Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.

How many times have you worried about thinking the "right" thoughts, eating the "right" foods, and acting the "right" way? If you're like me, you've spent an unfortunate amount of time here. It's unfortunate – because my answer to this question is: Are you making the "right" decisions ACCORDING TO WHO? WHO has your monkey mind conjured up as being this almighty power, judging and evaluating your e...

You're having a GREAT day. You woke up happy. Life is golden. You're even having a good hair day and outfits on point.  And then BOOM... . Just like that, you see something online or someone says something and you're triggered AF. You feel like some outside force has taken over your body and think, "Can people visibly see the steam coming out of my ears?" Your day has gone to shit. Now what?  Are...

I'm not gonna be a broken record right now and tell you how "meditation is so good for fertility ." Thanks tips.  Am I right? You've heard it 1479 times before. Maybe you've heard it so much that you feel like if you're not doing it, you're a bad person. At least that's how I used to feel… I knew that it was good for me. Yet, my monkey mind had so much resistance to doing it. It would say that med...

After years of navigating the fertility journey, I'm thrilled to announce that I'm pregnant.  On the road to this life growing and thriving inside of me, I can say without a doubt that there was purpose in my wait. And that purpose was serving you. Which has brought me more joy than I knew possible and has revealed my very best self. I can confidently say that the fertility journey is the best thi...

Okay, I like NEVER do this – but this week I'm releasing ANOTHER podcast which is the last of the Q&A. Part 3 is HERE mama-bear! Here are 3 reasons why you should listen: 1. It'll show you that you're not alone. Actually, one question is about how to deal with loneliness while TTC, so if you've been feelin' isolated and "WTF – am I the only one?" – then it's def worth a listen. 2. Just listening w...

Remember that game "Never have I ever?" It's that game where you sat around drinking with your friends, asking questions like, "Never have I ever gone skinny dipping." And if you have been skinny dipping, you had to take a drink. If you've never been skinny dipping, you didn't have to take a sip. It's a game to not only be more vulnerable than usually, but to learn about other people too. So I wan...

As much as I know from first-hand experience what the fertility journey is like, and after coaching 100's of women – I still VERY MUCH want to know what you're personally going through.  I never want to lose touch with that.  Like, what thoughts are keeping you up at night… and what's thoughts are playing on loop in your brain like a super catchy, but over-played Billy Ray Cyrus song 🎶 (My niece...

Almost all of the women I speak to, feel like they're falling behind in life because they're not pregnant yet. This belief only causes more impatience and frustration to hurry the process up. To get it done ASAP at all costs. Which can create a mind-body disconnect. In this week's podcast, we learn how to turn that thought around so that you can look at your journey with more love, compassion and...

Although we believe our desirable circumstances - like a partner, a pregnancy, a successful career, a bikini body - will bring us joy…sometimes reaching your goals can bring feelings of uncomfortableness. Even though you're overwhelmed with joy, happiness and holy-shit-this-is-really-happening, it's still uncharted territory and can feel odd, because you've been the identity as someone who's been...

So often on the fertility journey, you're faced with decision fatigue as to what to do next, who's gonna support you, when's it gonna happen. And deep down, you're believing that there's a wrong way or doing things - and a right way of doing things. But believing that there is right and wrong, creates a very narrow path - of perfectionism - to take. And also not feeling that confident when you do...

We live in a world of "just do it." or in Canada, "get'er done!" For example, if you wanted to get your body moving more, or eat a bit better – culture/blogs/fertility experts tell you to just do it using your willpower. But to me, it's always felt so incredibly unnatural to use willpower. It's super masculine. And so not fun. Nothing good or better put, sustainable ever came from using willpower...

Really register the last time you took a step back, took a deep breath and really felt proud of yourself for something you created. Far too often, we put in SO much effort into a work project… a home project…a family project – and DON'T celebrate the creation. Most likely even rushing onto the next best thing. WITHOUT giving ourselves (and our team) props for building/creating/sculpting something...

You went to the family party. You were actually enjoying yourself. The people. The music. The yummy food. Until your Aunt Lucy/cousin Jane/Grandma Esther comes up to you and asks, "So how are you doing not having a kid yet? You know you should just RELAXXXX… have a glass of wine. You're probably just too uptight about it all!" You do your best to answer the question, fuming from the inside-out at...

