many other men, I've probably said to my wife maybe once or twice, "I'm always in the mood for sex!" or "Whenever you want it, I'm ready!" Just kidding, I've probably said something like that hundreds of times. But I know there are exceptions to "always" being in the mood. In fact, when I'm really honest, there are many times I'm not in the mood. And my wife is even more puzzled when she's in...

We've done several episodes about painful sex in the past, but none of them have been as personal as this one today. You get to meet my friends Bryce and Shannon, who tell their story of how painful sex has really interfered with their relationship early on in their marriage. And I love the story because it's a story of faith. I also really appreciate Shannon and Bryce being really vulnerable and...

This episode is for any couple that has struggled with feelings of shame about bodies or sexuality, and has experienced conflict in their marriage around sexual differences. I am so very grateful that Jan Marie and Andrew were willing to come on the podcast to share their story. They were nervous and are private people, so it's a big deal for them to be open and vulnerable, in hopes that it inspir...

Announcement: Join the waiting list for the couples retreat in March! For the next few episodes, I want to take a break from interviewing experts per se and showcase real stories from "ordinary" couples who have built extraordinary intimacy in their own marriages. One of the purposes of this podcast is to help as many people realize how wonderful sex is, and although it's sacred between a husband...

If someone were to ask you what's your definition of intimacy, how would you answer that question? And how would you explain to another person how to develop more intimacy in your marriage? Also, how important are communication skills in an intimate relationship? What things interfere with our ability to communicate effectively with our spouses? That's what Dr. Dave Schramm and I talk about today....

There's a difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage. Some marriage advice people may have received is to compromise to keep the peace between a couple. This advice is great to keep the marriage functioning, but compromising on everything often interferes with creating an intimate marriage.  Today's guest is Alexandra Stockwell . She's got a fascinating story about why she b...

This is one of our spicier podcasts! Keelie and Austin Reason from the Love Hope Adventure Blog and Podcast decided to join me today to talk about male pleasure and the importance of emotional connection as a foundation for happy and intimate marriage. 

This is part two of a two-part podcast. Last week, we talked about stage three sex. We introduced this framework of what stages one, two, and three are, and this is a follow-up to that. Enjoy!

Normal people have marriage problems. In this episode, I'll introduce to you my three-stage framework to take your marriage and sex life to the NEXT LEVEL! This is something I'm passionate about. I hope you learn something new!

In every marriage, there's a person with a higher desire for sex and a person with a lower desire for sex. What are unhealthy and healthy ways of responding to your spouse's desire level? How can you work together as an intimate team to create a marriage that truly has room for both people, to transition from a "me vs you" to a more intimate "us"? These are the questions I had on my mind when I me...

100 podcast episodes for Get Your Marriage On! Wow! What a ride the past couple years have been.  I've had the privilege of interviewing many sex experts. In many of the episodes, I ask them what black belt sex tips they'd give to a couple in a healthy marriage to help them up the quality of connection and pleasure in the bedroom.  I've rounded up my favorites from the past 50 episodes (see episod...

Our bodies are absolutely incredible and attest to the marvelous power and intelligence of our great Creator. Our heart beats nearly 100,000 times a day. Our eyes have self-focusing lenses and work in tandem to help us see images in three dimensions. Through our bodies, we can hold loved ones, offer a loving touch, and even participate in creating new life.  Our bodies are the temple of our spirit...

Many of you are in a similar phase of life as we are: raising young children and teenagers, and possibly thinking about having another baby. Conception is an incredible miracle because there are so many moving parts to making it work (no pun intended).  I had the privilege of meeting with a world-famous fertility doctor, Dr. Allison Rodgers a OB/GYN and Reproductive Endocrinologist. and I'm so hap...

Think about the qualities that make you successful in your career: working hard, being the first to show up and the last to leave, and being an achiever. Sometimes very capable and successful people have a hard time in their intimate relationships.  What if the same qualities that translate to success in one's career or workplace actually work against you in your intimate relationship? Rhonda Farr...

In this episode, Dan shares lessons learned about what it means to love someone well. He discusses reflections about courage and creating an intimate marriage where there's room for two people to thrive. He shares other thoughts from his mother, who passed away from cancer a few weeks ago. 

I used to think that a woman's period was just nature's way of telling you that you're not pregnant. But there's so much more to understanding one's cycle. Did you know that a woman's cycle can be broken down into four phases, and each phase has their own superpower? That understanding your hormones and what they're there for can give you more confidence and energy? And what foods should you eat (...

Do you ever wish your husband would take more initiative in the bedroom? Our podcast this week is all about masculine leadership within the bedroom (please note: this is not to diminish or replace feminine leadership).   GS Youngblood is an author and coach for men. GS teaches how important being grounded, taking the lead, and responding rather than reacting is within your marriage.   I hope you l...

I've learned that intimacy problems can creep into the marriage because of unrealistic expectations and patterns of avoiding the issue. Whether it's performance anxiety, body image issues, or even a sexless marriage, you can break out of your patterns that keep you stuck by getting a clearer understanding of your dynamic.   I'm honored to have Braxton Dutson on the podcast today to talk about what...

Experiencing pain with sex is, unfortunately, all too common for many women. According to one peer-reviewed study I read out of Australia, 20% of women regularly experience pain with sex. Other research suggests that just about every woman at one point in their life will experience pain with sex. But sex shouldn't be painful. There are tons of resources and therapies out there to make sex better f...

Let's get one thing out of the way first — dirty talk isn't dirty. It's actually an intimate form of communication to let your spouse into your heart and mind. It's a way to express the erotic part of you with your lover. It's about using your words to arouse. The nice thing about married sex is that it's a place you can go where things don't have to be so cleaned up. You can be less formal with e...

  Abuse of any kind, whether it's physical, emotional, or sexual, is evil and wrong. Sexual abuse is particularly harmful because our sexuality is so personal to us. There is often some shame around our sexuality anyway, and the abuser takes advantage of it to make us feel less worthy.   But healing is possible! If abuse is part of your story, I hope today's episode gives you hope.   Today's guest...