Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself

I’ll be honest with you, I find the idea of time management nauseating. I am so sick of talking about it and being disappointed by planners and systems that don’t work. By the time I got to my 40s, I expected to have figured this out - even if it was just a little bit! It took a massive shift in perspective for me to truly understand why none of the planners and schedulers worked for me. Why I str...

How often would you say you hear the word busy? I hear it a dozen times a day – on social media, in articles – my friends and family members say it all the time. Heck, I even say the word at least once a day! But are we sabotaging our success and happiness by  using the word busy ??? Language is important, it frames how we feel about ourselves and our lives. What if selecting this word to describe...

Quiet Quitting is a horrible name for a very important phenomenon going on in the workplace today. I’ve heard people call it stealing from the company, laziness, or a lack of gratitude for having a job. What we’re seeing now is a whole community of people recognizing that they have been asked to do WAY more than their jobs require for too long. We have all been socialized to believe a lot of stori...

Over the last couple of years as I began my healing journey, I realized that there were a few fundamental truths I had to live by if I was going to be a happy and fulfilled person who showed up in service to myself and others. To feel true joy I really had to let go of my belief systems that I had been programmed with and come up with a new set. Today's episode is an exploration of the ideas...

When someone says that someone is uncoachable or lazy, it makes me want to stab my ears out – and fast. Calling someone uncoachable is not only mean and really fucking judgmental, but it also serves no purpose. Never has anyone been called that and then immediately done self reflection work to understand why they are the problem.  It’s not helpful.  On today’s episode of Stop Shoulding all Over Yo...

👉 Should I be on Facebook or not? I’ve been asked this question a thousand times. And I have given similar answers for the past several years because honestly, I believed that you did need to be on Facebook to be a successful business owner.  Over the last year I’ve been proved wrong enough to where I’ve changed my position. No - you do NOT need to be on Facebook to be a successful business owner...

❓ Have you ever found yourself with something that you need to do on your action item list? And it looks so simple, and you know it's easy, but you simply cannot bring yourself to do it?  It feels like there’s some sort of inner compulsion holding you back. You can’t explain it, but you know what it feels like. It’s the feeling of, “I simply can’t get myself to do this thing.” And you probab...

💰 What is the Price of Success? When you think about your goals when you first started your business did you consider the price you would have to pay to achieve them?  Until about 5 years ago I never had. All I knew was that I wanted to achieve goals, and the price didn't matter - I never thought about it. Neither did any of my clients or my peers. We knew we had GOALS, but when it came time...

There’s one more big reason why you may struggle with charging what you’re worth, and this is the hardest one to overcome. It manifests itself in 2 ways:  💔 When you don’t believe in your product, your company, your brand 💔 Or,  You’ve fallen out of love with what you do or how you do it This is often the hardest one to recognize, because it’s like a relationship. You don’t realize how it’s slow...

👉 Do you cringe when sharing how much you’re worth? 👉 Do you word vomit everything you do when trying to share your value because you’re afraid of missing something important? 👉 Speaking of which how do you feel about tooting your own horn? If you’re like most people, your stomach is already in knots. The idea of sharing your personal value is terrifying, so it’s easier to focus on the stuff yo...

How hard is it to decide how to price your services? It’s agonizing, right? You’re putting a dollar value on your blood sweat and tears. YOU KNOW what you offer is priceless, but you can’t help feeling like you sound like you’re begging for every sale.  It’s bad enough when you’re asking for the sale, but it’s sometimes even worse when you’re figuring out HOW to price what you do. And THAT is why...

Do you struggle with talking about your value? Are you afraid to ask for what you're worth? Do you automatically feel like you need to discount anytime someone asks you your prices? Are you giving things away as incentives? If so, then this live is for you! Note: This is a LIVE recording of the Stop Shoulding all Over Yourself podcast with a Q&A after! Please ask your questions while we’r...

Have you ever found yourself saying,  I used to be able to remember so much more Once I’ve gotten back to where I was 3 years ago, then we’ll be in good shape I feel like I need to reset, get back to the person I was when I first started I have so much less energy now, once I can get back to myself This is the plight of us all. Looking back to the idealized version of ourselves from the past, and...

