Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

This is a very special episode I am super excited about! I'm working with a wonderful couple who allowed me to record our sessions together. This episode is a snippet of our second session together and the growth they have experienced in just 1-2 session is unbelievable. So instead of me telling you about how well they're doing, I wanted you to witness it and also see specifically what they did to...

In order to sustain progress and avoid relapse in the future, it's so important to not only develop new habits but actually reprocess your triggers. Most men get triggered by being home alone, stress, loneliness, and other situations like that. The problem is that life is difficult and we will experience those things countless times so if those triggers are connected to pornography use, you'll str...

The nagging feeling of an urge or temptation can become so powerful it's hard to resist. In this episode I share with you specific approaches and tools you can implement to conquer any urges without needing to rely on Willpower or discipline. Tune in to learn: The key to not feel bad about sexual desire   The difference between and urge to watch pornography and normal sexual energy (and how to nav...

Navigating sexual intimacy after the impact of pornography can be so difficult! In this episode we do a deep dive to help you know how to integrate sexual intimacy back into your relationship in a way that feels comfortable and safe. Many couples have lots of questions and reservations, tune in to learn: How do we know if we are ready for sex again?   Will being sexual trigger him to watch pornogr...

Having hard conversations in your marriage after pornography addiction is one of the most important skills you can learn. However, there are many things that can get in the way of having productive conversations together. Tune in to learn: The top reasons why conversations go south (and what you can do about it) How to productively have conversations without rehashing the past over and over Ways t...

Is there a difference between a slip and a relapse, and at what point should he tell his wife? In this episode I detail not only the differences between a slip and a relapse but exactly how you can find Freedom from both by resolving the trigger itself. The traditional way of overcoming pornography is based in helping men prepare for battle. However, much like Pavlov's dog, our brains create power...

Forgiveness is such an important element in the healing process, yet most people go about it in a way that causes resistance, pressure and frustration. Trying to forgive too early in the process can bring up a lot of pain, so finding tools and a method to help you in this process can be so freeing. In this episode I share the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and the relationship...

In your journey of overcoming pornography addiction and rebuilding trust in your relationship, it's so important to understand the root of the problem in a way that leads to lasting solutions. In this episode, we'll explore five key points that will benefit any man seeking to overcome pornography addiction and a couple to repair their relationship. Unraveling Resentment and Score-Keeping: Discover...

In the process of overcoming pornography addiction, so many men focus on tracking sobriety. However, there is a big problem with using that as the measurement of success –   • Unintentionally it creates fear, concern and anxiety about when the next time I slip will occur. • It amplifies discouragement and decreases motivation whenever there is a slip after a long streak occurs • Focusing on avoidi...

When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, both he and his wife often feel concerned that he'll run out of motivation to stay consistent.  And it's true, using methods that don't work can leave him feeling discouraged, frustrated and exhausted.  In this episode I share with you two specific strategies to give you unlimited motivation to stay consistent, focused and steady when it comes to...

One of the most damaging things to a relationship is dishonesty. He completely undermines trust, makes a woman second-guess everything her husband says, and at least two arguments and fighting. So often, many men have a knee-jerk reaction of being dishonest despite him knowing that it causes more damage. Instead of pushing harder for honesty and reminding him of how important it is to tell the tru...

In the previous episode I talked about the negative communication cycles that every couple get stuck in. I shared with you the formula to communicate effectively to create understanding and connection between you and your spouse. But what if you run into roadblocks and that communication doesn't work when you try it? This episode is all about how to address the three most common blocks (and tools...

Every couple gets caught in negative communication cycles. When there is anger, defensiveness, shutting down and avoidance, it makes it impossible for a couples to find connection and resolution to the problems they are facing. In this episode I share with you the most common negative cycle and the specific formula detailing how you can escape the pattern to create a file of connection and underst...

Pornography addiction has a huge impact on the self-esteem of the husband who struggles as well as his wife who has been devastated by his addiction.  In this episode, I share with you three specific strategies that you can use immediately to begin to rebuild your self-esteem, increase your confidence and feelings of worth, and feel more hopeful and optimistic about the future. For therapy with Sa...

Get ready for an eye-opening episode where we tackle the challenge of overcoming the urge to watch pornography.  Join us as we delve into a new way to deal with the triggers and nagging thoughts that constantly tempt men towards pornography. In this episode, I share a unique approach that throws traditional willpower and discipline out the window and help you discover a new approach that is sustai...

Do you ever feel trapped in the same addiction cycle, struggling for years without making any progress? You're not alone. But there's one secret that can help you break free and heal for good: self-compassion. Many people believe that being hard on themselves will make them do better, but research shows that self-compassion is the key to overcoming addiction. In this episode, we'll share the story...

Today we're going to talk about pornography addiction and how it can affect a marriage.  It's a problem that undermines safety, destroys trust, and creates a feeling of betrayal for the spouse.  But the good news is that there are three things you can do to address this problem and save your marriage from being stuck in a cycle of mistrust and pain. When a relationship lacks safety, it can be hard...

Struggling with pornography addiction can be a difficult road to travel, especially when trying to rebuild trust in a relationship.  Even when progress is made, there's often a fear of slipping back into old habits, which can leave both partners feeling discouraged and defeated.  In this episode, we'll explore how to approach this issue differently, so that you can feel peace and confidence as you...

Podbean info:   After pornography addiction damage is a marriage, there are three critical conversations to have in order to heal and find closure. So often couples will rehash the past, feel completely overwhelmed or avoid having a difficult conversations for fear of them leading to a fight. In this episode I share with you not only with those three conversations are but how to have them in a pro...

“I’ll just quit tomorrow.” “It’s not that big of a deal if I look at Instagram for a bit.” “I won’t look at full-blown pornography, just a few pictures.” These are the kinds of statements that indicate a man has been triggered into his acting out pattern in pornography addiction, and unless he intervenes and breaks that pattern, it’ll be impossible for him to find the freedom he truly wants at his...

When a marriage is impacted by pornography addiction, it causes a lot of damage and pain. One of the most important things in the healing process is having compassion and empathy for a wife who has been impacted, but unfortunately having conversations where there is compassion and empathy can be difficult. It's easy for men to get stuck feeling shame and want to avoid these difficult conversations...

On the path to overcoming a pornography addiction, there are often slips and relapses, and those conversations are painful to have. There is a clear, three-step framework I teach to clients to actually make those conversations feel productive and provide some hope about moving forward together despite the recent slip.  In this episode I share with you exactly how to have that conversation, which c...

Sexual intimacy is often times badly damaged after discovering a pornography addiction.  There are fears, feelings of inadequacy, triggers, and painful feeling that go along with intimacy as a result of pornography use. In this episode I'll share with you three ways you can improve your intimacy, how to handle triggers, and ways to have conversations together that actually are productive and bring...

When overcoming a pornography addiction, many men experience feelings of unworthiness or some version of feeling not good enough, failure, bad, or defective.  Very often, a wife will experience unworthiness and not feeling good enough as a result of her husband’s addiction. Overcoming feelings of unworthiness is such a critical part of the healing process for people because these painful emotions...

Creating boundaries in a marriage that's been affected by pornography addiction is a very common solution that offered.  I found that there are certain types of boundaries and the timing they are implemented can cause a detrimental effect on the health of a marriage unintentionally.  In this episode I share some principles to guide you as you are determining what boundaries to put in place and for...