The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan

Galentine’s is a day to celebrate platonic relationships (yay!) and on this podcast we get a front row seat to Meg and Ruby’s gorgeous friendship.  These are some nourishing moments from previous episodes where Ruby and Meg share dating app advice, give sex playlist tips, and get vulnerable about singleness and weird crushes.    What are the most important relationships in your life? Get in touch...

Did you know the clitoris is a wishbone shape? Or that it’s made up of the same stuff as the penis and testes? Mind blown over here!  Ruby and Meg get into the anatomy of the clitoris, chat pleasure and tell us about their own personal discovery of the clitoris. Dining room tables and bed frames may be involved...  Listen with care as Ruby and Meg also briefly discuss FGM. If you have been affecte...

Wondering if a sex party is for you? Ruby and Meg chat to Logan Star who has been in the sex party and play party space for eight years. Logan created the organisation Little Black Book, which used to run sex parties and now supports people who want to set up their own play parties. Ruby, Meg and Logan get to the bottom of the difference between a sex party, a play party and a fetish party. They t...

Consent is the bedrock of sexual interactions but so many of us have had experiences that we have not consented to.  This is a vulnerable episode where Ruby and Meg share some of their personal experiences with consent and talk about damaging narratives around consent - something that isn’t spoken about openly enough.  Please listen with care. Ruby and Meg spend significant time talking about rape...

Why do we shy away from messy emotions? Meg and Ruby get into the nitty gritty of jealousy - an emotion that’s often labelled as “ugly” or “shameful”.   Meg and Ruby talk about their experiences of being cheated on and how that can impact feeling jealous in relationships. “Mystic Meg” even had a dream about being cheated on which turned out to be true! Ruby opens up about jealousy in non-monogamou...

We have been gagging for an episode full of your sex questions and stories and finally here it is! Ruby and Meg de-stigmatise a listener’s kink - wanting to watch his partner have sex with someone else - and discuss the “cuck” chair in hotel rooms. (You’ll never be able to see a hotel room in the same way again). Ruby and Meg get deep talking through a listener question about whether BDSM should b...

Wondering if you should open up your relationship or try out polyamory? You’re not alone! More and more people seem to be having this conversation.  Ruby and Meg get into what it truly means to be non-monogamous. Ruby shares what her life looks like as a solo polyamorous babe and Meg contemplates whether non-monogamy could ever be for her. They chat about what it means to build relationships outsi...

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Buckle up as Ruby and Meg reveal their Hinge and Feeld dating profiles, offering each other (and you listeners!) dating app tips along the way.  We hear about Ruby and Meg’s best and weirdest dating app stories - from Ruby’s first date at a sex party to Meg’s phase of dating furiously to get a ‘festive boyfriend’. They laugh about creating romantic fantasies about people before and after dates - “...

Stress can be a b**ch for us and our sex lives.  Ruby and Meg share what happens to their sexual desire when they’re stressed, Ruby reveals the science behind stress and they both share their tips for how to deal with stress impacting your sex life. Meg also petitions for a national holiday where only hibernation and self-love slobbing is allowed. Sounds great, no?! Email the podcast: hello@insand...

Ruby and Meg chat to actor, comedian and writer Ash Self (best known for playing Felix in Heartstopper), who debunks the myth that disabled people either can’t have sex or don’t want to.  We hear about sex education (or lack of it) in the hospital youth ward where Ash spent some time and how he feels people expect to see him on Children in Need rather than Grindr. Ruby, Meg and Ash also debate whe...

There are stories akimbo in this episode as Ruby and Meg continue chatting about the holy trinity of sex topics: lube, squirting and strap-ons!    Ruby shares whether squirting is actually pee and reveals the world record for the highest volume of squirt. (Pimms jug anyone?!). Ruby and Meg exchange surprising squirting stories and discuss wearing a strap-on to… watch TV.  This is the second half o...

Ruby and Meg tackle the holy trinity of sex topics: lube, squirting and strap-ons!  Ruby gives us the lowdown on different kinds of lube and Meg shares the moment lube got her featured in The Sun. Ruby builds up to revealing an explicit lube-related story that her book editor asked her to remove before the book was published.  This is a two-part episode. Part two out next week!    Email the podcas...

Who are you when no one else is watching? Ruby and Meg have a raw and candid discussion with their first ever guest: author and psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber.  From painful stories of being slut shamed to laughing at the shame you can feel for f*cked up TV crushes, Ruby, Meg and Charlotte get shame out in the open. This is a complex and tender discussion.  Sexual violence is discussed in thi...

Was your sex ed growing up giving Mean Girls vibes? Ruby and Meg give you the sex ed you wish you’d had…. Including a fun fact about the speed of sperm!  As a sex educator on the ground, Ruby shares some of the most popular questions kids ask in sex ed classes and Meg shares her mortifying 1970s-style sex ed experience at school. They chat about the things they wish they’d been told and why a more...

Ruby and Meg chat about the first time they watched porn, growing up queer, the history of porn, and the ethical porn industry. Plus, what are the top 5 search terms of PornHub? Ruby and Meg reveal all.  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Links and resources: Mozart’s “Leck mich im Arsch” - https://www.youtube.c...

Do you know your fetish from your kink? Ruby and Meg have got you covered.  Meg spills the beans (or should we say custard and gravy?!) on things she was asked to do as a sex worker and Ruby gets hot and bothered talking about jelly.  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Ruby and Meg recommendations: The New Toppi...

Ruby is newly single and to use her own words, entering a ‘slaggy era’. Megan has been single for years. So what’s their take on singleness?  Ruby and Meg chat about their personal lives, the shocking cost of being single, solo sex and w**king stories, and where the “modern Bridget Jones” would be living today. Watch on YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@InsandOutspod Email the podcast: hello@insa...

What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place...