Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

This was one of the most loved and thought-provoking episodes of 2020. I recorded this just before the pandemic shut down the world, and it's called Top 10 Things to Quit in 2020 – not that 2020 offered too much to keep. Anyway, these remain true today, over a year and a half later. Enjoy!

Does it ever feel like life is overwhelming like you're drowning and right at the last second you get a gasp of air before heading back under, before going head-first back into life? This episode from October 2019 is all about that.

Acceptance does not mean giving in, agreeing, or condoning. It is only the acknowledgment of what is. Today, we're going all the way back to 2019. I loved this client's story so much because it is THE CLASSIC objection I hear when I tell people that before they can change something, they have to accept it.

Throwback Episode! Today's throwback is one of my most deeply personal stories where the lesson was clear, present, painful, and absolutely life-changing. It's all about PUSHING PAUSE: what it means, how it serves you, and how to do it. Enjoy.

When your Lizard Brain is in charge, your body will feel panic. The boss, the teenager, the toddler stay mostly in your head. The Lizard moves into the body so it's easy to spot. In today's episode, I'll teach you how to tame The Lizard when she shows up and grabs the reins in your brains.

You inner Teenager shows up under similar circumstances to The Toddler, but the way she shows up is much different. How you respond to her makes all the difference in your ability to access your highest, most Calm AF self. This episode is all about The Teenager - may God have mercy on our souls.

When The Boss gets tired and clocks out, your inner toddler is free to run amok. That's when she is most dangerous. So let's talk about it. In this episode, I teach you how to recognize The Toddler, when and why she shows up, and what to do when your Toddler is on her rampage.

Last week I introduced you to the coaching concept I created called The Team. The team is a motley configuration of thinking habits that steer your mind through just about every situation. Today, we'll talk about The Boss because The Boss, in my experience coaching people, is the loudest and most ACTIVE team member of all.

In this first in a series of five episodes, I introduce you to your Team, a motley confederation of thinking habits that steer your mind through just about every situation.

I do NOT teach positive thinking, I teach empowered thinking. I'm not interested in trying to trick your brain into believing things that aren't true, I want you to OWN your thoughts and know that YOU are in control of them and your beliefs. In this episode, I explain why I don't teach positive thinking AND tell you how EMPOWERED thinking is the way to change your life.

When you feel better in your mind and body and soul, the rest of your life feels better. Instead of procrastinating or shutting down because you're exhausted, you move quicker and get more done. Prioritizing your self care allows you to still do the things that need to get done without feeling resentful while you're doing it.

This episode is all about validation and the two ways we experience it: from external sources and from our own thoughts. We'll dive into how relying on external things for validation causes and perpetuates problems - not the least of which being what I call "fragile happiness." Then I'll explain how you can take radical ownership of your feelings about yourself and your worth. Grab some coffee and...

This episode is all about getting to your future self without taking the torture path. Because here's the truth about creating the future you want: if the journey there SUCKS, you're not going to feel better when you arrive. If you don't feel worthy along the way, you definitely will not feel like you're enough when you get there. In other words, happy endings do not come from unhappy journeys

Most of us are taught that any feeling except happiness is something to be avoided. But, human beings are emotional creatures. Emotional capacity is literally coded into our DNA. In this episode, I explain the difference between "clean pain" - which is unavoidable - and "dirty pain," which is absolutely avoidable.

If you want to change anything, at all, you've got to be willing to feel discomfort. Changing how you feel about your life, deciding to leave a toxic job or a toxic relationship, finding your forever person. Whatever it is, discomfort will accompany change. And if you want to feel better, calmer, happier, more content, more FREE...you have to choose growth over comfort. For a deeper dive, visit kr...

Your relationship with your emotions is probably not super healthy...and this is not your fault. The ways we were taught to interpret and to deal with our emotions may have been legacy, but legacy does not equal healthy, does not equal true. In this episode, we unpack the baggage of our emotions, together. For a deeper dive and free registration to my Master Class, visit kristenfinch.com .

Overthinking does not help you make better decisions. In fact, it has the opposite effect. Here's my 3-step process to help my overthinkers.

You are super-smart. So it seems logical that the more brainpower you throw at a problem, the longer you analyze it from every possible angle, the more likely you are to achieve total clarity and make the perfect decision. You need to knock that off, and in this episode I explain why.

This is an extraordinary episode for a number of reasons. First, it's a deeply personal story for me. I'll take you through some moments in my life that were...we'll say, challenging. The overnight loss of my fiance, Mike. My dad's avoidable and yet, totally unavoidable death from alcoholism. A rocky period in my marriage. And I'll relate how I was able to work my way through these moments and com...

MAKE SURE TO SUBSCRIBE!  You are not the ONE HUMAN incapable of rewiring your thoughts. It is absolutely possible for you to drop your old limiting beliefs and create the future you want. It's called neuroplasticity and today I'm giving a super simple example of a new neural pathway I recently created. Ready to have accountability and support while you REWIRE? I am the perfect person to help . I'm...

***Make sure you are subscribed to this podcast...ch ch ch changes are coming!*** In today's conclusion to the Change your Life series I'm sharing the 5 steps that will allow you to rewire your brain for happiness.  I'll also teach you the 4 most common reasons people give up before the brain changes. 

MAKE SURE YOU ARE SUBSCRIBED TO THIS PODCAST (changes coming!!) In today's throwback episode I'm sharing the 7 most common faulty thought patterns that keep you from creating what you want. Ready to change your life for real and for good? Apply to work with me 1:1.

Today is part 2 of the 4 part Change Your Life series from April 2020. We've been programmed to believe that willpower and grit and pushing through and taking action is what's going to create success. But no. What you do DOES matter, but what you THINK matters more. If you are constantly moving through your life beating yourself up, being hard on yourself, focusing on feeling bad to motivate yours...

(This episode was originally aired in April 2020). You cannot create lasting lifelong changes if you keep thinking the same way you're thinking now. In order to change your life, you must change your thoughts. In order to do THAT, you need to understand WHY your thinking matters and HOW your thinking actually does create your reality. In part one of How To Change Your Life, I'm sharing: ~ why it f...

This week I'm teaching your the difference between active and passive anxiety, how to recognize it in yourself and how to manage it so that you can calm your mind and achieve what you want to achieve. Apply to work with Kristen