Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast

If you’ve ever noticed that one of you almost always initiates intimacy — while the other rarely does — you’re not alone. This dynamic is incredibly common in long-term relationships, and it’s far more about how desire works than how much someone wants their partner. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we unpack the initiation gap — why it forms, why it hurts so deeply, and how couples can reba...

Curious about sex toys but not sure where to start — or how to bring it up without making things weird? You’re not alone. Most couples are interested in using toys together… they just don’t know how to talk about it. In this week’s episode of Do You Feel That? , we break down everything you need to know to explore toys in a way that feels fun, connected, and completely pressure-free. We cover: Why...

Why do some things turn you on instantly… but do nothing for your partner? Why does one of you want slow, sensual connection while the other wants direct, intense, sexual energy? You’re not mismatched — you’re just speaking different erotic languages. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we break down Jaiya’s 5 Erotic Blueprints — the Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter — and how...

Raising kids changes everything — your time, your energy, your body, your identity… and yes, your sex life. If passion feels harder, less frequent, or basically nonexistent after becoming parents, you’re not alone and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we dive deep into why desire shifts so dramatically after kids and what you can actually do to rebuild intimacy in a...

Mismatched desire is one of the most common (and misunderstood) challenges couples face. One partner is in the mood… the other isn’t. One wants connection… the other is overloaded. And suddenly intimacy feels complicated, emotional, or even tense. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore what’s really happening when you and your partner want sex at different times and why it has nothing t...

Every couple feels it — that magnetic spark that makes everything come alive. But what happens when the energy between you goes flat? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore masculine and feminine polarity — the energetic dance that fuels attraction, connection, and chemistry. We break down what these energies really mean (beyond gender), why balance is essential, and how to reignite tha...

Feeling sexy has a lot less to do with how you look — and everything to do with how connected you feel to yourself. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we dive into what real confidence looks like in the context of intimacy. From body image and aging to self-talk and the energy you bring into the bedroom, we explore how true sexiness starts from the inside out. We share personal stories about l...

Intimacy doesn’t begin and end in the bedroom — it’s built in the small moments of everyday life. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we talk about what real intimacy looks like beyond sex: emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual connection. We share the ways we’ve learned to stay close even when we’re not being physical, and how those deeper layers of connection actually make the sexu...

What if foreplay didn’t start five minutes before sex — but five hours before? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore what foreplay really means and why it’s so much more than a quick warm-up. From small gestures and emotional connection to playful anticipation, we talk about how desire starts long before clothes come off. You’ll hear how we each experience foreplay differently, what tr...

You love your partner — but sometimes, you’re just tired. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we talk about what really happens when life, work, and exhaustion get in the way of intimacy. From mental load and stress to the myth that desire should always come first, we unpack why being “too tired” isn’t a sign of disconnection — it’s an opportunity to redefine what intimacy looks like. We share...

We all want to be honest about what turns us on — but saying it out loud? That can feel tricky. In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we explore how to communicate your desires in ways that actually build connection instead of shutting it down. From side-by-side conversations (as Dr. Charlie Glickman recommends) to asking better questions inspired by the Libido Fairy, we share how small shifts in...

Is putting intimacy on the calendar the secret to keeping your connection alive — or the fastest way to kill the mood? In this episode of Do You Feel That? , we dive into one of the biggest debates in modern relationships: whether sex should be spontaneous or scheduled. We explore why spontaneity feels so exciting, why scheduling might actually increase satisfaction, and what the research really s...

What happens when you invite a stranger’s voice into your bedroom? In our very first episode of Do You Feel That? , we share the story of pressing play on a guided intimacy session for the very first time. Was it sexy? Awkward? Surprisingly deep? Maybe all of the above. We talk about how it felt to set the scene, what surprised us during the experience, and the honest conversation that followed af...