Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary. In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries.  I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what t...

Welcome to Episode 139 where we talk about how taking the emotional risks in the moment is the only way to create genuine connection.   In this episode we take it a step braver. We are actually going to go a little more in depth about connection, and how important emotional intimacy is to our relationships. Why we NEED to bare our souls and be there when others bear theirs…to heal, to connect to b...

Welcome to Episode 138 where we explore what to work on if we want to become more grounded and confident when we connect with others. In this episode we talk about making the connection real…in the moment, and how so many of us struggle to feel confident and grounded enough to connect genuinely and take relational and emotional risks in real time. We talk about how confidence is built by doing som...

Welcome to Episode 137 where we give an overview of emotional connection, and ways this month we will dive into how to get better at it. In this episode we do an overview of how this month we will be going a bit deeper on emotional connection, specifically ways to actually put it into practice.  We defined it and talked about why it matters so much to our well-being and determines not only the qua...

Welcome to Episode 136 where we define aspects of a truly trustworthy, emotionally safe person. In this episode we discuss how trustworthy people are those who have SHOWN that they can be trusted. With our money, our time, our friendship, and our vulnerability.  Clients who get themselves out of toxic relationships then ask me well Mar "Now What? I don't want to pick another unsafe person !" This...

Welcome to Episode 135 where we get honest about ways we can try to control outcomes rather than get close to people. In this episode we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment.  We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out.  When we...

Welcome to Episode 134 where we explore why our early experiences with boundary violations can imprint us to not let people in later.  In this episode we talk about an important aspect of the ability to be vulnerable, and that is all about our first experiences. The boundary issues that happened meant that our sense of self was threatened, our sense of emotional safety and trust and our ability to...

Welcome to Episode 133 where we start the new year exploring why healthy connection with others is a core need, and how it isn't easy for everyone to establish. In this episode we talk about how this month's focus will be on connection, why we need it, what healthy looks like and what is doesn't, and why even though it's so important, many of us are not that great at it. So, all month we're going...

Welcome to Episode 132 where we look ahead to what we want our life to look like in the coming year or so. In this episode we identify what we want to either begin working on or continue to work on so we can reach our goal of becoming the best version of ourselves.  Then we do the hard part: evaluating how ready we are to truly do this, as well as ways to get back on the horse if we fall off.   Th...

Welcome to Episode 131 where we take a moment to do a year-end retrospective of our life. In this episode we take a moment and look back on how your year has been…from things you are proud of, to the difficult things and all the learning, practicing, realizing and coming to terms with as you walk along. We benefit from the self-care of reflection, validation, and honesty as we evaluate what's happ...

Welcome to Episode 130 where we explore what it means to actually practice self-care during the holidays.    In this episode we talk about different ways to take care of ourselves as we are now in the holiday season and the coming to the end of another year.  We focus on how you can create a set of intentions for your self-care, along with ways to have an ongoing assessment of how that's going – t...

Welcome to Episode 129 where we talk to Joseph Corella, Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher.   Joseph Corella  is a Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher.   Using his dance, theatre, and fitness background, he has traveled the globe, spreading this lov...

Welcome to Episode 128 where we explore how being intentional helps us to feel grounded and empowered. In this episode we talk about being focused on who you want to be and what you intend for yourself this holiday season.  Being prepared and getting back to yourself, means taking your power back from maybe years of being compliant, of being enmeshed with family or others and losing who you are ov...

Welcome to Episode 127 where we talk about going home for the upcoming holidays well…different.  In this episode we talk about how this is the time of year we may be "going home" in a sense – seeing family and old friends perhaps after a long time.  With Covid, that may well be most people's reality and so this may be a big adjustment.  I have many clients who have felt secretly relieved that they...

Welcome to Episode 126 where we explore how to embrace the letting go that's necessary when we outgrow relationships. In this episode we talk about one of the "side effects" of growing and changing, and taking our lives in a different direction.  When we heal, we want better, and so we begin to need better in our environments to support this new information.  Our bar gets raised in terms of how we...

Welcome to Episode 125 where we talk about how to set boundaries with family and friends around the holidays. In this episode we explored some things to consider about setting healthy boundaries for yourself this holiday season with the people you care about. Holidays can be wrought with expectations, perfectionism and guilt.   We explored honoring what you need, how to detach with love and allow...

Welcome to Episode 124 where we explore the concept of mentally preparing for your self-care around the holidays. In this episode we focus on the upcoming holidays and how it can bring us face to face with some great relationships where we can practice our new behaviors, and not so great situations where we definitely will need to practice new behaviors. We start the month off with an overview of...

Welcome to Episode 123 where wrap up the month focusing on what changes you can begin making right away. In this episode we explore the how and the why behind the basic foundational pieces we must look at if we want to create sustained change.  We identify specific tasks we need to complete in order to make it happen, and we need patience and perseverance to keep working it through. I would not do...

Welcome to Episode 122 where we have an important conversation with Donna Tashjian, Life Mastery and Health Coach about how to turn your life around. In this episode we get to talk to Donna, who is a down-to-earth inspirational speaker. She has been speaking and coaching for over 20 years. She is the founder of Vibrant Living International, author and host/founder of the  "You Were Designed for Gr...

Welcome to Episode 121 where we explore the areas we most need to look at when we are focusing on changing for the better. In this episode we get down into identifying some important areas to look at so we can see if we need to work on some things to become healthier.  These areas I believe hold the components for a confident, healthy self.  They are also crucial if we want to have healthy relatio...

Welcome to Episode 120 where we begin this month by exploring what it means to be truly ready to make big changes in your life. In this episode we talk about when we reach that point in our adult life when we get serious about needing things to be different. Maybe we are hitting an age milestone, a big change or loss, or we simply can no longer ignore the symptoms that show us things aren't ok. Al...

Welcome to Episode 119 where we wrap up this month focusing in on the biggest confidence builder of all:  Integrity. In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open.  Being assertive requires that we are first proud of who we are, and more certain of our truth before we...

Welcome to Episode 118 where we look at how commitment and follow through create congruence and self-confidence. In this episode we talk about a very important aspect of assertiveness and self-confidence, and that is the concept of congruence.  Risking commitment to what matters and following through on those commitments to raise self-esteem and bring a greater level of trust in your relationships...

Welcome to Episode 117 where we explore how motivation is connected to holding onto who you are, and not losing yourself in your relationships. In this episode we talk about how motivation and is a big part of assertiveness, and how confidence is built – or broken by how much we can stay focused regardless of what life throws at us.  We explore the typical motivation killers that can creep into ou...

Welcome to Episode 116 where we introduce the concepts of motivation and commitment as integral parts of healthy assertiveness.   In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is an expression of confidence, which in turn is built on commitment and motivation. We dive into the conversation about how assertiveness is not just about speaking up, but also about owning our motivation and our commitm...