Maybe you've been triggered by a pregnancy announcement or just got your period...AGAIN. Or maybe, you're just not feelin' so hot and you don't know why. Either way, press play on this podcast whenever you're having a shitty day. It's filled with easy tips to take you from bitter to better. It'll help shift your mindset from, "I shouldn't be feeling this way." TO "I'm allowed to have a day. To nur...

I was sitting in the bath, looking out the window and saw what I THOUGHT was a huge eagle in the sky.  "JACKPOT!" I whispered to myself. (Side note: I'm an avid bird watcher. I have two bird feeders in my backyard and two nests in my front yard. Something about them just fascinates me!).  When a couple seconds later, I realized it was a freaking plane. So I wondered, if the Wright Brothers (the in...

What happens when we wait for something outside of us to tell us we're doing enough, we have enough or we are enough? It becomes a very vicious cycle. A cycle of being vulnerable, putting your hopes and dreams out into the world - and then giving ALL of the power…the "did I do good enough this time?" to something or someone else. EVEN THOUGH you have the power inside of you - EVEN THOUGH you have...

Do you often imagine a more disciplined, put together, "perfect" version of yourself – and think, "Once I get my shit together and be more like her, THEN I'll get pregnant." ? But no matter how many times you change your diet. No matter how many different workouts you try. No matter how many fertility meditations you listen to on YouTube…you always seem to fall short of this flawless version of yo...

One of the biggest triggers my client's face are pregnancy announcements. On our coaching calls, it goes something like, "I want to be happy for them. And I am!  Really Spenser…I am. But I can't help but feel jealous and more alone than ever." And without awareness. Without mind-body work… these announcements can make you feel like a human punching bag while on the journey to your baby. It can tak...

A couple weeks ago I sent an email to my hubby Dan – and asked him if he'd like to be the first official guest on the Fertile Ground podcast (!!!) And he literally came downstairs (yes, he was just upstairs when I sent the email ) and had the CUTEST grin on his face and was absolutely honored to be able to share his perspective of the fertility journey. The intention of this podcast is to include...

Are you ever on a roll with your life?...You're workin' out, eating pretty well, tying up loose-ends at work, and feeling confident about this cycle – TO THEN have it all come crashing down after bingeing on Mcdonalds and vodka sodas at 1AM last Saturday night? The momentum and self-love about things feeling pretty awesome, have disappeared. And replaced with guilt and preparation to get your peri...

Ever compare your body to the women standing next to you in line at the Starbucks and think, "Man, I wonder what she eats. How often does she exercise? What size is she really?!" Let's be real, your monkey mind is making it mean that her body is more attractive, more healthier, more in control and that she's happier than you right? Which creates the whole shaming-blaming-judging games which lead t...

How many times have you been told, "Don't get your hopes up!". If you're anything like me..LOTS! Every time I decided to do something outside of the norm that seemed "too good to be true" for other people, I was told it probably wouldn't happen. While on the fertility journey, you might even start to believe this BS lie. Because after months or years of the pregnancy not happening, you choose not...

Asking for what you want seems like a pretty straight-forward thing for a human to do. You want something, so you ask for it. But then…why are we, especially as women, so afraid to ask for what we want? Why don't we ask for the raise? Why do we do all the housework, when our partner sits at the couch? Why is it so hard to ask your client to buy from you? In today's podcast, you'll learn why we res...

The art of doing nothing, which Italians describe as "La Dolce Far Niente" is a way of life, where you consciously create space in your day to do nothing. In a culture dominated by plans, goals and accomplishments - this sounds unproductive, lazy and a waste of time. But from a mind-body connection prospective, it is one of the most productive things you can do for your mental, physical and spirit...

Maybe you know that visualization will help you get pregnant – but it just feels like another annoying to-do on the list. Or maybe you don't know where to start – or IF or HOW visualization will actually help you to get pregnant. In today's podcast, you'll learn how it works, the benefits and the power of using your imagination to co-create your baby with the Universe. Listen now to tap into the m...