Dolcie Life

There are a dozen versions of you living in other people's heads and not a single one of them is yours to manage. In this episode we're unpacking people pleasing: where it actually comes from, why it was never the selfless act we've been told it is and what it's really protecting you from. I share my own history under the people pleasing label plus the nervous system science behind the fawn respon...

Part 2 with Emily Adams, clinical exercise physiologist and co-founder of Her Health, built on one idea: your body isn't a system to hack, it's a language to learn. Emily reframes menopause as a transition into the wise years, not something to fear. She breaks down what oestrogen really does beyond reproduction, for your bones, muscles and heart, and why resistance training is essential. We walk t...

This week I'm joined by Emily Adams, a clinical exercise physiologist who specialises in women's health and co-runs the brand and podcast Her Health. Emily shares her own story: losing her cycle for years and the long, frustrating road of chasing a reason that no one could quite give her. We get into what nervous system regulation actually looks like in the body, why awareness is always the first...

We're halfway through the year, so before we get into today's topic, I'm taking you through a mid-year check-in: a chance to revisit the theme word and focus areas you set back in December, celebrate what's actually shifted, release what's crept back in and recalibrate for the back half of the year. Then we get into the heart of the episode: being a beginner. What if the beginner phase, the part w...

This one is all about going all in, on purpose. This week, I'm joined by my beautiful friend Sara, a teacher turned endurance athlete who recently stepped away from full-time teaching to go all in on her other passions. We talk about taking the leap, her honest take on risk, her journey from running 7km to 30+km, her insane race calendar, how she builds a like-minded community and finding the bala...

We spend so much of our lives waiting for the hard bit to be over. Waiting to arrive, to exhale, to finally start enjoying things. But what if the hard part isn't the obstacle? What if it's actually the point? In this episode, we explore delayed living fatigue: the quiet exhaustion of treating your own life like a waiting room. We talk about what it means to be where your feet are while still work...

If you've ever set a goal, felt genuinely excited about it and then somehow ended up doing the exact opposite - this episode is going to change the way you see yourself. We break down the psychology of self-sabotage through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work, explaining why what we call 'sabotage' is almost always protection. Understanding the difference between managers, fir...

Failure. We all do it and most of us are really bad at handling it. In this episode, we get into the psychology of failure: why our first response is almost never curiosity, what actually happens in the nervous system when we get it wrong and why the meaning we attach to failure is almost always inaccurate. What if reframing the way you see failure was actually the key to growing faster and succee...

There's no version of your life that doesn't come with hard. Staying put is hard. Changing is hard. Saying yes is hard. Saying no is hard. The question was never how to avoid the hard, it's which hard you're going to choose. In this episode, we explore the concept of choosing your hard, why our nervous systems are wired to prefer a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven, and what it actually take...

Spoiler: I thought it was a three-year degree, but here I am seven years later... In honour of master's graduation week, we're going on a bit of a journey through the last seven years of full time study. Joined by Marty, we reflect on the psychology pathway in Australia, my experience, the limiting beliefs I had to work through, the sacrifices that were and weren't worth it and what it feels like...

A chatty life update to kick us off and then we get into something I feel really strongly about - movement as free medicine for your mental health and why your lunch break walk is the perfect place to start. We get into the science of what's going on in your brain when you step outside and walk at lunch - from BDNF and neuroplasticity to blood sugar, bilateral movement, circadian rhythm and the de...

"But what does dysregulation sound like?" Let's expand on episode 19! In this episode, we're breaking down the everyday thoughts and behaviours that feel like logic, discipline or practicality but are actually your nervous system outside its window. We're moving through four of the most relatable areas: your body, your relationship with rest, your work and your connections, and flipping the script...

You may already know what a nervous system is, but have you ever actually visualised it? In this episode, we're diving into the window of tolerance, a concept developed by Dr Dan Siegel that explains the zone in which your nervous system can actually function, think clearly and respond rather than react. We're breaking down what happens when stress, overwhelm or burnout push you above it into hype...

You can't stop scrolling, you snack 'too much' on junk foods, you check your phone for the fifth time in ten minutes and for some reason, you feel flat. Hello dysregulated dopamine system... In this episode we're breaking down one of the most talked about and most misunderstood chemicals in your brain. What dopamine does, why the things we reach for when we're stressed or bored are quietly making...

In this episode, we're challenging everything you think you know about jealousy and getting into what it's actually trying to show you. Because here's the thing, you cannot be jealous of something that doesn't matter to you. Your jealousy is not a flaw. It's a mirror. When you learn to read it, it becomes one of the most powerful self-awareness tools you have. We explore the psychology behind jeal...

A very chatty catch up and life update. Life feels crazy full right now and for a long time I've put so much pressure on myself to do all of it perfectly. But, I've decided that good enough really gets to be good enough and that constantly chasing 'perfect' is one of the most exhausting things we can do to ourselves. In this episode I'm sharing my experiences of perfectionism, the mental load of a...

In this episode, we're getting into the link between hormonal health and mental health - the connection that's been historically dismissed, massively under-researched and overlooked in too many treatment rooms. If you've ever felt like a completely different person at different points in your cycle, had your symptoms brushed off as "just PMS," or been handed a prescription without anyone looking a...

You likely learnt your relationship patterns before you could even speak. In this week's episode of Dolcie Life, we're diving deep into attachment theory - where it comes from, what it does to your nervous system, and how it quietly shapes the way you love, fight, connect, and even talk to yourself. Whether you're deep in a pattern you can't quite name, or just want to understand yourself and your...

Marty and I sat down on a Monday night, post-CrossFit, and ended up in one of our deep conversations (and you get to be part of it too). We talk about people pleasing, social comparison and what it actually takes to stop living for other people's opinions. Marty shares how being teased in early high school quietly became one of the most formative lessons of his life. I open up about the flip side,...

Ever lie awake replaying a conversation, worrying about an outcome you have zero power over? That mental energy adds up and most of it is being spent on things you can never actually change. In this episode, we're diving into the Circle of Control: what the research says about where we focus our energy, how it shapes our anxiety and wellbeing, and why accepting what's outside your control will mov...

This week we're diving into a topic that is way more common than we talk about - burnout. We're getting into what burnout actually is, how it differs from everyday exhaustion and the physical, emotional, and cognitive signs that your nervous system really needs you to listen to. I share my own experience of burnout and what it actually takes to recover (and spoiler, pushing through doesn't work)....

This week's episode is all about bridging the gap between who you are & who you’re meant to be. Not for expectations, not for social media and certainly not or comfort. We talk about - Living for yourself (not for the audience) - Clarifying your values - Acting as your future self before the evidence is there - Moving through fear instead of staying comfortable - The neuroscience behind manifestat...

In this week's real talk ep I am joined by my fiancé Marty (back by popular demand) for an honest conversation about what it has taken us to build and maintain a strong partnership. As we plan our wedding and navigate building a life together, we're reflecting on the rituals, routines, and yes, the rogue habits that shape our relationship. We dive into the small, intentional practices that keep us...

Last episode, we talked about the gut-brain connection: what it is, how it works, and why your gut health directly impacts your mood, anxiety, and mental clarity. Today we're getting into practical strategies. Now that you understand the connection, what do you actually DO about it? In this episode, I'm breaking down six evidence-based strategies you can start implementing this week to support you...

In this episode, we're diving into the gut-brain axis - the two-way communication highway between your digestive system and your brain. We'll explore how the trillions of microbes living in your gut are constantly sending signals that influence your mood, anxiety levels, and even how you think. We talk about Why your gut is often called your "second brain" (and what that actually means) The surpri...