The Answer To Everything

In this short episode, Tracy and I discuss how to make it through the difficult time in marriage when you're not quite ready to leave, but not happy staying. I give tips on how to communicate to your partner that you are ready to leave the relationship. Today's client, Tracy: Tracy is suddenly fed up with her marriage, and contemplating divorce.  —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with...

Today, Reagan and I work together to pay attention to difficult feelings instead of brushing them off or pretending they're not there. We find tools for Reagan to use when she wants to feel more powerful and positive. I give tips for finding and using tools for yourself. Today's client, Reagan: In this full-length episode, we meet Reagan: a sensitive young mother in methadone treatment for addicti...

Today, Reagan and I work together to pay attention to difficult feelings instead of brushing them off or pretending they're not there. We find tools for Reagan to use when she wants to feel more powerful and positive. I give tips for finding and using tools for yourself. Today's client, Reagan: In this short episode, we meet Reagan: a sensitive young mother in methadone treatment for addiction. An...

In today's episode,  Jewely and I work together to teach her she's safe to say, "Mom, I don't need you anymore." I give you tips for what to do when you feel scared after standing up to powerful people. Today's client, Jewely: In this full-length episode, we follow Jewely as she looks at the issues caused by her hot-and-cold mother. Instead of people-pleasing and keeping quiet, Jewely bravely stan...

In today's episode,  Jewely and I work together to teach her she's safe to say, "Mom, I don't need you anymore." We explore the difference in childhood abuse: attack vs. neglect. I give tips and validation for those of you who were neglected in childhood. Today's client, Jewely: In this short episode, we follow Jewely as she looks at the issues caused by her hot-and-cold mother. Instead of people-...

In this four-part series of mini-episodes, I help you understand the personality disorders you see most often in your everyday life: Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, and Antisocial. In this episode, I break down Antisocial Personality Disorder. I give examples of how the disorder shows up in real life and give tips to those of you who are in a relationship with someone with Antisocial persona...

In this four-part series of mini-episodes, I help you understand the personality disorders you see most often in your everyday life: Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, and Antisocial. In this episode, I break down Histrionic Personality Disorder. I give examples of how the disorder shows up in real life and give tips to those of you who are in a relationship with someone with Histrionic persona...

In this four-part series of mini-episodes, I help you understand the personality disorders you see most often in your everyday life: Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, and Antisocial. In this episode, I break down Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I give examples of how the disorder shows up in real life and give tips to those of you who are in a relationship with someone with Narcissistic per...

In this four-part series of mini-episodes, I help you understand the personality disorders you see most often in your everyday life: Borderline, Narcissistic, Histrionic, and Antisocial. In this episode, I break down Borderline Personality Disorder. I give examples of how the disorder shows up in real life and give tips to those of you who are in a relationship with someone with Borderline Persona...

Everyone at PRIDE events are seen, heard, and loved. Drag Queens, rappers, addicts–and I talk to them all. Hear my conversations with the colorful, beautiful people of PRIDE Visalia! Featured in this episode: Touchstone Recovery Center, HEAL Project, Tranceformer (@tranceformerproductions on Instagram), Leo Carmona (@leoocarmona on Instagram), Congregation B'nai David, and AIDS Walk Visalia.  —--...

Get to know more about me, Rachel! In this mini-episode, I tell you my personal story: starting with my childhood in Nebraska, sharing how I worked through my depression, anxiety, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, what it was like giving birth to my daughter, why I married two men and a woman (not at the same time), and more!  —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you lov...

In today's episode, John and I discuss how worthless judgment is, and he learns how to be more creative when it comes to building a life that works for him. I give you not-so-typical therapy tips to help you get through tough situations–tips like grandpas, blankies, and touching yourself (not like that). Today's client, John: In our season finale, John reveals his homework was a big, fat, flop. Tu...

