Confidence Matters

This is the second post for our July theme of alignment. If you missed the first, you can read or listen to it here: Week 1 - It Is Hard Being Someone You Are Not Is there someone you completely trust to make your decisions for you? A few years ago, I met Jay, a young woman in her 20s who was living with her partner. She was bright and outgoing, quite an extrovert, in fact. She had never felt comf...

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This month, we’re exploring what it means to live in alignment. What changes when you stop trying to become someone else and start living as yourself? As we enter the second half of 2026, this feels like the most important conversation we’ve had so far. June’s theme of self-trust was about trusting yourself. In many ways, self-trust is the foundation, and alignment is its expression. Where self-tr...

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Who do you trust? You might have said your best friend, your partner, your mother, or someone else. Most people won’t automatically think of themselves as the person they trust most. More than likely, the person you trust doesn’t even trust themselves. Why don’t we trust ourselves? The answer links back to last month’s theme: negative self-talk. It’s very difficult to trust someone who is constant...

This is the second post for our June theme of self-trust. If you missed the first, you can read or listen to it here: Week 1 - The Reasons Why We Stop Trusting Ourselves Self-trust is not about knowing which path is perfect. It is about trusting yourself to walk whichever path you choose. I have stood frozen at the metaphorical fork in the road so many times. Decisions are hard when you don’t trus...

This post kicks off our June theme: self-trust. Learning to feel safe in your own decisions, feelings, and voice. It seems a natural follow-on to May’s theme of negative self-talk. If you are looking to trust yourself more than you do, then I invite you to subscribe and maybe consider joining our Confidence Circle , where we explore confidence issues in depth. One of the quietest effects of low co...

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Our theme for May is negative self-talk. This is the final post of the series. If you missed the previous three, you can find them here: Week 1 - The Voice in Your Head Isn’t Who You Think It Is Week 2- You have Changed Your Thoughts, So Why Are You Still Thinking Them? Week 3 - You Don’t Have to Believe Every Thought You Hear For a long time, I believed the voice in my head was simply who I was....

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Our theme for May is negative self-talk. This is the third of four posts . If you missed the previous two, you can find them here: Week 1 - The Voice in Your Head Isn’t Who You Think It Is Week 2- You have Changed Your Thoughts, So Why Are You Still Thinking Them? Let me give you an example of my negative self-talk. I’m planning to host a solo live based on negative self-talk and how to manage it....

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The story of a young 16-year-old with psychosis who healed himself, became a monk, and now teaches wellness and meditation. At the beginning of his journey after returning to lay life, Promise said something that stuck with me. ‘This has to work, Sue, there is no Plan B.’ I caught up with Promise to see how he was getting on. Thank you to everyone who joined us live. We appreciate you. This is a p...

Our theme for May is negative self-talk. This is the second of four posts . If you missed last week’s, you can read or listen to it here: The Voice in Your Head Isn’t Who You Think It Is That voice in your head is here to stay. No matter how much confidence you build, you may still hear your inner critic from time to time. One thing I have realised over the years is that building confidence does n...

Our theme for May is negative self-talk. This is the first of four posts . Growing up, I firmly believed two things: * I was not clever. * I had nothing interesting to say. I have no idea exactly where or when these beliefs started. I thought I should be clever like my younger sister, and I was a shy introvert. Those feel like the starting points. After that, my brain seemed to collect “evidence”...

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For the first half of my life, I needed people to understand and agree with me. I wanted to be sure my words were acceptable. If someone said, “I don’t agree,” it would have felt crushing. They didn’t even have to say it; I would always scan faces for permission to speak. We started April with a simple idea to explore: Confident communication naturally develops when you feel safe, grounded, and co...

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It was a gradual shift, but I was becoming more confident in social situations. There was still that initial social anxiety, the voice inside telling me to back out and stay safe . But I started to move through it. I could walk through the door, stay and even have decent conversations. That, for me, was a milestone. No longer turning around and going home. No longer staying in the background, hopi...