Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

I have 1 word for you Gorgeous Soul...breathe! That's right I'm taking a page from the yogi's handbook today because I think there's enough messages out there telling you what you need to do change. I'm a little guilty of this myself, I LOVE transformation. But transformation can become a burden if we let it. So today I'm giving your psyche the extra TLC it needs to calm down and find peace. Becau...

Why is making decisions SO hard for some people? Well…if you're like my son Parker, you are terrified of making the wrong decision. You take everyone's feelings into consideration and let that fear of disappointing people get in the way of what you really want. As a mom, I push Parker to lean into his intuition… and as your life coach bestie I'm gonna do the same with you. ⁣ ⁣ Change happens one l...

If I had a dollar for every time I said "I'm great at STARTING things...just not finishing them" I'd be a gazillionaire. For real. I was the queen of starting and not finishing, of getting excited to start a new habit and giving up a few days later, of telling myself I'm going to DO it this time and never following through. I believed that's just who I was always going to be. Until I had enough an...

Brace yourself, Gorgeous Souls: This episode is unscripted. My ideas were getting all tangled up in my head so I decided to ditch the notepad and speak from the heart. What I REALLY want you to know is this - you can handle anything. I know that sounds cheesy or cliche, but it's the truth. You have handled everything so far. Everything. You've survived 100% of your bad days. The problem is that yo...

Today I'm going to teach you how to rewire your brain so you can feel better, so you can feel happier, so your life feels easier…all the things you want in your life. You are a manifestation of your thoughts. Everything in your life…your body, your home, your relationships, your job, your money…is all thanks to thoughts. And from your thoughts, you've made decisions. You might not always love the...

Hello, friend! This is a bonus episode...just a bite sized nugget of inspiration that I want you to hear...something my heart really wanted to tell you. I had a FB memory pop up that swooshed me back 8 years to the day my dad went into the hospital for the last time. He lived for 11 more days and in those days, I was reminded AGAIN of why we're on this planet. It's not just to crawl through life i...

I've been coaching for 5 years, but my 1st client was myself. I transformed my entire life…my body, my mind, my relationships, my home, my finances and my career. And I did it one habit at a time. I believe you can do the same. Today I'm sharing my 10 favorite daily habits I used (and STILL use) to create a life I'm really excited to live! Today can be the day you decide that this isn't enough any...

You're gonna need a strong cup of coffee for this episode. This is a really really big topic that I'm excited to talk to you about today. I've struggled with this. Every single person who's ever been a client of mine has struggled with this belief about themselves too: "I never follow through." "I start things and never finish them." "I always end up giving up." Are you a chronic giver upper? Is y...

The science is simple. Our habits, good or bad, rewire our brains. When we repeat a behavior, like complaining, over and over again it charges those neurological connections to make complaining easier and automatic. The more you complain, the more your brain rewires itself for negativity. Complaining takes us out of our strongest energy and it doesn't lead us to answers….only more things to compla...

This episode is dedicated to all the Superwomen out there feeling forced to do it all. I see ya girl! You're tired of working, taking care of kids, cleaning house, volunteering the list goes on with no help from anyone. It's easy to get stuck in the hamster wheel of the scarcity. The thought of I have to do this and I have to do that will leave you feeling helpless. Instead of CHOOSING to do these...

Three lies we tell ourselves about our dream life: I don't know what my dream life looks like, I've tried that before and failed, I don't have the time or money to pursue this. As soon as we even think about changing our mind comes ups with all these reasons why we can't.  Why is it so hard for us to dream big? Because our negative thoughts are in the driver's seat. We're scared. Scared of failing...

In this episode, I share a little secret. For YEARS I've been hiding it, denying it, and today is my coming out party. And it feels so good to be open and honest! Now it's your turn. What good thing have you been resisting in your life? How have you let other people's opinions hold you back? Are you feeling stuck? Stopped hiding from the thing that you think people are going to judge you for, or t...

