It's About DAMN Time

Everybody keeps telling us to rest, heal, set boundaries and take care of ourselves. Cool. But the rent is still due. In this episode, I sit down with Medina “Nia” Henry to talk about what healing actually looks like when life won’t slow down long enough for you to do it. We get into the difference between physical rest and mental rest, why knowing better doesn’t always mean you have the capacity...

At some point, pushing through stops being resilience. Lately, I haven't been taking care of myself. Work stress. Money stress. Bad sleep. Not exercising. Creativity feeling stuck. And after three panic attacks in a few weeks, I had to stop telling myself I was fine. But this episode became about something bigger. Why are we so willing to endure things we already know aren't working? Jobs. Relatio...

What if healing isn't about becoming a whole new person? What if part of healing is going back for the version of yourself that stopped talking? My friend Tamara Cox joins me for a conversation that started with a simple phrase: Heal Out Loud. Tamara stepped away from social media for almost nine months. She needed the break. But when she came back, she realized she wasn't just returning to social...

We say we want peace. Then peace finally shows up...and something about it feels weird. So we start looking for something to fix. Something to worry about. Something to react to. Sometimes we even create the very chaos we said we were tired of. This week, my friend and DAMN University alum Leigh LaRie is back, and she is NOT the same woman who joined me for Surviving Survival Mode . Leigh has spen...

What if the thing you're craving isn't actually sex? Maybe you want to be held. Maybe you want a real conversation. Maybe you want to feel seen, understood, safe, or connected to somebody again. This week, I'm joined by spiritual intimacy coach and sensual alchemist Inez Powell for a conversation about what intimacy really looks like beyond the bedroom. We talk about why so many of us confuse sex...

I didn't plan this episode. No outline. No real direction. I just needed to talk. After dealing with some unexpected grief, old guilt, and my own fear of how short life really is, I found myself asking a question I wasn't prepared to answer: What actually makes me happy? And the fucked up part? I didn't know. I've spent years showing up for other people. My daughter. My family. My friends. My job....

Ever looked at a friendship ending and realized maybe it wasn’t just about “growing apart”? This week, I’m joined by content creator Efa Akutekha for one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about friendship breakups, emotional accountability, and the stories we tell ourselves when relationships fall apart. We talk about the pain of losing people who once felt like family, constantly being th...

Sometimes burnout doesn't look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like saying, "I'll deal with it later." That's exactly what I did. For over a month I ignored a cough. I convinced myself I didn't have time to go to the doctor because there were bills to pay, work to do, and a daughter to prepare for college. Then one nurse practitioner asked me a simple question. When she found out I already...

This week, I’m back with friend of the show, Dee 'Lil D' Porter, and we had to talk about a phrase that sounds good…until you really sit with it. “You attract who you are.” Do you though? Or are you just letting people stay who never should’ve had access in the first place? We get real about self-esteem, patterns, and the truth about why you keep ending up in the same situations with different peo...

Some weeks, showing up feels impossible. Not because you've quit. Not because you don't care. You're just... tired. In this unplanned and completely unscripted solo episode, I talk through something I've been wrestling with myself. What do you do when you're mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted, but your dreams are still waiting on you? This isn't an episode where I pretend to have all...

Ever been in the middle of sex…and realize you’re not even there? Yeah. We’re talking about that. This episode gets real about what it means to be “good” at sex but still feel disconnected from your own pleasure. If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, performing, or focusing more on your partner than yourself…you’re not alone. I’m joined by somatic sexologist Janelle Toussaint, and I put myse...

Have you ever been so stressed that your body made the decision for you? That's where I've been. After weeks of traveling, family responsibilities, unexpected car problems, and trying to make sure my daughter was ready for her next chapter at Xavier University, I hit a wall. My shoulders were tight. My brain was foggy. I couldn't relax. I didn't even realize how run down I was until my body finall...

