You Would Think

Co-parenting after divorce can be incredibly difficult—especially when communication turns into conflict and every interaction feels heavier than it should. 📘 Buy my new book, You May Be Right, But What If You’re Wrong? https://you-would-think-hub.lovable.app/ In this episode of You Would Think , I break down the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting and why parallel parenting ma...

📖 MY FIRST BOOK IS AVAILABLE NOW! You May Be Right, But What If You’re Wrong? — 12 Steps of Recovery for Every Christian’s Heart 👉 ORDER YOUR SIGNED COPY HERE: https://you-would-think-hub.lovable.app/ You don’t have to be an addict to need recovery. In this special episode of You Would Think , my friend, mentor, and coach Chris Ward takes over the microphone to interview me about my recovery sto...

Sometimes the most protected person in a dysfunctional family is the person doing the most damage. Why? Because confronting them is expensive. In this episode of When Helping Hurts , I talk about the difference between being a peacemaker and simply keeping the peace . We’ll look at how codependency, people pleasing, fear, and dysfunctional family patterns can cause us to accommodate unhealthy beha...

Why do so many people get stuck in addiction recovery—even when they genuinely want to change? Sometimes the problem is simple: we spend too much time alone in our own heads. In this episode of You Would Think , I talk about why making a weekly recovery meeting non-negotiable has been one of the most important parts of my recovery. Addiction thrives in isolation. When I'm alone, I can rationalize...

What happens when you stop initiating—and the relationship disappears? In this episode of When Helping Hurts , we talk about one-sided relationships, people-pleasing, codependency, boundaries, and the difference between loving someone and carrying their half of the relationship . Healthy relationships aren't always 50/50, but they do require mutual participation. Sometimes silence is information,...

Have you ever reacted emotionally to someone else’s anger, chaos, or criticism—and later wondered why you got involved in the first place? In this episode of You Would Think , I unpack a simple tool that has helped me with boundaries, codependency, people-pleasing, and emotional reactions: Be an observer, not a participant. Our feelings happen fast. Wisdom usually takes a little longer. Someone el...

Why do people keep ignoring your boundaries? And how do you set healthy boundaries without trying to control another person? In this episode, we’re talking about boundaries, codependency, people pleasing, controlling behavior, and how to actually enforce a boundary when someone refuses to respect it. Because one of the biggest mistakes we make with boundaries is believing they’re supposed to chang...

What happens when we expect people to know what we need without ever actually telling them? We tell ourselves things like, “If they cared, they would know,” “I shouldn’t have to ask,” or “If I have to tell them, it doesn’t count.” Then when people fail to meet expectations they never knew existed, disappointment can quickly turn into resentment. In this episode of You Would Think , we talk about t...

What if one of the biggest things keeping you stuck isn't what's happening around you—but believing that what's happening around you gets to determine what happens within you ? In this episode of When Helping Hurts , I unpack a mindset I've had to confront repeatedly in my own recovery: viewing life as a series of things happening to me . Someone disappoints me. Plans fall apart. A relationship ch...

What if some of the things you believe about recovery, grace, love, emotions, and even yourself… are wrong? On August 15th, 2020, I took my last drink. Six years later, I’ve learned a lot—but maybe more importantly, I’ve learned just how wrong I can be. So instead of celebrating six years of sobriety by telling you everything I’ve learned, I want to talk about something different: In this special...

Have you ever stayed in an unhealthy relationship because you believed someone would eventually change? In this episode of When Helping Hurts , I share the conversation I wish someone had with me when I was twenty years old. As a recovering people pleaser, codependent, and addict, I spent years building relationships on potential instead of patterns . I convinced myself that if I just loved harder...

What if "follow your heart" isn't just bad advice... but the exact opposite of what Scripture teaches? In this episode of You Would Think , we dive into one of the most misunderstood verses in the Bible: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." – Proverbs 4:23 What does it actually mean to "guard your heart"? Is the heart simply our emotions, or is it something much...

