Fertile Ground: A mind-body approach to getting pregnant - without it taking over your life.

What if I told you that there is a program inside of your brain that is VERY unfair? Something that worked for our ancestors. A program inside of their brain that ensured they would survive. A program that helped them to live, find food and focus on threats, so that you could be here right now. But now-- in 2021 -- this program is a bug. In today's podcast, we're chatting about this internal progr...

You KNOW how powerful your mind is. Whether or not you're creating the life you want, you KNOW you have a very powerful part and responsibility in what your life looks and feels like right now. And if you didn't already know this, you wouldn't have signed up for my shit. You're a smart chick. An evolved soul. The real fucking deal. Something about my work -- the Fertile Ground podcast, the mind-bo...

When you see a pregnant woman in the grocery store, do you feel: Separate. Jealous. Sad. Annoyed. Angry. Different? Most women I speak to are ashamed to admit that these feelings come up when they see a big, pregnant belly. When we live in the logical, left side of our brain – of course you will see yourself as separate from them. That's what this side of the brain is designed to do. To create div...

I was on a coaching call last week and my client who has had 2 losses said, "I didn't even think I could define that experience as trauma." She's someone who thought that letting that word in, would keep that feeling of trauma there forever. When the exact opposite ended up coming true. She felt heard. Seen. And tears streamed from her face as we validated this traumatic experience for her. Trauma...

Imagine this…You go to bed at night…satisfied. No hunger. You wake up refreshed. You have NO guilt around what you ate the day before. No more gluten-shaming yourself. A "perfect diet" is no longer your target, and this makes you feel as though your body is enough and ready for pregnancy – despite eating foods on the "no-go-fertility" list. You feel open. You ARE open. In simpler terms, your worth...

Today's podcast is about a hot topic. We're chatting about surrender. This is another coaching call question about what is surrender really? How do you know when you're doing it? How do I know if I'm complicating it more than I need to? When you're on the journey alone - without support - you sometimes feel like you're doing things blindly. Like okay, I'll try this, but how do I know if it's worki...

We are featuring, yet another incredible client of mine and one of our coaching sessions during the Fertility Mind-Body Mastery Coaching Calls. I'm featuring this conversation because so many of the women who come to me are self-proclaimed people pleasers. People pleasing is serving everyone else but you — and wanting to be loved and needed by everyone. People pleasing weighs heavily on the mind a...

Today's coaching topic is Pregnancy After Loss. This is such a tender topic and a tender life experience. I went through it and for me, it wasn't easy. Pregnancy after loss can be anxiety inducing, which then leads you to have anxiety over having anxiety. It's this loop of trying to control how you feel — which only makes things feel worse. On this coaching call, I very gently coached my amazing n...

It's crazy how we want a baby to create more love in our lives… Yet, we are withholding love from ourselves until "it" happens. I know you're not doing this on purpose. I know that this is what you were taught about how life works:  To hold back love and acceptance from yourself and your body now. To not be worthy of celebration until "it" happens. Keep this release of love, acceptance and celebra...

"I'm trying to stay positive. But it's so hard." I hear this all the time. From women TTC who believe that positivity is their way to happiness and pregnancy. Conceptually this makes sense. And as a Sagittarius, I am naturally a very optimistic person and I love this about myself. So, I totally get this desire to be more positive and to FEEL more positive. BUT… there comes a point when the monkey...

Today is Mother's Day. I know you might not feel like you belong, or that you're included…But trust me when I say: You are 100% worth celebrating today. You have had to do so much more than the average person to bring your baby here. And I commend you for this. I honor every step you have taken and every step you will continue to take. Your persistence is so admirable. Because of this, I am celebr...

9 years ago, I know I needed help. I had been trying to get pregnant for almost a year and was totally and completely obsessed with TTC. I vividly remember sitting at my desk at my old accounting job and googling "how to stop worrying" while simultaneously also googling, "first pregnancy symptoms". It consumed my everything. I knew something needed to change because life wasn't fun anymore and my...

