It's About DAMN Time

Ever been in the middle of sex…and realize you’re not even there? Yeah. We’re talking about that. This episode gets real about what it means to be “good” at sex but still feel disconnected from your own pleasure. If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, performing, or focusing more on your partner than yourself…you’re not alone. I’m joined by somatic sexologist Janelle Toussaint, and I put myse...

Have you ever been so stressed that your body made the decision for you? That's where I've been. After weeks of traveling, family responsibilities, unexpected car problems, and trying to make sure my daughter was ready for her next chapter at Xavier University, I hit a wall. My shoulders were tight. My brain was foggy. I couldn't relax. I didn't even realize how run down I was until my body finall...

Getting back on track sounds easy…until it’s actually time to do it. This week, Jarratt DAMN is joined by returning guest and functional nutritional therapy practitioner Medina “Nia” Henry for a real conversation about starting over on your wellness journey, rebuilding consistency, and why “life be life-in” might be the excuse keeping us stuck. From stress eating and gym anxiety to meal prep, burn...

May kicked my natural Black ass. After a month away from the podcast, I'm finally back behind the microphone. Not because everything is fixed. Not because life magically got easier. Simply because the storm let up enough for me to start moving forward again. In this solo episode, I'm sharing what happened during one of the toughest months I've had in a while. Between injuries, financial stress, fa...

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record. It’s late. I’m tired. Life is life right now. Then I got a message from my cousin about his daughter graduating… and it got me thinking. What do we actually say to this next generation? Not the usual advice. Not the clichés. Not the “follow your dreams” speech. Because if we’re being honest… we’ve never seen a world like this before. In this episode, I...

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do… is nothing. This wasn’t planned. No outline. No script. Just me being honest about something I don’t always get right… rest. I went into this week thinking I needed to travel, be outside, create content, stay consistent, and “make the most” of my time off. My body said nah. So I listened. In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like t...

This week started with TikTok ads about male kegels, beet root, and supplements promising better performance. I thought I was about to record a “grown” episode. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized… this isn’t about sex. It’s about the fact that I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to let go. I’ve been “on” for so long, my body forgot how to turn off. And it’s showing up everywhe...

What happens when the job looks good on paper… but feels wrong in your body? This week, I’m sitting down with Arylle Young to unpack a post that stopped me mid-scroll: “I quit the job everybody wanted.” At first, it sounded bold. Brave. Maybe even reckless. But this conversation turned into something deeper. We talked about: The quiet tension of staying somewhere that drains you The lie we tell ou...

I grew up in church. God was always the right answer. Mess up? God. Feel guilty? God. Need forgiveness? Quote a verse and reset. But depression changed everything. When my mental health started slipping, my faith didn’t disappear. My trust did. I didn’t feel guided. I didn’t feel covered. I didn’t feel held. And when I was struggling the most, I kept hearing the same thing: “You’re not praying har...

This week I’m joined by content creator, podcaster, and entrepreneur friend Kat P . We talked about what it really means to be “unfiltered” without being emotionally reckless. How overthinking shows up even when you look fearless online. Why content creation can turn into therapy before you ever step foot in therapy. And how being honest can free you… or burn the whole bridge down. It’s funny. It’...

We’ve all had that moment. The one where something felt off… but we stayed anyway. In this conversation with Jhamyne “Jhazzy” Joyner, we unpack the difference between lust, love, and longing and the ways we ignore our own intuition in the moment. From intense chemistry and love bombing to slow burns and emotional awareness, this episode is about learning how to recognize what your body already kno...

Growth sounds beautiful until it starts changing your circle. In this episode, I talk about the hard realization that everybody can’t go where you’re headed. Not because they’re bad people. Not because you hate them. But because you’re not the same person anymore. Inspired by a real conversation with my sister, I break down what it looks like when you’ve evolved… and the people around you haven’t....

This one sat in my notes for six months. I didn’t record it because I didn’t have the courage. Not because I didn’t have the words. This episode started with a logo. A conversation. A misunderstanding. And a video that may or may not have been about me. But that wasn’t the point. The point was the sting. The point was realizing that maybe I wasn’t being attacked. Maybe I was being exposed. Because...

