Now You Notice Podcast

Does someone loving you mean the relationship is good for you? In the Season 1 finale of Now You Notice , Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy challenge a sentence many of us have heard: “But they love you.” Love can be real while trust, safety, respect or repair are missing. Someone can love you and still hurt you. You can love someone and still decide the relationship isn't healthy for you. So...

In Episode 19, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore self-punishment from two different sides. What happens when you've hurt someone, taken responsibility and changed but still can't forgive yourself? And what happens when someone else hurt you, but years later you're still carrying what they gave you? We talk about guilt, accountability, forgiveness, apologies and the difference...

Why can trying so hard to calm down sometimes make you feel worse? In Episode 18, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore what happens when we fight uncomfortable feelings and accidentally add anxiety, judgment or shame on top of what we're already feeling. We talk about anxiety, anger, sadness, sleep, meditation and the pressure we put on ourselves to feel better immediately. Maybe not eve...

How many times have you talked about the thing you already know needs to change? Maybe you've analysed it. Understood where it came from. Talked about it with friends. Taken it to therapy or coaching. And all of that can matter. But eventually another question appears: What did I actually do? In Episode 17 of Now You Notice , Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore the gap between understan...

Who are you still trying to change? Your partner? Your parent? Your child? A friend? Sometimes we keep explaining, helping, recommending, fixing and hoping because we love someone and can see what their life could be. But there's a difficult truth underneath that: You can't do somebody else's growing for them. In Episode 16 of Now You Notice , Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore...

When does compromise become losing yourself? Nobody wakes up one morning and decides to disappear inside a relationship. It happens slowly. You stop saying what you think. You stop asking for what you need. You make yourself easier for everyone else and harder for yourself. In this episode of Now You Notice , Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore what happens when love begins to cost you your...

Have you ever felt guilty simply because someone else was upset with you? Maybe you said no. Set a boundary. Needed space. Made a decision they didn't like. And even though you hadn't actually done anything wrong... you felt guilty anyway. In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore the guilt that was never yours —the kind of guilt that can make us feel responsible for othe...

You Don't Have To Choose One Truth Why do we replay arguments over and over in our heads? Because our brain wants certainty. It wants someone to be right. Someone to be wrong. But what if that's the very thing keeping us stuck? In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore one of the biggest shifts in emotional maturity: learning to hold two realities at the same time. Togeth...

When does parenting get easier? When they're sleeping through the night? When they start school? When they become teenagers? When they finally leave home? Maybe it doesn't. Maybe every stage removes one challenge and replaces it with another. In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore how parenting changes us more than we expect. They discuss the expectations we bring into...

Does loving someone mean accepting everything they do? Many of us tolerate behaviour from the people closest to us that we'd never accept from a stranger. We excuse it because they're family. We stay because we feel guilty. We confuse rescuing with helping, and sacrifice with love. In this episode of Now You Notice , Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore why love should deepen account...

Why do we feel like our boundaries need to be understood before they can be respected? In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore why the need to explain ourselves can quietly undermine our boundaries, our peace and our self-respect. They discuss why understanding isn't always necessary, how boundaries become negotiations, and what emotional freedom looks like when we stop seeking...

Why do so many men feel they have to hide their emotions? In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore one of the strongest cultural messages many boys grow up with: "Men don't cry." Together they discuss emotional suppression, vulnerability, relationships, fatherhood, and what it really means to be emotionally strong. Because perhaps emotional maturity isn't about never crying... M...

Why do we keep repeating the same behaviours, even when we know better? Most of us believe that once we become aware of a problem, change should naturally follow. But what if awareness is only the beginning? In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore the gap between knowing and doing. Through personal stories about addiction, boundaries and therapy, they discuss why insight alone...

Love Isn't Always Capacity Can someone love you deeply… and still be unable to love you in the way you need? In this episode of Now You Notice , Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore the painful but liberating distinction between love and capacity . Many of us grow up believing that if someone truly loves us, they will understand us, support us, or change for us. But what happens when the...

Have you ever felt frustrated because someone just couldn't see what you see? In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore why we feel the need to convince others, why disagreement can hurt more than it should, and how peace often comes from letting go of the need to be understood. Together they reflect on awareness, connection, acceptance, and the freedom that comes when we sto...

Episode 5: Your Body Is Speaking What if your body has been trying to tell you something for years? In this episode of NOW YOU NOTICE, Miriam and Jordan explore the connection between emotional stress, self-disconnection, and the physical signals our bodies sometimes give us when something isn't right. Miriam shares her personal experiences with depression, IBS, and eczema, while Jordan reflec...

When life feels chaotic, our instinct is often to do more. More planning. More organising. More effort. But what if chaos isn't always a problem to solve? In this episode of NOW YOU NOTICE, we explore why so many of us feel overwhelmed despite working harder than ever, the difference between external order and internal order, and what actually helps us regain a sense of direction when life fee...

Before you notice the patterns, the behaviours, the emotional loops, or the truths hiding in plain sight… there is this moment. This is where Now You Notice begins. In this opening episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy introduce the premise behind the podcast: honest conversations about identity, emotional patterns, relationships, stress, performance, parenting, and the hidden dynamics shapi...

Most of us are living from patterns we never consciously chose. The beliefs, emotional responses, coping mechanisms, and identities we carry often began long before we understood what was happening. In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore inherited conditioning, unconscious scripts, emotional adaptation, and the hidden ways our past continues to shape how we live today. Sometim...

From the outside, some people seem completely together. Functional. Capable. In control. But internal reality often tells a different story. In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore performance, pressure, emotional overwhelm, and the hidden cost of appearing fine when you’re disconnected from how you actually feel. Sometimes competence becomes camouflage.

Children don’t just need guidance from us — they reveal things about us, too. In this episode, Miriam Hernandez and Jordan Murphy explore parenting, emotional triggers, self-awareness, and the unexpected lessons children bring into our lives. Sometimes the moments that test us most are the ones showing us what still needs attention.