Being categorized as a controlling person is not a title that one strives for. And when you're TTC, you might think it's the reason why you're struggling so much. Many of my clients describe themselves as planners and perfectionists who thrive off of being very productive, getting shit done and doing things the "right" way. And honestly, these qualities can be beneficial in life and can help you t...

There is one crazy sneaky limiting belief that plays a HUGE role in the TTC journey. I discovered that I was letting this thought run my journey for years. It was making every little thing feel forced, my body felt tight and it made my mind race with thoughts. I let the belief go, just a few months before getting pregnant. And as I saw how disbelieving this thought changed the entire course of my...

I get it. You've spent years, trying your absolute best to create this baby. You've taken risks and invested big. Showed up to all those appointments. Brave enough to go through those procedures. Nursed yourself back to life after getting unfavorable results back. And been strong as hell to carry on. But let's be real right now and admit…You're EXHAUSTED! And you know what? UNDERSTANDABLY. You've...

This is a very special episode of the Fertile Ground podcast. I don't do guests – but Cammie's an exception. She signed up for coaching with me 2.5 years ago. At that point, she had had 4 miscarriages and was also grieving the loss of her mother. After signing up, she said, "I need support and I resonate with your message, but I don't want to talk fertility." I was in. Soon after… the magic starte...

How many times have you tried to change things up while on your fertility journey? You tried to change your diet. From real bread to gluten-free. You tried to change your stress levels. From wine o'clock to a quick 5-minute meditation. You tried to change your mind. From "I can't do this." to "I can do this." All in the hopes that these well-intentioned changes will stick and move the needle towar...

What I resented most about TTC for so long, was how alone I felt, and how hardly anyone knew how to support me through it. Your monkey mind might tell you that it's just easier NOT to talk about it and you might even subconsciously isolate yourself, because you believe you're safer this way. But the last thing isolation is on the journey, is safe and easy. And although you're attempts are to feel...

As a woman, it's normal to take on this responsibility of figuring out this fertility mystery all on your own. Most women take it allllll on. Because their mind doesn't even show them that there's another option. Your monkey mind says, "You're a woman. This is what YOU do. This is YOUR role. Suck it up and figure it out." So you try your best to think the right thoughts, cook the right food, book...

I know our culture suggests that if we want more – and you want to make a baby - you have to *do* more. And gosh, it's so easy to get caught here. Even in something as magical as manifestation – we try to "achieve" by doing/pushing/forcing more and trying everything to make the manifestation happen. But manifesting is a whole other way of creating your baby. One that creates better results, withou...

If I asked you what it is to be successful on the fertility journey, you'd say it was to get pregnant. Seems obvious. But if you believe the thought that success = pregnancy, then how do you feel at the end of the month if it doesn't happen? You feel like a great. big. failure. Which gives you even more of a reason to stress out, believe that somethings wrong with you, and keep up with the story t...

It has been almost a year since I got pregnant. And so, I've been reflecting on that time in my life. Getting a little nostalgic about it! And it was the FIRST time in a very long fertility journey, that I learned how to let go of guilt. Letting go of guilt was like letting go of a 400 lb weight on my back, and I believe it contributed greatly to my happiness and getting pregnant. For a long time,...

Some days you can't shut that brain off…Fears about your age. "If it doesn't happen this year, then what?" The diagnosis. "I better ask Dr. google what my chances are now." The mystery. "If everything is fine – why hasn't it happened yet?" And this is just the beginning. These thoughts lead to new, sometimes even scarier thoughts. Next thing ya know, you've entered a rabbit hole of uncertainty, fr...

When you've been TTC for a while, a *perfect* lifestyle coupled with *perfect* thinking, is subliminally, yet absolutely encouraged by many experts in the fertility field. Believing that perfection is the only way to conception, can very obviously lead to you being incredibly hard on yourself, when the human side of you still exists in this lifetime (shocking…I know).  And one easier-to-notice hin...

Would you pay good money to watch a new, hot movie in the theatre – but watch it from the end to beginning?  That'd be a waste of your hard-earned cash and a super boring/confusing date night. Yet, when it comes to your fertility – yearning to know how its gonna turn out is a daily worry that leaves you feeling unnecessarily out of control. I've had many women say to me, "I can wait Spenser. I jus...