Getting back on track sounds easy…until it’s actually time to do it. This week, Jarratt DAMN is joined by returning guest and functional nutritional therapy practitioner Medina “Nia” Henry for a real conversation about starting over on your wellness journey, rebuilding consistency, and why “life be life-in” might be the excuse keeping us stuck. From stress eating and gym anxiety to meal prep, burn...

May kicked my natural Black ass. After a month away from the podcast, I'm finally back behind the microphone. Not because everything is fixed. Not because life magically got easier. Simply because the storm let up enough for me to start moving forward again. In this solo episode, I'm sharing what happened during one of the toughest months I've had in a while. Between injuries, financial stress, fa...

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record. It’s late. I’m tired. Life is life right now. Then I got a message from my cousin about his daughter graduating… and it got me thinking. What do we actually say to this next generation? Not the usual advice. Not the clichés. Not the “follow your dreams” speech. Because if we’re being honest… we’ve never seen a world like this before. In this episode, I...

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do… is nothing. This wasn’t planned. No outline. No script. Just me being honest about something I don’t always get right… rest. I went into this week thinking I needed to travel, be outside, create content, stay consistent, and “make the most” of my time off. My body said nah. So I listened. In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like t...

This week started with TikTok ads about male kegels, beet root, and supplements promising better performance. I thought I was about to record a “grown” episode. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized… this isn’t about sex. It’s about the fact that I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to let go. I’ve been “on” for so long, my body forgot how to turn off. And it’s showing up everywhe...

What happens when the job looks good on paper… but feels wrong in your body? This week, I’m sitting down with Arylle Young to unpack a post that stopped me mid-scroll: “I quit the job everybody wanted.” At first, it sounded bold. Brave. Maybe even reckless. But this conversation turned into something deeper. We talked about: The quiet tension of staying somewhere that drains you The lie we tell ou...

I grew up in church. God was always the right answer. Mess up? God. Feel guilty? God. Need forgiveness? Quote a verse and reset. But depression changed everything. When my mental health started slipping, my faith didn’t disappear. My trust did. I didn’t feel guided. I didn’t feel covered. I didn’t feel held. And when I was struggling the most, I kept hearing the same thing: “You’re not praying har...

This week I’m joined by content creator, podcaster, and entrepreneur friend Kat P . We talked about what it really means to be “unfiltered” without being emotionally reckless. How overthinking shows up even when you look fearless online. Why content creation can turn into therapy before you ever step foot in therapy. And how being honest can free you… or burn the whole bridge down. It’s funny. It’...

We’ve all had that moment. The one where something felt off… but we stayed anyway. In this conversation with Jhamyne “Jhazzy” Joyner, we unpack the difference between lust, love, and longing and the ways we ignore our own intuition in the moment. From intense chemistry and love bombing to slow burns and emotional awareness, this episode is about learning how to recognize what your body already kno...

Growth sounds beautiful until it starts changing your circle. In this episode, I talk about the hard realization that everybody can’t go where you’re headed. Not because they’re bad people. Not because you hate them. But because you’re not the same person anymore. Inspired by a real conversation with my sister, I break down what it looks like when you’ve evolved… and the people around you haven’t....

This one sat in my notes for six months. I didn’t record it because I didn’t have the courage. Not because I didn’t have the words. This episode started with a logo. A conversation. A misunderstanding. And a video that may or may not have been about me. But that wasn’t the point. The point was the sting. The point was realizing that maybe I wasn’t being attacked. Maybe I was being exposed. Because...

What does it look like when you’re talented, proven, and STILL out here dodging opportunities? My friend Jada Durden pulled up for a real conversation about playing small. We talk about betting on yourself, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and why some of us will literally run away from paid work even when we’ve already earned the right to be in the room. Jada breaks down her whole journey. State job t...

There comes a point where always being the hero starts costing you your life. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to always show up for everyone else — and what it’s taken from me over the years. For three years straight, I set goals. For three years straight, I missed most of them. It wasn’t laziness. It wasn’t lack of ambition. It was misdirected energy. I realized I was investing...