Turns Out… This Gets Good: Life from 50

  What if getting older isn’t about fighting to stay visible… What if it’s about becoming better at seeing everyone else? In this episode, Heather covers: Returning to Auckland more than 20 years after a life-changing moment How the way we’re seen changes as we get older What replaces youth as our introduction to the world Why getting older doesn’t mean becoming...

  What if slowing down isn’t wasting time… What if it’s where life actually happens? In this episode, we cover: What la dolce vita taught us about living a little slower Why everyday moments don’t always need to have a destination The beautiful connections that happen when you stop and talk to people How curiosity can completely change a travel experience What making p...

  What happens when your travel plans fall apart… And you end up moving in with people you barely know? In this episode, we cover: How an unexpected change of plans led to something special Why accepting help can sometimes be harder than offering it Finding connection even when you don’t speak the same language How quickly strangers can start to feel like family Why being open and...

  What happens when you’re stuck in a Budapest car park at nearly midnight… And the only people who can save you are complete strangers? In this episode, we cover: A very stuck car, a very tight Budapest car park and three increasingly worried women Why travel makes us more open to asking strangers for help The taxi driver who stopped to give it a go The two strangers who dropped...

  What if making life better doesn’t require a massive change… What if you just need to move the chair? In this episode, Elli covers: Why small changes can make everyday life feel easier What travelling lightly can teach us about living lightly How reducing friction creates more space for what matters Why self-care can actually help you give more to others The hidden weight of ove...

  What if confidence isn’t the opposite of ego… What if they’re completely different things? In this episode, Heather and Elli unpack one of the most misunderstood words in our vocabulary. Is ego really about arrogance, or can it actually be a healthy part of knowing who you are? Together, they explore the difference between confidence, humility and self-importance—and why a...

  What if saying no wasn’t selfish… What if it was one of the kindest things you could do? In this episode, we cover: Why boundaries often come with guilt The difference between guilt and resentment Why people-pleasing can leave you exhausted How an honest “no” builds stronger relationships Why your gut instinct deserves more attention Simple ways to start protecting your ti...

  What if friendship isn’t something you find… What if it’s something you build? In this episode, we cover: Why friendships naturally change throughout life The difference between situational friends and lifelong friends Why it’s okay to grieve a friendship that has ended How friendships after 50 can become richer than ever Why no one person can meet all of your emotio...

  What if loneliness isn’t about being alone… What if it’s about feeling disconnected? In this episode, we cover: The difference between being alone and feeling lonely Why connection is more about quality than quantity How small moments of curiosity can lead to meaningful relationships Why vulnerability is the missing piece in deeper friendships Practical, low-risk ways to r...

  Have We Forgotten the Little Things? What if good manners aren’t about knowing which fork to use… What if they’re simply about making another person’s day a little better? In this episode, we cover: Why there’s a difference between manners and old-fashioned etiquette The simple courtesies that make everyday life feel more connected Why saying hello and thank yo...

  What if getting dressed isn’t about impressing other people… What if it’s an act of self-respect? In this episode, we cover: The difference between fashion and personal style Why what you wear changes how you feel How confidence comes from dressing for yourself, not others The impact of “dress your age” and why it’s time to let it go Simple style rituals...

  Your body isn’t betraying you. It might just be asking you to listen differently. In this episode, Heather and Elli get honest about the physical changes that can come with getting older—from weight gain, aching joints and changing hormones to bigger bras, reading glasses and the occasional feeling that the wheels have fallen off completely. But this isn’t an episode about fighting your bod...

  This isn’t about becoming more disciplined — it’s about making life easier. In this episode, Heather and Elli explore why routines aren’t designed to restrict you—they’re designed to support you. From tiny daily habits to mindset shifts, they unpack how simple rituals can create more freedom, more energy, and more room for the things that matter most. With practical...

  This isn’t just about giving up — it’s about the small moments when we quietly stop showing up for ourselves. In this episode, Heather and Elli explore the idea of self-abandonment and how it rarely happens all at once. Instead, it’s the thousands of small excuses, quiet surrenders and “I’m too…” stories we tell ourselves that slowly pull us away from the things that...

  What if success isn’t something you achieve… What if it’s something you feel? In this episode, we cover: Why our definition of success changes as we get older The difference between achievement and contentment How comparison can stop you enjoying what you already have The idea of the “First Mountain” and the “Second Mountain” Why relationships, comm...

  What if protecting your peace isn’t selfish? What if it’s necessary? In this episode, we cover: The difference between toxic people and toxic behaviours Why some relationships leave you feeling drained How to stop people-pleasing at your own expense The power of boundaries and what they really mean Why you can’t control other people’s opinions of you Simple ways to p...

  What happens when you stop assuming…and start getting curious? In this episode, we cover: Why curiosity becomes more important as we get older The hidden cost of believing “I already know that” How curiosity creates deeper connections with people The difference between being curious and being judgmental Why staying open can lead to unexpected opportunities How curiosity he...

  What if the answer to anxiety isn’t getting more control… What if it’s coming back to the present moment? In this episode, we cover: Why everyday anxiety often starts with disconnection The surprising link between community and feeling calmer How nature can help regulate your nervous system The “5 Senses” grounding technique for anxious moments Why singing, hum...

  What if freedom isn’t about escaping your life… What if it’s about finally choosing it? In this episode, we cover: The difference between freedom from and freedom to Why saying no can be one of the most powerful forms of freedom Letting go of the need for external permission The freedom that comes from being fully yourself How your mindset shapes the life you experience Why freedom often ha...

  What if happiness isn’t something you chase… What if it’s something you notice? In this episode, we cover: Why the pursuit of happiness can sometimes make us less happy The science behind happiness and what actually shapes it Why happiness often increases as we get older The role connection and community play in feeling happier Why simple moments matter more than we think How to stop waitin...

  What if the hardest changes in life… aren’t the ones you can clearly explain? In this episode, we cover: Why some life changes feel so unsettling — even without a clear reason What an identity shift really is (and why it hits harder than expected) The concept of “ambiguous loss” and why it’s difficult to name Real moments where life quietly changes who you are Why this isn’t something to fi...

  What if the thing you keep putting off… is actually the thing that keeps you going? In this episode, we cover: Why connection with your girlfriends isn’t optional — it’s essential How even a one-hour catch-up can completely shift your energy Why women process stress through connection (and why that matters) The power of regular rituals vs waiting for “special occasions” How to build simple,...

  We’re more connected than ever — messages, social media, constant updates — yet somehow, people are feeling more alone. So we asked a bigger question: Have we lost our sense of community? This episode unpacks why community matters more than we realise, how it shapes our lives, and where we might be missing it. In this episode, we cover: The difference between friendship and community — and...

In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of what’s been a very full (and slightly chaotic) week — from high-pressure events and live show calling, to unexpected opportunities that only come from being part of the right community. This is a more personal, off-script episode where we share what really goes into bringing people together — not just the polished version you see, but everything ha...

  This isn’t about big moments – it’s about the small ones that stay with you. In this episode, Heather and Elli explore the simple but powerful impact of saying hello. Through real-life stories from everyday moments, they unpack how a single word can shift your day, create connection, and sometimes lead to something unexpectedly meaningful — without needing to be anything more. In this episo...