Many Minds on the Issue

The Law of Attraction was made popular by The Secret a couple decades ago. People were looking for the secrets to success. A lot of people are very interested in tools for motivation, for managing time, projects, getting things done. In this episode we go into our history and a 30 year history of events impacting our life and that brings us to when we found The Secret and Bob Proctor's daily e...

Sometimes things happen, and we get shame-triggered. This week, when something happened, we realized almost immediately that it was an attempt to exile us from community and that we were feeling shame and where it originally came from. We were able to work on it and heal it. We share a post-mortem of that exploration and journey as an example of memory reconsolidation. We wrote & recorded that...

Onboarding is what we call helping stuck residents become more present in the Here & Now, and work on coconsciousness. What does it generally take to help system members who are stuck in PTSD loops or trapped in the There & Then to get free, or become more present in the Here & Now? We give a little history for how we figured it out, and an overview and big picture of the process we us...

Everyone needs an anchor or a base for exploring life. Some get it from family or friends, and if something shakes it, it can be devastating. Join us for an episode exploring how to have a reliable way to depend on your own internal system for structure, support, and safety so that you limit your reliance on externals for your deepest and most dependent needs. Content Warning: our young folk front...

Boundaries and Empathy (011) Important concept for our System Trust Issues series. Do other people's emotions overshadow your own? Do you have a hard time protecting yourself from emotional outbursts? Do you know where you end and other people begin? More on what is separate, and what ought to be. When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with...

We happily interrupt our regular podcast to say it's DID Awareness Day ! And as such, we're giving you all a special episode — the January 13th recording of our lecture Beyond the Movies: Debunking myths about DID & plural systems. This is long. Just over 1 hour and 20 minutes. You may have heard it before. Feel free to skip it if you don't need it! The original recording is available for down...

A discussion of how important names and re-naming can be for individuals, both external and within a plural system. Names have power, and what we name our headmates can create harmony or friction within the plural system. Buck of Crisses takes us through several types of hurt we can commit from mis-naming, labeling, and dead-naming. Trigger warning: If you have a problem with a certain nickname of...

United Front: Serenity Two Ways (021) A daily exercise in serenity; one of the many ways to be more present and less dissociated. The opposite of dissociation is presence. Presence is not just one thing going on, it's a collection of subtle arts including being mindful, anchored in the Here & Now, calm or serene, and being aware of one's surroundings. It was during a daily course in self-impro...

Integration Is Not What Anyone Thinks (020) FULL SHOW NOTES & EPISODE UPDATES!! Important updates here: https://kinhost.org/ManyMinds/ManyMinds020IntegrationIsNotWhatAnyoneThinks If you have to ask what they mean, maybe they should use a different word? Going over the whole lot of confusing words used between psychology and psychoanalysis and while they may think they have their terminology st...

United Front: Please Wipe Your Feet Before You Come In (019) Starting with and expanding on the United Front Boot Camp post of the same name: leaving your baggage and triggers outside of your meetings and greetings to form internal community. When you're starting your internal community, it's best to be on your best behavior with one another and leave your mess outside the meeting room. We go into...

Do Multiples Exist? - 2017 Update (018) The not-ranty version, covering much of the same ground as episode 017 with an update for new developmental models of DID. I had to apologize for the quality of the 2005 recording in episode 017 — and maybe apologize for the rant, too. People with mental health issues get the short end of the stick, but with DID, we often get it from inside the mental health...

Do Multiples Exist? - 2005 Remaster (017) Rant alert!! Dug up an old poor-quality recording, remastered it, and posted it. I recorded many episodes for the original Many Minds series while driving to and from work, then found out the hard way that my audio editing prowess was not up to the task of remastering them after work. This is an episode I think is necessary and powerful, but suffered becau...

Trigger Topics: Coffee and Deprogramming Triggers (016) Recording on trigger deprogramming and managing triggers from 2011 when we were triggered by the smell of coffee. Even once you have managed to work on most of your triggers, new ones can come up, ones you didn't expect or new aspects of old triggers. Here's a recording of when we were triggered in May 2011 and some of the ideas we've used to...

