Black Girls Heal

Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website:  Bla...

Love Addiction and Love Avoidance are different sides of the same coin and have the same goal in mind. Let's talk about it today! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Clic...

If you’ve missed red flags in a relationship, it’s completely and totally okay. There is no shame in having missed the signs and suddenly realizing that they are there. Which is why I’m sharing what to keep in mind when you miss red flags.  Lately, I’ve seen a lot of chatter about women starting to heal and then suddenly seeing the signs of a bad relationship that they’d previously missed. For so...

It’s time to give yourself a pat on the back. One of the things we as women, but especially Black women, don’t do often enough is recognize when we’ve made progress. This is why I’m sharing three ways to know that you’ve grown and are healthier.  The reason I decided it was time for this type of episode was because of a conversation I had with one of my coaching students. We were talking about som...

I’m sharing these tips for anyone who is a professional healer. Those of you who are therapists, coaches, crystal workers, healers of all sorts, listen in. But, if you are the sage of your family, perhaps a priest or pastor, or maybe a teacher who hears the burdens of your students, then this is for you as well.  As healers, we need to be sure to avoid codependency. What does that mean exactly? As...

It’s that time again. It’s time for a refresher on what it means to be a healed and loved woman as developed in our three part framework. Listen in to hear the framework again and what you need to do to move from love addiction, avoidance, or anorexia to being a healed and loved woman.  I’m starting it all off with love addiction. So many women are stuck in a cycle of love addiction and aren’t sur...

Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic.  Danielle is a publicist by day and a certified friendship coach by night. She started he...

I’m back! It’s been a little over a month since I dropped a podcast episode and I've taken the time to do some deep soul searching. Listen in to hear all the things I’ve learned about myself both professionally and personally and what that means for you and the future of Black Girls Heal. Probably the most important part of my hiatus was self-assessing my ADHD. I’ve spent years wondering wheth...

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Something I see a lot with the women that I serve is this stressful and conflicting scenario of hearing the phrase “you deserve someone better”. This is a phrase that is commonly used when someone, particularly a romantic partner, seeks to cut ties with us.    In today’s episode, I’m sharing helpful and encouraging advice about finding the message within that particular message. I share 3 messages...

It seems like we're all in a place of transition right now, trying to determine our new normal.  Hear some encouragement about why transitioning is totally okay. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or even...

Personally speaking, my experience with the 12-step philosophy for sex and love addicts was so healing and helpful. You might not be aware, but there are sex and love addicts anonymous programs that provide great transformation and inspiration when done well.   In today’s episode, I’m sharing my experience and my story going through the 12-step method for sex and love addicts. I share the transfor...

One of the most common questions I get from my clients as we start working together is “how do I know when this is all going to be over?” The truth is many of my clients are dealing with terrible, horrific, and painful stuff that they don’t want to deal with anymore.   In today’s episode, I share the answer that I’ll give to you if you find yourself asking the same question. It’s not the prettiest...

This week, we’re finishing up our series on mistakes that I’ve made in my intimacy disorders and my relationship history. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 mistakes that I’ve made as a love avoidant in my committed partnerships, including my marriage.   Love avoidance is the persistent act of putting up walls with loved ones, as if we were holding up an invisible shield. Some of us loudly declare...

So many of the teachings that I share on this podcast are targeted situations for single women. This week, I’m talking about how intimacy disorders, particularly love addiction, show up in committed relationships.   This episode will define what being a love addict means as I share how my love addiction shows up in the forms of seeking constant verbal affirmation, making myself available to becomi...

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships.  For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed.  This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can sh...

Our intimacy disorders show up in different ways at different stages of our relationships. In this episode, I recount some ways that my love addiction showed up in hopes of identifying any set backs you may be experiencing as well.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, lo...

Knowing how to prioritize ourselves and practice self care is SO important for our healing process. In this episode, Les Alfred of Balanced Black Girl joins us to talk about what this looks like for us in our daily life.  CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST Les's IG: @balancedles Balanced Black Girl IG: @balancedblackgirlhealpodcast Balanced Black Girl Website: BalancedBlackGirl.com   Ready to heal your Lo...

We can be codependent in many other areas outside of our interpersonal relationships.  In this episode, we will break down what that may look like.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in...

In this episode, we talking about how women who want to have children biologically can cope with childlessness by circumstance. Our amazing guest Yvonne John talks about coping with the grief of childlessness and infertility.   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST FindingMyPlanB.Wordpress.com Gateway-women.com Instagram: @y.vonnej Book: Dreaming of a Life Unlived   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love A...

In this episode, we're going to talk about trauma and how it shows up in men, impacts their self worth and their relationships.  The episode is created for men to find connection but also for the women who love them who hear and understand their experience as well. We hope this helps continue the healing conversations between the us.   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Cl...

In this episode, we talk about body love, the connection between food and trauma, and the importance of unlearning diet culture. CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST IG: @ drebonyonline Website: drebony.com Mytherapycards.com   Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fu...

Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations. We talk about it today, where it comes from, and what to do with it, with our special guest, Jennifer Arnise.  CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST Website: BlackMotherWound.com Instagram...

How can we tell if a relationship, institution, coach, or influencer is safe for our healing? Let's talk about it in today's episode.    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the po...

    Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHERE Website: ...