Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

I am so excited to talk about today's topic!  The idea for this podcast episode was partially inspired by an upcoming podcast episode I'll be releasing in a few weeks. I interviewed an author, GS Youngblood.  His tip was about how foreplay begins the moment your past sexual encounter ends, and that foreplay should be done throughout the day not immediately before sexual intercourse. I've thought a...

There are so many parallels between money and intimacy when it comes to marriage. For many people, money represents security. When money issues creep up, it can threaten our ability to trust our spouse.   Issues revolving around spending habits in a marriage can add a lot of stress to the relationship. We also bring to a marriage two different world views on money, creating an opportunity for grow...

You're about to meet my guests on today's episode, Zach and Darcy Spafford.  Zach used to struggle with habitual pornography use and Darcy struggled with trying to figure out what to do with her feelings of hurt and mistrust.  After applying certain tools and committing to serious growth together, they've not only overcome but are now thriving together in their relationship, as you'll see! They no...

Initiating sex can be a very powerful way to communicate love and desire to your spouse. Initiating is a powerful bid for connection. It's a way of saying, "I want to connect with you." Initiating can be very intimate. And it's very validating to be wanted sexually. To prepare for this episode, I ran an informal survey of our Instagram followers to get a better idea of what other couples struggle...

I'm interested in doing a podcast episode primarily for men about understanding intimacy, especially if it wasn't modeled in your home growing up. To be clear, I don't mean "intimacy" as a euphemism for sex. I mean Intimacy as in relational closeness: a willingness to know and be fully known by your spouse. Many men struggle to get emotionally close to their spouse. They confuse intimacy with sex....

In every marriage, there is a spouse with higher desire for sex and a spouse with lower desire for sex.  In this episode, I'll talk about the benefits of being higher or being lower desire. As the high desire spouse in my marriage, I know what it's like to feel anxious or "needy", and it's not attractive. I'll share some thoughts on what we can do about our anxieties to improve intimacy and connec...

For this week's episode, we continue a Q&A session with Jenny Rose about sex and intimacy. Jenny is a family lifestyle influencer. She asked some questions from her audience that I tackle in last week's and this week's episode, such as: How do you balance time with yourself and with your spouse when you feel touched out at the end of the day How to transition from Mommy mode to Wife mode What to d...

This episode is unique! Jenny Rose, a family influencer known as @princessturnedmom reached out to me and asked if she could do a podcast takeover and ask me some questions from her audience. How fun!   Jenny likes to say she has Jesus in her heart and Disney in her veins. She was SO fun to have on the podcast. Check out PART ONE of two where we discuss your questions about sex and intimacy.

Today's podcast is for the husbands out there that want to make sex great. There's far more to just the mechanics and geometry of sex to being a good lover. There's romance, creating exciting erotic contexts, sharing mental loads, and much more that go into making love with not just your body but your heart too.  This might just be my experience as a man, but we men don't get as much helpful educa...

It's normal to seek validation from our spouse in marriage. By validation I mean to get a sense of our legitimacy as a person and a spouse, such as being told we're sexy enough, pretty enough, and desirable. And it's normal to seek that validation. But what do you do when you don't feel it? What do you do when you feel like your spouse isn't interested in you romantically or sexually? What about t...

Like most kids, I loved taking on new roles when I'd play with my friends and siblings… whether it was cops and robbers, or ninjas, or race car drivers, there's a creative & playful element to trying on new roles and identities.  As an adult in a romantic and committed relationship, you can bring that same creativity and playfulness into the bedroom through role play! Many couples role play instin...

  When it comes to sexual desire, there's a lot we can learn from our stomachs. Hey, we've eaten food our whole lives!   In this podcast, I will discuss 5 lessons I've learned about sexual desire from food. I want to encourage you to honestly discuss the differences you have in your sexual "appetites" or desires and learn how to be a good partner to your spouse.   #getyourmarriageon #sexeducationp...

