Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

Do you wish you could stop caring so much because your empathy has been used against you? If you’re exhausted from carrying everyone else’s emotions while your own needs go unmet, this episode is for you.  Learn why your empathy isn’t a flaw that needs fixing–it’s a gift that needs protecting. Discover the difference between healthy empathy and survival-mode hypervigilance, and get practical tools...

Recovery isn’t just about stopping harmful behaviors - it’s about rediscovering your authentic self. This week Alana explores how trauma disconnects us from who we really are and offers hope for reclaiming your true identity. What you’ll learn: Why recovery is about becoming, not just stopping How trauma disconnects us from our true identity Practical steps for rediscovering yourself Coming Up! Re...

Do you feel like you and your partner are on different pages in your healing journey? In this episode, Alana tackles the challenges faced when one partner believes they've done “enough” healing while the other still feels the relationship isn't whole.  Listen to understand: The complexity and layers of the healing process The importance of clear communication and setting boundaries How to...

What happens when recovery focuses solely on stopping harmful behaviors but ignores the deeper work of connection? Stephen Thomas (coach at Choose Recovery Services) joins Alana this week and reveals why true sexual health must include your partner's experience and input. This conversation challenges conventional recovery approaches and offers a roadmap to the intimacy we all crave. Learn more...

Is your relationship leaving you feeling confused and hurt? This week, Alana explores subtle and overt forms of abuse, emotional turmoil, and the challenges of recognizing harmful patterns.  Listen to learn: How to recognize different forms of abuse Why it's hard to accept abuse  Practical steps for beginning the process of healing from abuse Register Now! Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive -...

This week Amie welcomes Isy Williams to the podcast! Isy is a coach with Choose Recovery Services. She has a background in sociology and counseling and has personal experience with betrayal trauma and recovery. Isy shares her journey from the devastating early stages of discovery to finding new strength and resilience on the other side of trauma. She offers hope to those wondering what life after...

Are you confused about whether your partner can help you in your healing journey or if you need to do it alone? This powerful episode breaks down the myth that it's an either/or situation.  Alana and her guest Luke Gordon (Executive Director of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) dive deep into the three essential ways partners can support healing—emotional avai...

Are you struggling with patience in your recovery journey? This week Amie and Alana delve into the nuanced concept of patience, its role in healing from betrayal, and how to cultivate it healthily.  Learn to balance patience with reality, recognize unhealthy patterns, and empower yourself to know when your patience is being honored and when it’s not. Register Now! Should I Stay Or Go? Struggling w...

How do couples navigate shared grief and rebuild their relationship after betrayal? This week Amie and Alana explore the phases of healing, particularly focusing on shared grief in Phase Two.  Listen in as Alana shares a personal example of shared grief in her life, and learn how grieving together can create greater empathy, emotional stability, and a stronger partnership. Register Now! Believing...

Are you struggling with acceptance in your grief journey? This week Amie and Alana delve into the often-overlooked, cyclical nature of acceptance when it comes to betrayal trauma.  Listen in as they share personal stories and practical advice on learning to face reality, validate your experiences, and ultimately, return to a place of self-trust. Mentioned in the episode: On Grief and Grieving by E...

Are you struggling with the overwhelming emotions of grief? In this episode, Amie and Alana dive deep into the complexities of grief and explore practical strategies to manage its intensity.  They discuss the importance of grounding techniques, pacing oneself, and the dual awareness concept to navigate through grief in a healthy and balanced way. Listen in for insightful advice on moving forward w...

Have you ever felt like grief is more complicated than it seems? This week Amie and Alana delve into the hidden aspects of grief, especially when it comes from betrayal.  From mourning the future you envisioned to grieving the loss of self and delayed grief, we explore the intricacies of each. Learn how to recognize these overlooked pieces and find validation on your healing journey. Referenced in...

Have you ever wondered if true healing is possible after trauma? This week, join us as Akary (Emotional Biohacker and founder of Uhkare Mind Body Soul ) shares her transformative journey from corporate stress to understanding the interconnectedness of mind, body, and soul.  Learn about the significance of nervous system regulation, the power of breathwork, and how to rebuild your foundation after...