Have you ever been told to "follow your heart"? It sounds inspiring. It sounds authentic. It sounds like good advice. But what if it's actually one of the most dangerous pieces of advice you'll ever hear? In this episode of You Would Think, I challenge one of the most common cultural sayings through the lens of Scripture. We'll explore why the Bible never tells us to follow our hearts and why Jesu...

"Have nothing to do with such people." — 2 Timothy 3:5 Wait... the Bible actually says that? In this episode of When Helping Hurts , we unpack one of the most misunderstood—and often ignored—commands in the New Testament. If you're a recovering people pleaser, codependent, or someone who has spent years trying to fix, rescue, or tolerate destructive behavior in the name of "love," this episode is...

Have you ever felt like all the work you're putting into recovery isn't accomplishing anything? The meetings. The prayers. The counseling. The Scripture. The confessions. The ordinary faithfulness. What if you're not failing? What if you're just watching the wrong timestamp? In this episode of You Would Think , I share one of the most powerful illustrations I've ever encountered. A simple woodwork...

Can Adderall addiction hide behind productivity? Can burnout be a symptom of something deeper than a busy schedule? In this episode of When Helping Hurts , I share my personal story of Adderall addiction, alcoholism, burnout, and the moment I realized I wasn't just addicted to a stimulant—I was addicted to striving. For years, I believed I simply needed more energy to keep up with my responsibilit...

🦝 Who let all these raccoons in?! Have you ever noticed how quickly one thought can take over your entire day? "I'm a failure." "They must be mad at me." "I'll never change." "If people knew the real me, they'd leave." In this episode of You Would Think , we're unpacking one of the most practical verses in the New Testament: "We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." — 2 Corin...

Do you ever feel responsible for everyone else's happiness? Do you replay conversations in your head, avoid conflict at all costs, or feel guilty whenever someone is disappointed with you? If so, this episode is for you. In this episode of When Helping Hurts , we're talking about one of my dad's favorite T-shirts that simply says: "Breaking News... I Don't Care." At first glance, that sounds selfi...

Have you ever felt like you needed to escape an uncomfortable feeling as quickly as possible? What if that feeling isn't the problem... but the very place where God wants to meet you? In this episode of You Would Think, we explore a concept my 12-step recovery group calls "the ick." It's that knot in your stomach. That anxious feeling that makes you want to run, hide, defend yourself, or make the...

On today’s episode, I want to challenge one of the biggest lies many of us have either heard or maybe we even believe:   That boundaries are really just a means to control other people. If you have a question, or are interested in one-on-one coaching, shoot me an email: mailto:josh.simcosky@gmail.com #podcast #recovery #bible #jesus

On today's episode, we're going to start with one simple question: Who do you think you are? Not who do your parents say you are. Not who your past says you are. Not who your trauma says you are. Not who your addiction says you are. Who does God say you are? Because one day every voice will be silenced except His. And the voice you learn to believe now will determine how you live until then. If yo...

Do I have an anxiety problem... or a pride problem? If you have a question, or are interested in one-on-one coaching, shoot me an email: mailto:josh.simcosky@gmail.com #podcast #recovery #bible #jesus

This episode is built around one simple idea that has challenged me over and over again throughout my life, and that’s this: Knowing better doesn't mean doing better. Or, as many have heard me say before: You can't think your way into right behavior, but you can behave your way into right thinking. If you have a question, or are interested in one-on-one coaching, shoot me an email: josh.simcosky@g...

Little "t" trauma is not about bad things that happened. It's about good things that should have happened but didn't, which is why we don’t remember it. If you have a question or want to talk about one-on-one coaching, shoot me an email: josh.simcosky@gmail.com

Do I love the thought of Jesus being my savior, but balk at the thought of Him being my Lord? There is a general and I would say universal expectation that Jesus can, will, has, and does save us, which is true, but have we misplaced the expectation on ourselves to submit to Him as our LORD? That’s what we are going to look at in this video so we can hopefully realign our expectations of what a fol...