Black Girls Heal

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing up in video to connect with you more intimately.  I start with a heartfelt check-in, sharing my personal experiences of transitions and the collective 'hell' many of us have gone through recently in various aspects of our lives.  Tod...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on maintaining emotional neutrality and setting firm boundaries when you have to communicate with a co-parent for the sake of your children. I’ll share practical steps and tips designed to help you stay centered and avoid the emotional trigger...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way. Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even i...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into the intricacies of managing romantic relationships for those in recovery from love addiction.  We discuss the importance of staying in touch with your body, practicing self-affirmation, and maintaining your own life and identity. These actionable tips are geared to help you stay balanced while developing healthy, secure connections. Whether you&#39...

You know that feeling when things don't go as planned and you're left feeling disappointed? Yeah, we've all been there. This week on the Black Girls Heal podcast, we're diving deep into how to manage unrealistic expectations and fantasies in your relationships so you can avoid those heartbreaks. We're going to break down how to set realistic standards, the difference between yo...

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal, we’re going to be talking about something really deep today: how what happened to us as kids can mess with our love lives BIG TIME. We're diving into childhood emotional neglect and how it can lead to those addictive relationships we sometimes find ourselves in. It's wild how many of us deal with the fallout from not feeling seen or heard as kids. I...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned over my 10 years of recovery from love addiction. This journey has been incredibly personal and transformative. Many of you have watched and supported me through it all—clients, friends, and those who know me through this podcast. I reflect on the challenges, the growth, and the relationships that have shaped me, cu...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes.  You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help r...

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships. You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in our healing journeys happen becau...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.  We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-...

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips.  We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being open to love and connection, and masteri...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth.  You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-dra...

In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships.  We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the devel...

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth.  You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultima...

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing em...

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?...

In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way. Click here to download the free roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the...

In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the p...

As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly. In this episode, I review 3 ways that love addicts accidentally sabotage their relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfil...

This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love availabl...

If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jadedness to give love a chance again when you're ready. Click here to join the free masterclass Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love...

Every person healing from love addiction goes from 5 stages of feeling stuck and confused to Healed and Loved. In this episode, I review each of these stages, their roadblocks and what one can expect at each stage. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and f...

In this episode, I review a typically undetectable way that some narcissists love bomb to help those who may be susceptible to this style of seduction be more aware. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or even...

In this episode, Shena talk about why some of us may settle in relationships when we feel they are giving us what we are looking for in spite of warning and danger signs. Join us as our upcoming workshop: Mastering the No Contact Process & Letting Go Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you bec...