Ownit! Powercast

As we continue our Summer of You series, we're exploring another important aspect of having a healthy relationship with yourself. Many of us spend a great deal of energy trying to make things work, hold things together, or find ways to create different outcomes in our lives and relationships. While those efforts often come from good intentions, they can sometimes leave us feeling exhausted, frustr...

We hear a lot about confidence, self-care, and boundaries, but there's another piece of the puzzle that often gets overlooked: self-respect. It's one of those qualities that can be difficult to define, yet it influences nearly every area of our lives, from our relationships to our choices to the way we see ourselves. In this episode, we're taking a closer look at self-respect and why it matters mo...

This episode is a little different. Instead of focusing on teaching, strategies, or breaking down patterns, this conversation is meant to feel more personal. If you learned early in life to carry hard things quietly, become "the strong one," need less from others, or handle life mostly on your own, this episode offers space to slow down and reflect on some of those experiences with honesty, compas...

In this episode, we explore how the people around us shape far more than we realize, from our nervous systems and confidence to our communication, clarity, and ability to grow. We talk about why growth often stalls around emotionally immature or unhealthy dynamics, even when we genuinely want to change, and how subtle relational patterns can slowly pull us into self-doubt, anxiety, and survival mo...

This week, I'm doing something a little different. I'm re-airing a conversation I recently had as a guest on The Positive Pen Podcast with John Rinaldo. John creates thoughtful conversations centered around storytelling, healing, reflection, creativity, and what he often calls the "quiet work of becoming." Through his The Positive Pen Substack and live video podcast, he brings people together to t...

Many of the ways we show up in relationships aren't random…they're roles we learned early in life to navigate our environment and stay connected. In this episode, we take a closer look at the common roles people carry into adulthood and how those patterns quietly influence communication, boundaries, and emotional connection. Through relatable examples, this conversation helps you recognize how the...

Today I'm joined by Mark Siedler and Lynetta Avery. They work with people who keep finding themselves in the same relationship situations having the same arguments, feeling pulled toward the same kinds of partners, and wondering why nothing they try seems to change it. Their work focuses on what's actually happening in the moment when things go sideways in relationships, and how to interrupt those...

In this episode, we close out the month by bringing everything together: what it actually looks like to move out of reaction and into intention. When you begin to understand how fear shows up in your thoughts, your body, and your communication, something shifts. You start to see that not every urge, emotion, or sense of urgency needs to be followed. And in that awareness, a different kind of space...

Kristen Crabtree is the author of  Be the You That's More You Than You've Ever Been  and a self-revelation guide who helps people separate truth from adaptation so they can live from alignment rather than conditioning. Her work is rooted in the idea that many of us don't lose ourselves all at once—we slowly adapt to expectations, relationships, and survival strategies until our original signal bec...

Doug Fleener's story shows how small shifts can completely redirect a day and a life. He went from bankrupting his family business because of addiction to rebuilding his life and career — eventually becoming the Director of Retail for Bose Corporation and later a CEO. That journey taught him the power of reframing challenges with one simple tool he now calls The What If Rule. Doug's new book, Star...

Why do we react before we think? Why does a simple conversation sometimes feel loaded, urgent, or overwhelming? In this episode, we explore what's happening inside your brain when fear takes the lead — and why your reactions can feel so convincing in the moment. You'll begin to understand how your nervous system learned to equate certain emotional experiences with danger, even when you're not actu...

We talk a lot about "good communication," but most of what people call good is actually just conflict avoidance. In this episode, we explore what emotionally mature communication really looks like — especially in the moments when it's hardest to stay steady. If you've ever left a conversation replaying it in your head, wishing you'd said less, or said it differently, this one is for you. We'll unp...

In this episode, we continue the month's focus on choice by exploring how easily communication can become a way to manage discomfort instead of express truth. Many of us were taught that being clear means saying more, softening our message, or keeping others comfortable—but those habits often pull us further away from ourselves. This conversation invites you to look more closely at over-explaining...

In this episode, I explore why the struggle to speak up isn't usually about communication skills, but about what our discomfort reveals regarding boundaries, emotional maturity, and internal safety. Rather than focusing on what others are doing wrong, this conversation turns inward, helping listeners understand what's happening inside them when needs arise and why those moments can feel so charged...

In this episode, I'm joined by Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, for an important conversation about coercive control and high-conflict divorce. Together, we explore the critical difference between typical divorce conflict — which usually de-escalates over time — and controlling behavior that escalates, creating ongoing fear, instability, and exhaustion. Lisa is a high-conflict divor...

Many people feel emotionally drained not because they care too much, but because  they carry too much. In this episode, I explore why empathy often turns into exhaustion, especially for those who learned early to manage emotions and prevent conflict. We talk about how over-carrying impacts the nervous system, boundaries, and sense of self, even when relationships appear 'fine' on the surface. This...

As a new year begins, many people feel the pull to reset, and at the same time, notice how hard it is to protect their energy, time, and emotional space. In this episode, I explore why boundaries can feel especially tender right now, particularly when the world feels uncertain or overwhelming. We talk about how stress and fear impact our nervous systems, and why this context matters when we're try...

January isn't about rein vention. It's about re-orientation. Many people come into January feeling scattered, tired, or strangely disconnected…and assume they should be further along by now. In this episode, I talk about why that experience makes sense, especially after a year that asked so much of our nervous systems. Rather than pushing for motivation or clarity, we explore what's really happeni...

The holidays often come with unspoken expectations to overgive, overexplain, and override our own needs. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a  Holiday Bill of Rights : compassionate reminder of what we are allowed to honor during a season that can easily pull us back into old roles and patterns. Rather than focusing on "doing more self-care," this episode centers on self-loyalty, emotiona...

In this episode, we're continuing our holiday self-care series with one essential truth: real peace begins when we're honest about what we can actually handle. The holidays tend to pull us back into old roles and emotional patterns, leaving us overwhelmed, overextended, and disconnected from ourselves before we even realize it. Today, we explore why this happens, how to recognize the subtle moment...

This week, we're pulling a good one from the vault… Welcome to Episode 191 where we dig into how real self-care means following through on what we need to do to take care of ourselves.  In this episode we dive deeper into the idea that TRUE self-care is when we make it real.  When we follow through on both holding the line on our boundaries and taking responsibility for what we have promised ourse...

This week, we're looking at how our families shaped the way we think about boundaries and why holiday gatherings like Thanksgiving tend to reactivate old roles and survival strategies.  This episode explores how to show up differently this Thanksgiving — grounded, prepared, and centered — instead of slipping back into the versions of ourselves we've outgrown. You'll learn how to notice old trigger...

Boundaries aren't just about saying no - they're about finally seeing clearly. In this episode, I break down how boundary work forces us out of fantasy and into reality, and why this shift brings up grief, sadness, and confusion before it brings peace. We explore what detachment actually means (loving without carrying), why acceptance always asks us to grieve the illusions we've held onto, and how...

When you start communicating with boundaries, the tone of every relationship begins to change — sometimes in ways that surprise you. In this episode, Mary Baker breaks down what it really means to speak from emotional honesty and detachment, and why this combination completely shifts the emotional climate at home, at work, and in your friendships. You'll learn how calm, grounded communication buil...

Boundary work sounds empowering — and it is — but no one tells you how  strange it feels at first. When you begin honoring your limits, your nervous system doesn't throw a party; it throws a fit. In this episode, we unpack why your body equates "familiar" with "safe," even when familiar has meant people-pleasing, over-giving, or pretending you're fine. You'll learn why this discomfort doesn't mean...