This episode is proof that you just never know when inspiration is gonna hit. The inspiration for this week: a toilet paper roll in a bathroom stall in a hotel in Louisville, Kentucky.   Listen to the episode for the full story, but here's the gist: there are two paths you can take to transformation...the HARD path or the EASY path. And as humans, we are naturally wired to focus on the HARD way. O...

Scientists argue that humans have between 20,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. How many of those thoughts do you think are mindful? Hardly any of them, right? We collect thoughts. Hoard them and replay them over and over again. Just like those jeans in your closet, they don't fit but maybe they will someday. If there are thoughts that are not serving you that don't represent who you are becoming, do...

"One of the only things I wished I did was take care of myself sooner. I felt like it was never the right time to take care of myself mentally." These are the words of my former client who passed away from pancreatic cancer. As women, we put everyone else first and leave no time for ourselves. We have these thoughts in our heads, "I can do it on my own or I don't have time." In today's episode, I'...

On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you? Could you be happier in your life, career, and relationships—of course! As a life coach, I noticed that a lot of my clients are settling. They set the bar low so they won't get disappointed or they can't see themselves feeling any better than they do at the moment. I get it, I've been there gorgeous soul. Today I share how to get to a 10 on the happiness...

You set your goals. Now what? Now it's time to make changes. Listen to my 6 tips on how to achieve your goals. Worksheet download: https://kristenfinch10.lpages.co/how-to-achieve-your-goals/ Book a consult: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult Amanda Gibby Peters: www.simpleshui.com   Amy Cuddy power pose: https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are  

I spent most of my adult life setting goals that never made it past a week. I always got super excited to sit down on New Years Eve to create new goals, but I just never followed through. But over the years I've been tweaking my process. Using a combination of traditional goal writing and feeling-driven goals to come up with a process that really works. I've transformed my entire life because I kn...

It's almost 2019!!! Time for those good old New Years Resolutions. If you're anything like me, you may have noticed a pattern in your life, though... Get SUPER excited about making changes, write some goals down, dive in and quit. In a matter of weeks. Or even days. That was me, for most of my adult life. Until I found the way that works for me and for my clients. In today's episode I want to shar...

I've had puhhh-lenty of experience with grief and loss and going through very hard times. But I've learned some really important lessons on how to manage pain...sadness, anger, despair, frustration...that I want to share with you: ~ pain is just a chemical process that lasts 90 seconds ~ the difference between pain and suffering ~ why it's important to stop trying to avoid your sadness ~ how to ad...

The #1 thing I am asked to talk about is my marriage. And I'm SO happy to talk about it...I'm SO happy to share what worked for our neurodivergent (he's Aspergers, I'm not) marriage. Except...my advice sucks. I mean, it's SOLID gold, but it's HARD and it takes time, it requires you to change the way you've been living your life, and it can be painful. I told you. Sucks. On today's episode I'm talk...

Anxiety keeps us stuck. It prevents us from doing both big things AND little things. In today's episode I'm going to take you through the process I take myself through when I'm feeling anxious.  Download the cheatsheet here Join the Lounge here  

Today's episode is all about how to BECOME the woman you want to be. How to move from where you are now to where you WANT to be. Because it's one thing to hope and wish and dream and it's another to take action and BECOME the next version of yourself. I'll take you through: ~ how to tap into the next version so you get crystal clear on what you need to do to level up ~ what to focus on and what to...

There are 3 types of people in the world: people who like you, people who don't and people who just don't care. And which people do you spend the most time worrying about? The people who don't like you! The people you NEED to like you.  When your self worth is based on other people's approval of you, you will lose yourself QUICKLY. Today's episode is a pep talk over coffee all about why we need to...

In today's episode we're going to talk all about how to create a life that you really love...no matter WHAT you've got going on right now. We'll discuss: ~ why actually being creative helps with changing your life ~ how to decide what that life looks like ~ how to get past the thoughts that have been blocking you from creating something new ~ why you need to clean up your messes to manifest what y...