What does it look like when you’re talented, proven, and STILL out here dodging opportunities? My friend Jada Durden pulled up for a real conversation about playing small. We talk about betting on yourself, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and why some of us will literally run away from paid work even when we’ve already earned the right to be in the room. Jada breaks down her whole journey. State job t...

There comes a point where always being the hero starts costing you your life. In this episode, I talk about what it really means to always show up for everyone else — and what it’s taken from me over the years. For three years straight, I set goals. For three years straight, I missed most of them. It wasn’t laziness. It wasn’t lack of ambition. It was misdirected energy. I realized I was investing...

Questioning Everything Was Just the Start This wasn’t a planned episode. This was me hitting record because I couldn’t keep carrying everything in my head. Lately, I’ve been tired. Not just physically. Mentally. Spiritually. Creatively. And it had me asking some uncomfortable questions. About the podcast. About my direction. About whether I’m burned out or just done. Somewhere in all of that, one...

Everybody talks about loyalty. Nobody talks about growth. In this solo episode, I freestyle my way through a realization I’ve been avoiding for a while. The people you’re closest to might not be the people helping you move forward. And that doesn’t make them bad people. It just means your life has shifted. I break down why trying to get everything from one group will burn you out, how over-pouring...

You ever think you’re burned out… but realize you’re just exhausted from being available to everybody but yourself? Yeah. That part. In this episode, I’m coming back from a short hiatus and telling the truth about why rest didn’t actually feel like rest. It wasn’t burnout. It was overextension. Too many conversations. Too much access. Too much proving love by showing up at the expense of my own go...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Malinda’s Pick Episode: Stress Less, Weigh Less: The Connection Between Stress and Weight (Featuring Medina Henry) Originally aired: 11/7/2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Malinda , who picked this episode because it finally connected the dots between stress, survival mode, and weight in a way that made sense without shame. In this conversation, I’m joined by Medina...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Jamie’s Pick Episode: Choosing Yourself: How to Set Boundaries With Difficult Family Members (Featuring Stephanie Perkins) Originally aired: June 6, 2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Jamie , who picked this episode because it tackles one of the hardest truths: sometimes the people you need boundaries with the most are family. Even when the love is real. Even when the...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Deanie’s Pick Episode: No Matter What They Say: Embrace the Power of Not Giving a F ck (Featuring Paula Sima) Originally aired: [8/27/2024] This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Deanie in Atlanta , who fell in love with this episode because of Paula’s energy, her honesty, and her don’t-hold-back way of reminding you to be unapologetically yourself. Deanie said it best: people...

Episode: The Weight of Being Everyone’s Person: Being Strong Isn’t Enough for Your Mental Health Originally aired: [5/15/25] This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Lara and Cely , (two for the price of one) who chose this episode because it’s one of the realest moments on the show. This is the one where I finally said out loud what a lot of us feel but don’t admit: being “everyone’s person” will brea...

Episode: Show Them Who You Are: Reflecting on 2023 & Exploring New Possibilities Originally aired: December 19, 2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Jawanda . She chose this episode because it captures a real turning point: telling the truth about where you are, then choosing to show up as your full self. You’ll hear her reason first and then the full replay. 🗣 Episode highlights Honest re...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Storm’s Pick Episode: You Can’t Take Everyone With You Originally aired: October 11, 2022 This week, we’re kicking off the Fan Favorite Series — 10 episodes handpicked by the DAMN Fam that left a real mark. First up is Storm’s pick , “You Can’t Take Everyone With You.” She shares why this one hit her the hardest and honestly, I get it. Sometimes growth means leaving certain...

I wasn’t supposed to record this episode. I didn’t have notes. No outline. Just a moment. A moment where I found out It’s About DAMN Time won Best Wellness Podcast at the Black Podcast Awards and I almost broke down because I almost quit this whole thing. This episode is me, raw and unfiltered, recording in real time as the emotions hit. I talk about doubt, faith, and how showing up...even when no...