We clearly have a theme going on this month - and that theme is CHANGE! We’re undergoing a MASSIVE metamorphosis at Team Minessa, not the least of is that I am OWNING the shit out of my name now - we’re going to be rebranding to Minessa Ink over the next month or so - keep an eye out! BUT dude, change is HARD, and it’s worse when you feel like you’re going to be judged for it. It’s why so many peo...

The other day in office hours we had a powerful discussion about how my clients approach doing new things.  Almost every single one said that they needed to know what they needed to do, they needed to understand the lay of the land, have the plan mapped out before they start.  Whereas this is super important in brain surgery, large scale construction, and flight planning - this technique will not...

If you’re in my audience then chances are you have a chronic illness of some kind. Maybe: 🤕 You’re sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time 🤕 You have a physical illness that limits your mobility and uptime 🤕 You have a mental illness that limits your mobility and uptime 🤕 You are a caregiver for one of the above You have a life outside of your business that you want to prioritize,...

Several years ago I literally almost worked myself to death. My body had been shouting at me for months that I was working too much - I needed a break. But I didn’t know HOW to make progress in my business, stay present, AND ALSO make sure I had time to take care of myself.  If I’m being honest - I felt like I had to make the choice. Either it was self care or feeding myself.  Turns out, I was cre...

Comparison is the thief of joy.  Aint that the truth. OncI became a business owner, comparison trapping became like a 2nd job for me. I was always worried about: 👉 What other people were doing that was working so I could do the same thing 👉 The people who copied me, because that was MY hard work! No Doubt, You’ve been there yourself at some point. When you’re first starting out and not sure what...

This week I went to the Boutique Hub Summit in Dallas Texas, and I feel like my mind was blown to the stratosphere. I went to train, but I feel like I learned just as much as I taught.  On this very special episode of Stop Shoulding, we’re going to talk about how you can make the most out of these events, even if you have social anxiety or aren’t sure you belong.  Note: This is a LIVE recording of...

“I feel like I’m doing a lot of things, but they aren’t getting me anywhere.” That’s what one of my clients said to me during our discovery session. She echoed what many business owners struggle with - the feeling that they’re spinning their wheels ❌ They’re always looking to that next big event that they do as the one that will “click” and start the path to less anxious business ownership ❌ The...

I’ve had and spent millions of dollars over the course of my life, and it’s taught me a couple of things about myself: 👉 First, I am really really good at finding opportunities to make money 👉 Second, If I don’t learn how to use the money I make responsibly, then it doesn’t matter how many customers or sales I have, I’ll always be and feel behind. 🤯 This was sobering for me. But also insanely f...

I used to hate asking for help. ESPECIALLY in my business. I have ADHD and as a kid I was always told I’d do so much better in school if I just “applied myself.” They made me feel stupid and incompetent.  Asking for help only reminded me of feeling weak and small and incapable. And for years I let that story KEEP me from having the life that I desired.  ❌ I hesitated to ask for help because I was...

Have you ever tried to mimic what someone else is doing in their business to achieve their results? I have, at least 3 times. And all 3 were an abysmal failure.  The first time I was copying a boutique owner. I copied everything she did meticulously. CRICKETS. The next couple of times didn’t do much better. It was soul crushing.  I was convinced that because it worked for her, it should work for m...

Hey y'all - fun fact.  There are 3 stages to any business… 👉 Stage 1: Friends and Family LOVE you, you’re on top of the world 👉 Stage 2: Moving into a bigger pond, trying to find new people outside of F&F 👉 Stage 3: Scaling up and making the big bucks and big impact 🤯 What you need to run a successful business is DIFFERENT in each stage.  Most of the challenges we face as business own...

Ask any coach or marketer and they’ll tell you that the number 1 question they get from entrepreneurs is, “How can I find more customers?” One of the best ways that we’ve heard of is paid advertising. It’s the magic sauce. Once you put money behind your business, it’s going to start rolling. Because that’s how it works, right? Anyone who’s pressed that little blue BOOST button on Facebook knows th...