Ownit! Powercast

Welcome to episode 115 where we focus on how asking for what we need in the moment and honoring agreements creates emotional safety in our relationships. In this episode we get into just what it takes to negotiate needs in the moment – when the thing is happening – when we least want to – because we may fear conflict.  But learning how to practice healthy boundaries and detachment go a long way to...

Welcome to episode 114 where we identify the communication skills necessary to be able to negotiate in our relationships.    In this episode we talk about how important it is to be able to detach, have good boundaries, and be able to connect assertively and with emotional honesty and genuine caring – about yourself and them.  Good communication means no manipulation, no emotional immaturity and fo...

Welcome to episode 113 where we explore how our childhoods helped to shape our ability to negotiate or not, via how they managed conflict themselves, as well as how they tried to teach us to do so. In this episode we talk about how your family, your first friends and your community both taught you and modeled for you how to handle conflict, how to ask for what you needed, and how to problem-solve....

Welcome to episode 112 where we dive into some of the biggest obstacles to being able to negotiate needs in our relationships. In this episode we talk about some of the struggles that can get in the way of being able to negotiate in our relationships.  We explore the idea that grieving and detaching, setting healthy limits and honoring other's boundaries and health self-esteem wounds are at the cr...

Welcome to episode 111 where we spell out how we will be talking about a very important part of relationships: learning how to negotiate to solve problems and forge a strong friendship. In this episode we introduce the topic we will focusing on all month – healthy negotiating needs in our relationships.  We outline what gets in the way, how we may have never learned how to do it, and why it's so i...

Welcome to episode 110 where we finish out the month talking about how we underestimate the power of daily choices that can greatly impact our life. In this episode we look into how even though we may not see it yet, it's all the tiny choices we have made every day that have brought us to where we are today, for better or worse. Therefore it is the intentional healthy choices we can begin to make...

Welcome to episode 109 where we look at what it means to keep yourself, and the other person, in a place of choice when communicating.    In this episode we explore what it means to keep choice in our connections with others.  To demonstrate healthy boundaries, detachment, and therefore personal ownership of what belongs to us, and allowing the other to always be choosing.  Key Elements: Look at h...

Welcome to episode 108 where we focus on what it really means to be in a place of choice, so we can take full ownership of our life, and feel empowered.  In this episode we describe the essence of Choice Theory by William Glasser, and talk about how taking ownership what we can control can help us create healthy relationships with ourselves and others.  Key Elements: Learn about the basic tenants...

Welcome to episode 107 where begin the month exploring how owning our choices is the essence of empowerment, and what may make it difficult for you to just Own your Choices.    In this episode we talk about how owning your choices is at the core of this podcast. It's owning your choices so you can own or maybe re-own your power and your life.  We explore how early relationships and experiences hel...

Welcome to episode 106 where we finish out this month's focus on healthy relationships by talking about how commitment to growth is so important.  In this episode we talk about how in order to have and maintain a healthy relationship, be it a friendship or with your partner, there must be a desire and a commitment to ongoing growth and change.  Otherwise, it will become a mess, and eventually impl...

Welcome to episode 105 where we look at something we crave the most in all of our relationships: genuine, vulnerable connection. To have a bond with someone where we feel safe, seen and heard.  Accepted. In this episode we explore the many facets of what comprises a healthy emotional connection, from compatibility to boundaries and how the healthiest of our close relationships provide a deep, mean...

Welcome to episode 105 where we look at something we crave the most in all of our relationships: genuine, vulnerable connection. To have a bond with someone where we feel safe, seen and heard.  Accepted. In this episode we explore the many facets of what comprises a healthy emotional connection, from compatibility to boundaries and how the healthiest of our close relationships provide a deep, mean...

Welcome to episode 104 where we look at perhaps the most foundational piece to have trust and closeness in a relationship: Boundaries.               In this episode we take some time to reflect and look at our relationships and look for the boundary issues, because they aren't always immediately visible.  In fact, we can mistake someone' s chaos for bad luck, codependent behavior for their caring...

Welcome to episode 103 where we dive into all things manipulative and passive-aggressive in our relationships, and why they can be so toxic. In this episode we take another look at how these behaviors make it emotionally unsafe in relationships, and how the toxicity can impact us on many levels. We also explore how destructive passive aggressive, manipulative and toxic behavior can affect our rela...

Welcome to episode 102! This month we are going to be looking at what makes a relationship relatively healthy and viable, and how to assess the ones you're in. Each week we will look at different aspects of this, since each one is so important and a discussion in and of themselves.  In this episode we talk about how sometimes we cannot see the unhealthy in our relationships until others point it o...

Welcome to episode 101 where we finish up the month on assertiveness by exploring the concept of using your voice, and making your inside and outside voices match. In this episode we talk about how rediscovering your confident inner four year old, and beginning to use your voice to express your truth.  With kindness, firmness, and the vibe that you are straight with YOU.  It's about making your in...

Wow Episode 100! We are celebrating this milestone with my guest Sonya Thompsen-Halsey,  Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach,  and we get into some wonderful conversation about assertiveness, answering your questions and hopefully provoking some thought and insights along the way. In this episode, we discuss some of the most common questions we have heard over the years regarding the conc...

Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior.  It's a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don't miss this one. In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard h...

Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior.  It's a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don't miss this one. In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard h...

Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior.  It's a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don't miss this one. In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard h...

Welcome to episode 98 where we start out the month focusing on the concept of assertiveness and how emotional honesty is such a big part of that ability to speak calmly yet firmly.  In this episode, we talk about how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefo...

Welcome to episode 98 where we start out the month focusing on the concept of assertiveness and how emotional honesty is such a big part of that ability to speak calmly yet firmly.  In this episode, we talk about how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefo...

Welcome to episode 97 where we take a moment to evaluate all the work and muddling through you've already done to get to where you are today.  Even if you feel like you've just started, or maybe frustrated by your progress or lack thereof… In this episode, we look at all the areas where we usually need to grow, from having healthy boundaries, self-esteem and our relationships. It's a great episode...

Welcome to episode 96 where we explore the magic of envisioning what you want your life to look like, and what a powerful change-making tool it can be. In this episode, we talk about how powerful envisioning can be in helping you move toward the future that you want.  We explore how part of you knows what you want and knows you can have it, while the other part might be afraid and stuck in the pas...

Episode 095 Let Go of the How and Let It Happen Welcome to episode 95 we talk about the hardest part: Letting go of the How…how we will make it happen, how it will all work out…how we will be able to reach our goals. In this episode, we focus on how we can easily fall into the trap of wanting to have control when we are making some big changes in our life, because it feels so vulnerable.  We explo...