Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

It's in a lot of couples' nightstands. Almost nobody talks about it honestly. Today we fix that. In Episode 38, Scott and Brittney break down everything couples need to know about personal lubricant — the most underrated, under-discussed tool in intimacy. Not as a solution to a problem, but as an enhancement to an already good thing. They cover all four main types: water-based, silicone-based, oil...

Most people rate themselves as above average in bed. Statistically, that's impossible. And the gap between how people assess their own performance and what their partner is actually experiencing is where most sexual dissatisfaction quietly lives. In Episode 37, Scott and Brittney go somewhere most podcasts won't: the specific, research-backed patterns that make people consistently disappointing in...

Most couples have annual physicals, quarterly financial reviews, and performance check-ins at work. Their relationship — the most important thing in their lives — gets evaluated only when something breaks. In Episode 36, Scott and Brittney introduce the Relationship State of the Union: a structured 90-day check-in that gives couples a dedicated, intentional space to assess where they are before sm...

No frameworks. No research drops. No homework. Just opinions — and our most unpopular ones. In Episode 35, Scott and Brittney bring five genuine hot takes about sex and relationships that go against conventional wisdom, popular advice, and what most people want to hear. Then they defend every single one. Scheduled sex is better than spontaneous sex. Most couples don't need more communication — the...

When couples say they want better sex, they're usually wanting three completely different things — and most of the time they don't realize they're in different conversations. In Episode 34, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most practically useful frameworks in intimacy: the Three Dimensions of Sex. Partner sex — the intimacy dimension, craving genuine connection with a specific known person...

Why do you feel anxious after really good sex? Why does your partner pull away right when things get close? Why does a dry spell feel like evidence that the relationship is falling apart — even when you know logically that it isn't? The answer is almost always attachment. In Episode 33, Scott and Brittney complete their personality framework trilogy — Love Languages, Enneagram, and now attachment...

You know your Enneagram number. But do you know what it's been quietly telling you about what you need in bed? Following the success of last week's Love Languages episode, Scott and Brittney go deeper with the framework that actually explains why you want what you want — not just what you want. The Enneagram goes beyond behavior into motivation, which makes it uniquely revealing when applied to in...

You know your love language. But do you know what it looks like in bed? In Episode 31, Scott and Brittney take Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages — one of the most widely recognized relationship frameworks in the world — and translate each one specifically into what it looks like during intimacy. Not in general. In the bedroom. Because there's a massive gap between knowing your love language and k...

No research drops. No homework. Just a game — and a surprisingly revealing one. In Episode 30, Scott and Brittney play Would You Rather: Couples Intimacy Edition. Fifteen questions, real-time answers, zero prep — and more than a few moments where one of them surprises the other. Would you rather have amazing sex once a month or good sex three times a week? Would you rather know every fantasy your...

The orgasm gap is one of the most documented — and least honestly discussed — realities in sexual research. In heterosexual sex, men orgasm 95% of the time. Women? 65%. And that gap isn't a body problem. It's an information and attention problem. In Episode 29, Scott and Brittney tackle the female orgasm head-on — covering the anatomy most couples were never taught, the research on what actually w...

We made our actual Intimacy Bucket List. Then we told you which ones we've done. In Episode 28, Scott and Brittney get personal with 10 sexual experiences every couple should try at least once — and instead of keeping it theoretical, they share exactly where each item lands for them personally. Done it? Haven't gotten there yet? One of them more into it than the other? You're getting the real answ...

Where did you learn about sex and intimacy? Movies? Church? A locker room? A well-meaning friend who was just as clueless as you? Most of us absorbed our earliest beliefs about intimacy from sources that were wrong, incomplete, or actively harmful — and we've been quietly running on those beliefs ever since. In Episode 27, Scott and Brittney get personal and a little vulnerable as they walk throug...

One of the most searched, least honestly discussed topics in couples' intimacy — and we're going there. In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle anal sex for beginners: the real statistics, the anatomy you actually need to understand, a practical step-by-step guide for couples who want to explore it safely, and the emotional conversation that most how-to guides skip entirely. Whether you're curi...

How connected are you — really? Not how connected you used to be. Not how connected you intend to be. Right now, today — how well do you actually know what your partner is carrying, what they need, and how satisfied they are? In Episode 25, Scott and Brittney do something a little different: they walk through a 7-question Intimacy Audit live — answering each question honestly, reacting to each oth...

You don't need a weekend retreat to feel close again. You need six seconds. In Episode 24, Scott and Brittney break down the research-backed micro-rituals that keep connected couples close — and that disconnected couples have quietly stopped doing. These aren't elaborate date nights or weekend getaways. They're small, repeatable practices that take ten minutes or less, and the science behind them...

What if the reason your sex life feels stuck has nothing to do with what you're doing — and everything to do with what you're feeling? In Episode 23, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most powerful frameworks in intimacy: Core Desires. These are the emotional experiences you're actually craving during sex and closeness — and most people have never once named them out loud. They walk through...

It's one of the most Googled questions in the history of relationships — and one of the least talked about honestly. In this episode, Scott and Brittney tackle the penis size conversation head-on, cutting through cultural myths, porn-fueled distortions, and the silent insecurities that quietly affect men and their partners every day. They break down what peer-reviewed research actually says — incl...

Most couples don’t struggle with intimacy because they don’t love each other — they struggle because they’re making common mistakes without realizing it. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we break down the top 10 intimacy mistakes couples make in long-term relationships and marriage — and what to do instead. We talk about: Why waiting for spontaneous desire doesn’t work How resentment quietly...

If we had to narrow everything we’ve learned about intimacy down to just three things, this would be it. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we share our top three foundations for better sex: Communication — understanding each other’s erotic style and emotional needs Curiosity — staying open, evolving, and willing to try new experiences Confidence — the energy and presence that create true attr...

We’ve been building something new inside Coelle — and this week, we’re giving you a preview. In our next app update, we’re launching two brand-new categories: Warm-Ups and How-To (Instructional) Sessions— eight new guided audio experiences designed to make intimacy more accessible, flexible, and confidence-building. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we share: Why we created these new categori...

In this episode of Do You Feel That? , Scott shares three of his favorite guided audio experiences from Coelle — the ones he personally returns to and why they work so well for him. We talk about: What each session creates emotionally and physically Why certain styles of guidance support confidence and presence How guided audio removes pressure and decision-making Why different partners naturally...

Last week, we introduced guided audio intimacy — what it is and why it works so well for couples. This week, we’re taking it one step further. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , Brittney shares three of her favorite guided audio experiences from Coelle — the ones she returns to most and why they resonate so deeply with her. We talk about: What each experience creates emotionally and physically...

What if intimacy didn’t require figuring out what to do, what to say, or who should lead? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we introduce guided audio intimacy — what it is, how it works, and why it’s been such a powerful tool for couples who want deeper connection without pressure or overthinking. We talk about: Why so many couples struggle to stay present during intimacy How guidance reduces...

Have you ever wanted closeness… but the moment things turned sexual, your body pulled back? Or wanted desire… but suddenly felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or numb? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we introduce the concept of toggling — the ability to move back and forth between safety and stimulation, comfort and edge, without shutting down or pushing through discomfort. Because great intima...

Most couples think intimacy is shaped by what happens before sex or during it. But research and experience tell a different story. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore why what happens after sex plays a powerful role in emotional safety, bonding, and whether you’ll actually want intimacy again in the future. We talk about: Why the moments after sex are emotionally vulnerable (even whe...