Gaining Time: Developing a Mindfulness Practice (015) What's the opposite of losing time? Does time really go faster as you get older, or are you simply allowing it to rush away from you? Where anxiety is "What if…?" and depression is "If only…" it takes mindfulness to help pull us back into present time and reality. We can become more firmly anchored in the Here & Now, in our surroundings and...

System Trust Issues: Building Trust (014) System Trust Capstone, Part 2: Now that you've stopped the constant eroding your system trust, what can you do to proactively build it up? Part 2 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues.   Click for the first episode: Compromising Trust. New What are some proactive steps you can take to foster system trust? What changes do you and your headmates...

System Trust Issues: Compromising Trust (013) System Trust Capstone, Part 1: What is happening in your system that erodes trust and makes it so that it's impossible to even tread water? Part 1 of 2 capstone episodes on System Trust Issues.   Click for the second episode: Building Trust. New What are the common issues that systems experience that erode trust? What do you need to change so that...

Panic Reactions: 8 Important F-Words (012) Foundational concept for our System Trust Issues series. We've all heard of "fight or flight" reactions. In this episode we outline 8 different panic reactions and how they play out in multiplicity. Why are there predictable roles in a multiple system? We outline 8 "F-Word" panic reactions: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Follow, Fortify, Fabricate and Facil...

As Inside, So Outside (and vice versa) (010) Foundational concept for our System Trust Issues series. The permeable membrane, internal organization, integrity, the cause & effect of being a team player, externalization, acting out, echoes and co-owning your shared life. After about 25 years of knowing I am multiple, hanging out with multiples, working with my system, and so on, I came up with...

This is an internal persecutor's mini manifesto on behalf of all your headmates, especially those you haven't met, and your potentially intimidating internal prosecutors. Buck of Crisses gives a prosecutor's perspective on internal politics, self-discovery, and a way to help you adjust to your new reality in dealing with DID and when you are experiencing excessive internal chaos. Your headmates ar...

Hiring Health Consultants: Hiring, Firing & Self-Advocacy (008) You are your own best case manager, and here's how to do it. In today's healthcare climate, it's more important than ever to be in charge of your own care. You live with your body, mind and spirit 24/7/365, and even if the signals your body gives you are muddied by dissociation or medication, no one else lives with you or can tap...

How to Re-Associate with Your Body (007) Do you include your body as an ally for your system? It's actually quite common for people — with or without DID — to "disown" their body and dissociate from it. We may have issues with pain, sex, weight, congenital issues, disability, race, capabilities… (anything associated with our body at all) that cause us to disavow our connection to our body. It's ti...

Can't We All Get Along? (006) Who needs the United Front Boot Camp? The first step is figuring out where you are and where you'd like to go. In this episode, we consider how chaos and anarchy don't work for any group entity, internal or external, and how to take a stand and decide you are not going to participate in chaos any longer and invite others to join you. Also includes an effective way to...

Introduction to United Front (005) What is United Front and the United Front Boot Camp? Why did we make it? In 2011 we started creating the United Front Boot Camp, a preliminary blog to share the ideas for our self-help book in The Crissing Link Series : United Front: Positive, proactive and collaborative self-help for people with multiple personalities. . We knew we needed to get some input and o...

Trigger Topics: Conformity (004)   Realizing something is a trigger that we hadn't thought of before, we explore it live on-mic as an example of examining a trigger. Explore a newly discovered "trigger" with the Crisses. What is it about conformity that disturbs our system? Where might it come from, and how is the trigger applied to our current life in the business world? How is the trigger s...

A Multiple's View of the DSM-V Criteria (003)   How do the DSM-V criteria (the standards by which diagnoses are given) fit? When a person is newly-diagnosed, the criteria they're diagnosed under can be a mystery. The Crisses tackles what the DSM-V criteria (the standards by which diagnoses are given) mean from a layperson's point of view, with examples of how each criteria may be applied. Tri...