Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't. In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about. After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happ...

What does the Constitutional Convention have to do with your marriage? More than you might think. As we celebrate Independence Day, Dan explores one of the greatest acts of collaboration in history—the creation of the U.S. Constitution—and uncovers surprising lessons for couples navigating differences in intimacy, communication, and connection. The delegates in Philadelphia didn't create unity by...

What if the key to better orgasms, less pain during sex, and greater confidence in intimacy isn't in your head—it's in your pelvic floor? In this episode, Dan sits down with pelvic floor physical therapist Kristin Damery to discuss the often-overlooked foundation of sexual wellness. Kristin explains how pelvic floor health affects arousal, orgasm, pain during intercourse, blood flow, muscle functi...

What happens when you realize your spouse still loves you—but doesn't really like you? After 20 years of marriage, that's the realization Matt Sallas faced. In this episode, Matt shares how addiction, obligation-based sex, and emotional disconnection nearly destroyed his marriage—and the framework that helped rebuild trust, attraction, and intimacy. We discuss emotional safety, emotional masculini...

Has your sex life become a little too predictable? In this episode, Dan shares 7 simple principles to help couples break out of routine, deepen connection, and bring more fun, playfulness, and excitement into their intimate relationship. From creating an intimacy menu to exploring new experiences together, you'll learn practical ways to stop having boring sex and start creating more meaningful con...

Most people think being a good spouse means being selfless, accommodating, and easygoing. But what if those same habits are quietly creating resentment, frustration, and disconnection? In this episode, we're joined by Stu Murray , a men's leadership coach, to discuss the "Nice Guy Pattern"—the tendency to suppress your own needs, avoid conflict, and hope your partner will magically figure out what...

Differences in sexual desire can feel deeply personal. One spouse feels rejected. The other feels pressured. And both end up wondering if something is wrong with their marriage. In this episode, Dan shares three principles that can completely change the way you think about desire differences in marriage. He talks honestly about the hidden power dynamics couples fall into, why conflict around sex i...

Better sex isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. In this episode, Dan sits down with Zach Watson to unpack the hidden emotional and mental work happening inside many marriages — and why it has such a powerful impact on intimacy. They talk about invisible labor, mental load, emotional safety, and the loneliness that can build when one partner feels like they're carrying everything alone. Za...

In this final session with Peggy and Steve, things feel different.  The wall Peggy used to feel during intimacy—the fear, tension, and resistance that would suddenly shut everything down—is starting to soften. And for the first time in a long time, both of them are beginning to relax. In this episode, you'll hear Peggy and Steve reflect on the progress they've made over the last few months, what s...

ATTN: Women's only coaching cohorts starts today, May 12! Don't waste another day wishing things were different in your marriage. Sign up here:  Women's coaching:   https://getyourmarriageon.com/womens-small-group-coaching/ In this fourth session with Peggy and Steve, something important finally clicks. Peggy begins recognizing the exact moment her brain hits the "kill switch" during intimacy. Not...

ATTN: Men's and Women's only coaching cohorts start this week, May 12! Don't waste another day wishing things were different in your marriage. Sign up here:  Women's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/womens-small-group-coaching/ Men's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ *** In this third session with Peggy and Steve, the conversation shifts in a deeper direction. What star...

Why do so many couples feel stuck, even when they're both trying their best? In Part 2 of this real coaching series , Peggy and Steve come back after working on making intimacy more fun and less performative. And for a while, it works. But underneath the progress, a deeper pattern starts to surface—one that keeps pulling them right back into the same frustrating gridlock . Inside this episode, you...

What if the problem in your sex life isn't a lack of effort…but too much effort? In this episode, we're trying something completely new. You'll get a behind-the-scenes look at a real coaching session with a couple (names and details changed for privacy) who are doing everything "right"—but still feel stuck. They love each other. They're committed. They're trying hard. But sex has started to feel…...

She didn't think sex could be for her. In this honest conversation, Faith shares her journey from seeing sex as transactional, to walking away from it after finding Jesus, to struggling with disconnected, obligation-based intimacy in marriage. But something shifted. She began to understand that intimacy could be connective, meaningful—and even for her, too. If you've ever felt like sex is somethin...

This is Part 2 of a special two-part series exploring the difference between having sex and making love. If you haven't listened to Episode 300 yet, go start there—it lays the foundation for everything we talk about in this episode. In this episode, we move from understanding the difference … to learning how to actually create more meaningful, connected intimacy in your marriage. You'll hear from:...

This episode is a special one— episode 300. That feels really meaningful to me. I'm grateful you listen, share the podcast, and care enough about your marriage to keep showing up for these conversations. I really do celebrate you and your commitment to building a strong, intimate, passionate marriage. For this milestone episode, I wanted to do something a little different. So I turned it into a pe...

In this episode, I respond to a vulnerable question from a wife navigating desire differences, purity culture, and a husband who seems to always want more—more novelty, more frequency, more intensity. If you've ever felt like: You're not "enough" sexually Your spouse is never satisfied Sex has become a source of pressure instead of connection …this episode is for you. We'll talk about: The three c...

What if low libido, fatigue, brain fog, mood changes, or sexual dysfunction aren't just "part of getting older"? In this episode, Dan talks with family nurse practitioner Shelly Wilkinson about hormones, libido, insulin resistance, and the role whole-body health can play in sexual wellness. Shelly shares her personal story, what led her into hormone education, and why she believes many men and wom...

Low libido, erectile dysfunction, hormone imbalance, and sexual frustration in marriage are often treated like isolated problems. But what if they're actually connected to something much bigger? In this episode of the Get Your Marriage On! Podcast, Dan sits down with Dr. Jerry Dugger to talk about the link between physical health and sexual health. They discuss testosterone, estrogen, cortisol, th...

What does your nervous system have to do with your sex life? More than you might think. In this episode, Dan sits down with nervous system specialist  Morgan Starr-Riestis , who explains why feeling safe in your body is one of the most important ingredients for great intimacy. Many couples assume sexual problems are about technique, desire differences, or communication. But often the real issue is...

Marriages rarely fall apart because of one big moment—they erode through small daily disconnections. In this episode, Dan sits down with author Lindsay Maestes to talk about how couples can rebuild connection, overcome sexual shame, and create a stronger marriage through intentional daily habits. They discuss faith and sexuality, emotional labor, foreplay outside the bedroom, and why openness and...

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jacqlin — published author and romance reader — to talk about something I've wanted to explore for a long time: how writing intimate stories can deepen connection in marriage. We talk about: Why erotic writing can feel more vulnerable than sex The difference between sharing your body and sharing your private thoughts How to overcome fear of rejection Prac...

In this bonus Q&A episode, I tackle some of the most vulnerable and complex sexual questions couples are asking right now. We talk about: Anal play and whether certain acts are morally wrong Masturbation inside marriage — especially when your spouse is available What to do when teasing doesn't lead to follow-through How to talk dirty without feeling dirty Stepping into sexual confidence when your...

Shame is a universal emotion — and for many Christians, sexual shame is one of the hardest to overcome. In this deeply honest conversation, I'm joined by Natalie Hamblin as we explore how sexual shame quietly divides marriages, and how couples can move toward sexual wholeness instead. We talk about: How shame creates emotional and physical distance Why hiding parts of yourself fractures intimacy T...

In this special Bonus Q&A episode, Dan answers real questions from married couples about oral sex — from first-time nerves to performance anxiety, from orgasm struggles to emotional hangups. If you grew up in a home where sex was taboo… If you feel awkward, anxious, or unsure how to talk about this… If you're craving more connection but feel stuck… This episode is for you. Topics Dan addresses: •...