Some couples really struggle with intimacy. And I'm not referring to "intimacy" as a euphemism for sex. I mean their relationship feels superficial and they've run out of "safe" topics they can discuss because all the harder topics make one or both of them anxious and uncomfortable. As a result, the marriage starts to feel a bit empty and unexciting, boring, and routine. What do you do in situatio...

I had the privilege of being a guest on Manda Carpentner's podcast called A Longer Table , and wanted to share that interview here because I think the things we discussed are super valuable for you to hear. In this interview, we talk about a number of topics such as:  Purity Culture What to do when you feel the need to manage an other's sexuality How important is sex, really? What is your definiti...

For many individuals, myself included, intercourse can feel very pleasurable. Couples can find deep meaning through intercourse as well: feeling intimate, personal, sweet, and bonding.  However, intercourse isn't always fireworks for both people. And how can you make intercourse better for both people?  That's what we want to talk about in today's episode! I learned a lot from this episode and I h...

Feeling shame about our natural sexual urges is more harmful than we think. Clinton and Charity Munoz decided to share their story in hopes of helping others. A few years into their marriage Clinton's secretive and compulsive use of pornography was distressing to Charity and took their marriage to dark depths. With the help of God and good resources, they've been able to restore their marriage to...

Al Carraway is probably the most optimistic and positive person I've ever met. Just being with her for an hour was life-changing. "Life is too short to stay unsatisfied." and "Stubbornly refuse to have a bad sex life." are two quotes that have rung in my head ever since our conversation. Al is from New York, and became a Christian in her early 20s. She's a mother, wife, award-winning motivational...

How does your current marriage dynamic help or hinder intimacy? Are you good at expressing your desires within your marriage? How does growing into your best version of yourself translate into a deeper connection with your spouse? And how can these things contribute to really good sexual experiences? These are the questions I've had on my mind as I reached out to Eric and Kate MacDougall, founders...

Talking about sex with your spouse is not easy for most of us. Whether it's about preferences, desire level differences, pornography use, physical difficulties, or a number of issues, many of us find it easier to just resent our spouse rather than see the situation honestly as it is and take responsibility for our role in the matter. I enjoyed this interview with Amanda Ammons . You'll get to hear...

What if your spouse isn't enthusiastic about the same things you are? I get this question often. Specifically, what to do if your spouse isn't on board with your desires sexually. I have five thoughts about this that I want to share. There is much more that can be discussed here, as every person's situation is complex, but I hope some of these ideas can help!

This is episode #69, and in honor of everyone's favorite two-digit sexy number, I thought we'd have some fun and do an episode all about oral sex! The best sex is intimate sex, and if you have the right mindset, oral sex can be very intimate, leading to deep connection and relationship satisfaction. There's something very intimate about opening your heart and letting yourself be known to your spec...

The thing that stood out to me the most in this interview you're about to hear is how important it is to focus on being our best selves if we want to fix our marriage. Also how important it is to shed our egos. And when we married, we signed up to love our spouse: meaning, to be their champion and cheerleader, not their critic. Laura Doyle is The New York Times best-selling author of several books...

Passionate marriages require a healthy tension between two forces that paradoxically are at odds with one another: Security which is love and intimacy and Growth which is desire, autonomy, and adventure. In this episode, I had the privilege of interviewing Alana and Paris from the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast.  We discussed how one can navigate love and desire in marriage and cultivate more desire &...

Part of being an adult is unlearning the things that no longer serve you, and learning new things that bring richer meaning to your life.  When it comes to sex, there's a lot that isn't helpful that we can unlearn, and a lot we can learn to bring deeper meaning and joy to our most important intimate relationships.  I had the pleasure of interviewing Cami Hurst , a talented and passionate certified...

A few years ago, I was sitting around a campfire with other dads, hearing their stories of exciting trips and getaways they've been on with their wives. I was depressed, thinking, "woe is me!" With 6 young kids, and on a budget, all I could think of was reasons why I would never be able to enjoy that kind of an experience. Fast forward six months later, I was sitting on a beautiful beach in Florid...