Are you stuck replaying painful memories and wondering how to find peace? In this episode, Amie uncovers why rumination happens and how it serves as a protective mechanism for the mind.  Discover practical tools to break free from its grip, validate your emotions, and reclaim your present.  Book a session with Amie to learn how Brainspotting can support you on your healing journey. Coming up! ⁠Unm...

This week we are pleased to welcome Bronwyn Schweigerdt, a psychotherapist and anger expert, who explores the intricate relationship between anger and shame.  Through personal stories and practical exercises, discover the health impacts of suppressed anger and how to develop a healthier relationship with your emotions.  Connect with Bronwyn through her website , podcast ( Angry at the Right Things...

Are you unsure about the type of therapy you need after betrayal? Join Amie and Alana this week as they discuss the critical differences between traditional marriage therapy and affair recovery support.  Discover why it’s essential to have a therapist who is trained in betrayal trauma and learn how to find the right therapeutic path for healing. Coming up! ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity...

(Keep listening at 18:04 to hear about our NEW scholarship program. Email us at info@chooserecoveryservices.com to learn more!) Are you struggling to trust your own reality in a relationship? In this powerful episode, Alana explores how we sometimes abandon our truth to align with our partner’s version of reality, when dealing with betrayal trauma. Understand why this happens and learn practical s...

Are you a therapist or coach balancing your own pain while also tending to your clients' needs? In this special bonus episode Alana explores the complexities of healing while helping others.  Tune in and learn how to maintain boundaries, avoid burnout, and embrace your humanity in this challenging dual role.  Also, learn more about our upcoming intensive that is just for YOU! Join us June 12th...

Do you struggle with balancing support versus enabling your partner in your relationship? This week, Amie and Alana clarify how betrayed partners can differentiate between supporting their partner's recovery and over-functioning to their own detriment.  They offer insights on how to establish healthy boundaries, seek individual support, and foster genuine healing for both partners. Discover practi...

Feeling stuck in your healing journey? This week, Alana dives into how to recognize stagnation and regain momentum.  Learn the five signs that indicate you might be stuck and discover actionable steps to reassess and realign your support systems. Embark on a path of empowered action and somatic healing to continue moving forward in your recovery. Register Now! Courage to Thrive Intensive - This in...

Ever feel like your body is working against you after experiencing betrayal? This week Amie discusses the importance of listening to your body's signals and believing its wisdom.  Discover how to stop using therapeutic tools to bypass your feelings and start truly honoring your body's messages for genuine healing and empowerment. Learn how to turn your body from a perceived enemy into a tr...

Have you ever felt lost or questioned your value after experiencing a betrayal? Join Amie and Alana as they unpack the profound impact of betrayal on self-worth and identity, sharing personal stories and providing insights to reclaim your sense of self. Learn how to navigate the complex layers of trauma, heal from within, and build a stronger foundation of intrinsic worth and value. Register Now!...

Are you navigating the painful journey of betrayal and struggling to identify red flags in your relationship? Join us as we discuss common warning signs that a betrayed partner should watch for and how to understand them.  Learn the importance of earned trust, emotional accountability, and why your healing journey matters. Plus, discover our upcoming events aimed at helping you reclaim your power...

Have you ever felt like a part of you is holding you back? This week Luke Gordon (coach and co-founder of Choose Recovery Services and host of the Beyond the Facade podcast) joins Alana, and together they explore the transformative journey of parts work and the power of self-acceptance in healing. Luke courageously shares his own story of how understanding his protective parts led to breakthrough...

Why is a full disclosure one of the most feared yet vital steps in recovery? This episode dives into the misconceptions about full disclosure, its importance in rebuilding trust, and why it’s just the beginning of deeper healing and connection.  Learn how full transparency lays the foundation for trust and allows both partners to move forward authentically. Want to learn more about full disclosure...