In today's episode, Tracy and I explore parenthood from the perspective of: I love this, AND it stresses me out... And you will learn that most depression is caused by not being your true self. I give you four steps to combat depression. Today's client, Tracy: In this episode, we hear from Tracy two weeks after she quits smoking weed (some of her hypochondria and anxiety make an appearance in this...

In this episode, Olivia and I talk about all the ways we escape ourselves–drugs, alcohol, food, etc. And we brainstorm better, healthier ways to escape. I give you tips to stop your negative self-talk. Today's client, Olivia: In this episode, Olivia recounts her experience with her childhood abuser. We realize she talks to herself using the same words her abuser used to say to her. —-- Want to wor...

In this episode, we talk about what it's like to achieve all the counseling goals you set out to achieve. I give you tips for how to keep going  in your growth, even during tough times.  Today's client, Jasper: Today, Jasper digs into his ethnicity and culture and tries to make meaning of it in his current life. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, chec...

In this episode, Jewely and I discuss how to go from not trusting anyone, to being being smart about who you can and can't trust. Jewely also shares how she doesn't like who she's become since the "Dark Night"--the night her ex-boyfriend attacked her, and I give you tips to trust yourself more than you trust others. Today's client, Jewely: Today, Jewely retells the most terrifying night of her lif...

In this episode, John and I explore what happens when he lets go of all his value that's based on accomplishments--grades, awards, money, etc. I give you tips for nurturing both your human side and your spiritual side.  Today's client, John: Today, John explains how his college "failures" affected his decision to return to school. John struggles with achieving material things (because he is "suppo...

In this episode, Tracy and I talk about having a relationship with your mom, when the only reason you're doing it is because she's "family". And, I give you tips for getting to the real issue after you lose your shit. Today's client, Tracy: In this episode, Tracy learns how to balance motherhood, wife-life, and a career. Also, she talks about living in the same house as her mom. —-- Want to work w...

In today's episode, Olivia and I explore the moments she feels like a boss and the moments she feels like a child. I have tips for how to take compliments and how to coach yourself through difficult times. Today's client, Olivia: In this episode, we meet Olivia. Just weeks after bariatric surgery, she is noticing how people react to her new appearance, and she doesn't like it. But does she have th...

In today's episode, I give you tips for fixing all the things your caregivers messed up in you. Today's client, Jasper: In today's episode, Jasper shows me how much he's grown by using all the tools he gained last year. He is digging deeper, looking at his childhood, and realizing he doesn't want to repeat his parents' behaviors. And Jasper wants to know the answer to the ultimate question: Who am...

In today's episode Jewely and I talk about why people end up in abusive relationships, and I teach you tools for calming down when you get triggered. I also explain why we love our abusers even after the relationship ends. Today's client, Jewely: Today, you listen as Jewely rebuilds herself after a breakup from a narcissist. To get back who she was, and discover who she is becoming, Jewley must ma...

Today, John and I talk about the effects of hard punishments given in the name of "love". We also discuss those super-critical (mean) voices in our heads, and we talk about why our strength just *poof* disappears in some situations. I explain how to get rid of that critical voice in your head and replace it with something that's actually going to help you. Today's client, John: In this episode, yo...

Today, I explain the defense mechanisms,  repression and suppression in a way that makes them make sense. I teach you why they are your friends--they help you get through situations you otherwise would be just too hard to handle.  Today's client, Mallory: In this episode, you listen to another therapy session between me and Mallory. Mallory tells the story of her childhood (which she describes as...

Today, I explain how your family's history affects your ideas about the future. We also discuss why it's good when families talk about the dark stuff. Today's client, Tracy: In today's episode, Tracy shares the suprising, life-changing news she got when her family gathered for her grandmother's funeral. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The...

Today, we explore sexuality, marriage, and birthday parties. I give you tools for trusting and valuing yourself and I show you how you do things to get responses you want from the people. Today's client, Jasper: In this epsiode, you listen to Jasper as he practices voicing his opinion. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Ru...