Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves. But what does that actually mean or look like? In hundreds of coaching sessions - I've seen the many ways we can reject and disconnect from ourselves. And the impact that has on our lives & relationships. And in today's episode, I'm going to share some questions to help you do an audit of your own relationsh...

So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered.  We blame other people for triggering us. We try and convince people to change their behaviour so we can be less triggered. But what if instead you could change the way you respond to your triggers... And turn them into opportunities to understand your thought patterns on a deeper level. In today's episode - I'm going to teac...

This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions! I'll be discussing the following thought patterns, how they impact our relationships, and how to challenge them!  Including: Believing your worth is dependent on the way you look Gauging how much someone cares about you by how they follow your manual Needi...

In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients. And the impact they have on our relationships. Including: Believing you cause other people's emotions Making rejection mean something about YOU Believing you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovable AND MORE! PS. There were be a part 2 next we...

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships? You either did it perfectly or you're terrible. You're a good friend or a bad friend. Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all. If so - you're not alone! Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - pre...

In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD). For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax. They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?&ap...

When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection. And yet... sometimes humans lie! In today's episode, I'm discussing: Why humans lie The act of self-preservation  Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinking How to handle conversations around lying And the fear of being lied to Ready? Mentioned in the epis...

Do you often find yourself thinking: 'Why am I still thinking this?!' 'What's wrong with me!' 'I shouldn't STILL feel this way...' Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day?  If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU....

In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners. We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including: Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractive Should I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself? The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated on Feeling like you attract busy partners - and how to...

Do you often feel jealous in your relationships? Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends... Jealousy is a normal human emotion. But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked. In this episode we're talking about: What jealousy is Having...

This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain. One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts. Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true.  We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our brain - and then end up ruminating, spi...

In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships. We'll be covering: What values are How yours and your partner's values may differ Whether that's a problem And how to let your values guide you when making decisions Mentioned in the episode: James Clear's list of values Sign up to my email list Contact...

In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay.  Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery. Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles. Find her at @myhusbandsaddiction Check out her website: https://www.mariahkaycoaching.com/

As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics. Including: The fear of falling out of love with your partner When to end a relationship / when to try again Comparing yourself (and your life) to others  Jealousy over your partner's success What to do when you're triggered Mentioned in the episode: Processing emotions meditation

Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online... Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener: "My question is about trusting someone in the digital age. It feels like more and more our devices are built for hiding things. Every social media app now seems to have a vanishing mode for deleting conversations, and every new version of an operati...

Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid.  To fear what other people might be thinking of us... To fear what our partners or friends might do... To fear having to start again... To fear being alone... But I believe the antidote to fear is courage. And so in today's episode, I'm talking about: What courage is What lovi...

Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped? Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour? Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in your relationship - wondering if you and...

Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures. But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it? Have you been cheated on... Broken up with... Made a...

Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now? Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark... It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives. But in th...

Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered? Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives? If so... I've got you! This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year.  Mentioned in this episode: Group co...

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings. People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!' If your brain has offered a similar...

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach? Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy?  And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve?  If so - this episode is for YOU. I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and...

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over? Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle? Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction... And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before? If so - it's time t...

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all! But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships.  Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you? Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you? Do you often...

When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us... And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead.  Mentioned in the episode: Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS