The Answer To Everything

Have you ever heard someone say "OH MY GOD I'm so OCD…" Have you ever wondered if YOU have OCD? In this episode, Rachel and Ellie discuss what it means to actually have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.   —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Runners Produced and edited by Ellie The Editor 🦋  

Do you avoid talking about some things with your dad? Politics? Money? Parenting? There's something about dads that makes those conversations extra touchy, right!? In this episode, I explain why your dad drives you crazy, and how this can actually seriously affect your life. Today's client, Robin: This is Robin's first session on the podcast. And she tells me about a really uncomfortable "Trump" c...

Progress doesn't usually show up in the big moments. It shows up in the small moments throughout your life. And in the same way, bad stuff usually doesn't show up in your life in a big way. It happens little by little. In this episode, I explain why it's so important to pay attention to the small moments in life–because they are the most important. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to fo...

What's disappointing you today? Your job? Your money situation? Your home? A relationship? In this episode, I explain how expectations are the reason you're disappointed with life.  By the end of this episode, you'll understand how to move from expectations and disappointment, to acceptance and peace.  Today's client, Olivia: In Olivia's session, she talks about how her birthday party with family...

Do you have a role that you play in your life? Do you manipulate your relationships to keep yourself safe in the role you play? Today, I will explain where our roles come from and why we manipulate relationships.  Today's client, Jasper: In this replay episode, you hear a portion of Jasper's session where he and I discuss his relationships and how he always plays the "helper" role. —-- Want to wor...

We all argue with people in our lives over small things, right? Have you ever wondered what's underneath the arguments? No matter what you're arguing about, the root of it is not what you may think. In this episode, I explain how you're actually fighting to feel VALUED. And by the end of the episode, you'll have enough self-awareness during conflict to argue about the real-stuff, and how to look d...

Did you know, at the end of their life, most people report peace as one of the most valuable things? What do you give away your peace for? How important is living a life of peace to you? The only way to experience peace is to be real about who you really are... but often, you trade this for something else. In this episode, I explain how and why you sell your peace for moments of temporary, feel-go...

Do you know what to do when you get triggered? Deep breaths, count to ten, go for a walk? These are great, but they don't get to the real issue.   In this episode, I give you a powerful tool to use when you are triggered. A tool that will not only help move you through the intense moment, but also, heal the source of the pain. By the end of this episode, you'll know exactly what to do the next tim...

How do you spot a narcissist in the dating world? In today's episode, I give you the five red flags to watch out for, so you will know if you're talking to a narcissist. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Runners Produced and edited by Ellie The Editor 🦋      

Do you feel like it's mean to say "No"? Do you find yourself only setting limits only after you can't take it anymore? In this episode, I explain why having limits EARLY in relationships is so hard, AND one of the most important things you need to do for your relationships. By the end of the episode, you'll know how to set a boundary early in your relationships, so you don't end up feeling like yo...

Let's be clear. Abuse is not always physical. Abuse=any time someone is making you think, feel, or do something you don't want. Has recovering from a recent, terrible, and abusive relationship been hell for you? In this episode, I explain the hardest part of recovering from an abusive relationship. And, by the end of this episode, you'll know how to begin healing.  Today's client, Ezzy: In Ezzy's...

I've been overworked and I've felt like crying, so I decided to invite Ellie on the show to do a fun episode, responding to comments and DM's from my social media. I responds to hateful comments, loving comments, flirtatious comments, and comments that make me say, "huh?". Best of all, I respond to a comment that represents my current love life! —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with m...

Do you ever think you're too sensitive? Or you're an overthinker? In this episode, I explain what happens when we feel like we are TOO MUCH. And I'll gives one easy step to reverse the constant self-criticism we all face.  Today's client, Reagan: In Raegan's counseling session, she expresses that she thinks too much, her mind races more than anyone elses, and she's overly sensitive. —-- Want to wo...

In today's episode, I explain what to do when you're trying to decide if (or when) it's time for you to start dating again.  Today's client, Raegan: In her session, Raegan talks about her break up with her ex, and swears that she doesn't want to date again.  —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Runners Produced and edited by...

In today's episode, I explain what narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) looks like in real life. And I explain how people with narcissistic traits affect your mental health by getting in the way of you taking care of yourself--your wants and needs. For many, this causes symptoms of anxiety and depression. I offer help for those of you in a relationship with someone with narcissistic traits. —--...

Today, I break down Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). I give you examples of how the disorder shows up in real life and provides tips for those who are in relationships with people with people with GAD.  —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Runners Produced and edited by Ellie The Editor 🦋

Why do people stay in abusive relationships? How about you? Do you have someone in your life who repeatedly mistreats you? Maybe you still have hope they will change. Why do you think you have hope, when they've shown you they will not, or cannot, change? In this episode, I explain how one of the hallmarks of an abuser is the inability to change. I explores several reasons why you still hope your...

Are you a grown-ass woman reentering the dating world? If you're like most women, it's not going well. In this episode, I explain why you are attracting people who aren't a good fit, and what mistakes you can avoid so you stop wasting your time, energy, and money on useless dates. By the end of this episode, you'll know the three things you need to do BEFORE going on dating apps, so you can attrac...

What parts of your personality do you think are "bad"? Do you put pressure on yourself to be the version of you you think is "good"? In this episode, I talk to you about how hating and avoiding the "bad" parts of yourself never works. By the end of this episode, you'll understand how embracing your "bad" parts can be the answer you were looking for the whole time.  Today's client, Jewely: In Jewel...

In this episode, I explain the new trend I'm seeing in my private practice: women are leaving their men because they feel overworked, overlooked, and not supported. Meanwhile, their men have a confused look on their face--they have no idea why thier wives are mad. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love the music, check out The Gospel Whiskey Runners Produced and edi...

Just speak up !!  If you don't know what to say when it's time to express yourself, you probably HATE hearing this, right!? In this episode, I discuss why so many people don't know what they think, how they feel, or what they want. So when they're asked to speak up, they're left saying, "Uhhhhhhhhh….." By the end of this episode, you'll know three simple steps to learn yourself - how you feel, and...

Do you have someone in your life who constantly triggers you? Are you confused about why this ONE person has such an impact on you? In this episode, I give you a new tool that will help you figure out why you're getting triggered. By the end of this episode, you'll understand the three steps to take when you are flooded, so over time, you mature and grow. Today's client, Jasper: In Jasper's counse...

Are you going through a big life change and wonder why you feel so depressed? I will explain why you feel depressed when your life and the people in it are transitioning, shifting, or changing. By the end of this episode, you'll understand the three things to expect when you're making a big change in your life, why the depression that comes with change is so difficult, and how to be more comfortab...

Ever been gaslit? How about love-bombed? Do you ever ask, "How did I let myself end up in an abusive relationship?" In this episode, I explain how gaslighting and love-bombing can lure you into an abusive relationship. And the irony is: you're the one who feels guilty at the end of it. I share my favorite tool for combating the guilt you feel for ending up in an abusive relationship. Today's clien...

Do you beat yourself up all the time? Are your thoughts about yourself more negative than positive? In this episode, I explain how negative self-talk gets in the way of your life satisfaction and success. At the end of the episode, I give a clear, specific tool to stop your negative self-talk.  Today's client, John: In John's counseling session, John has a difficult time responding when I ask him...