Intelligent Intoxication

An EMOTIONAL TRIGGER is any person, words, actions, situations, or environments that make us emotionally uncomfortable. We’ll likely experience intense, excessive physical sensations.  When we feel BLAMED, it feels as if someone else is saying “It’s all your fault” because: you disappointed them hurt their feelings or caused them pain altered their circumstances negatively I invite you to consider...

An EMOTIONAL TRIGGER is any person, words, actions, situations, or environments that make us emotionally uncomfortable. We’ll likely experience intense, excessive physical sensations.  When we feel JUDGED, it may be because we’re telling ourselves that someone else is deciding whether or not we’re: good or bad right or wrong worthy or unworthy adequate or inadequate and we worry that we’re going t...

An EMOTIONAL TRIGGER is any person, words, actions, situations, or environments that make us emotionally uncomfortable. We’ll likely experience intense, excessive physical sensations.  When we feel SCOLDED, it may be because we’re being: criticized embarrassed shamed guilted persecuted condescended to humiliated I invite you to consider these questions: When did you feel SCOLDED as a child? Were y...

An EMOTIONAL TRIGGER is any person, words, actions, situations, or environments that make us emotionally uncomfortable. We’ll likely experience intense, excessive physical sensations.  When we feel UNHEARD, it may be because we don’t feel as if: our voice matters we’re worthy of being listened to I invite you to consider these questions: When have you felt UNHEARD? When have you felt as if your vo...

An EMOTIONAL TRIGGER is any person, words, actions, situations, or environments that make us emotionally uncomfortable. We’ll likely experience intense, excessive physical sensations.  When we feel powerless, it may be because circumstances feel: unpredictable uncontrollable uncertain I invite you to consider these questions: What do you have the power to think, feel, and do? What do you have cont...

An EMOTIONAL TRIGGER is any person, words, actions, situations, or environments that make us emotionally uncomfortable. We’ll likely experience intense, excessive physical sensations.  When we feel excluded, it may be because we haven’t been invited to an event or included in plans or with a group of people.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling EXCLUDED? When you f...

EXPECTATIONS and STANDARDS are not the same thing.  Expectations are our ideas about how we want certain situations to unfold and what we think that others should say, do, or be.  Standards speak to a level of quality we set for ourselves. Standards are directly related to our core values.  I invite you to consider these questions: Is this expectation reasonable? Am I willing to honor someone else...

There are “toxic” habits that tend to be repellent to others in relationships: Negativity Victim Mentality Over-Sensitivity Over-reactivity Neediness/Clinginess (Inspired by Kathy Caprino’s “Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away” post.) If you are in a NEEDY/CLINGY habit, you may be: sucking energy from others outsourcing your emotions to others I invite you to consider these questions about havin...

There are “toxic” habits that tend to be repellent to others in relationships: Negativity Victim Mentality Over-Sensitivity Over-reactivity Neediness/Clinginess (Inspired by Kathy Caprino’s “Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away” post.) If you are in an OVER-REACTING habit, you may be: reacting to your emotions rather than feeling them saying and doing things that damage connections with others I...

There are “toxic” habits that tend to be repellent to others in relationships: Negativity Victim Mentality Over-Sensitivity Over-reactivity Neediness/Clinginess (Inspired by Kathy Caprino’s “Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away” post.) If you are in an OVERLY-SENSITIVE habit, you may be: making the words or actions of others mean something about them, about how they feel about you, or about your...

There are “toxic” habits that tend to be repellent to others in relationships: Negativity Victim Mentality Over-Sensitivity Over-reactivity Neediness/Clinginess (Inspired by Kathy Caprino’s “Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away” post.) If you are in a VICTIM MENTALITY habit, you may be: blaming a “persecutor” or “villain” for how you feel searching for a “rescuer” to solve your problem or “save”...

There are “toxic” habits that tend to be repellent to others in relationships: Negativity Victim Mentality Over-Sensitivity Over-reactivity Neediness/Clinginess (Inspired by Kathy Caprino’s “Toxic Behaviors That Push People Away” post.) If you are in a NEGATIVITY habit, you may be: showing up like a “Debbie Downer” refusing to the see the positive complaining and criticizing I invite you to consid...

Some of us are motivated by the potential of LOSS, whereas others of us are motivated by the potential of GAIN.    If you’re motivated by AVOIDING LOSS, you may be a terrific candidate for an app like Stikk. You can read more about it below: All About Stikk “.. Stikk works by helping people eliminate this gap (between having a goal and achieving it) by using, what we call, a Commitment Contract. A...

I have a habit of resisting “arbitrary” deadlines. An “arbitrary” deadline is typically a task, commitment, or goal with a “pretend” due date.  If you, too, struggle at times with “arbitrary” deadlines or to achieve your goals, check out the Stikk app here: All About Stikk   “.. Stikk works by helping people eliminate this gap (between having a goal and achieving it) by using, what we call, a Comm...

Having a “skin care” habit is much like engaging in personal development work: You start using new products. Initially, your skin looks the same.  (You increase your self-awareness and start applying what you’re learning at first things don’t seem to change.) Eventually, your skin “reacts” or “responds” to the lotions or products. (You start to make some change and get “triggered” and may assume t...

There is a small chain of fun and comfortable bookstores in Seattle called Third Place Books in which community members are invited to “browse, linger, lounge, relax, read, eat, laugh, play, talk, listen, and just watch the world go by”. “Sociologist Ray Oldenberg suggests that each of us needs three places: first is the home; second is the workplace or school; and beyond lies the place where peop...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest...

When we push ourselves to get results that feel “too much” or we’re forcing outcomes “too fast” or “too soon”, we may wind up with a dysregulated nervous system.    I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice pushing or forcing because you’re “right” and ending up dysregulated and stressed? How does your body tell you that you’re nearing or have surpassed your capacity? How commit...

This week, I made the decision to not renew my I.C.F. coaching certification and I really like my reasons for not doing so.  I invite you to consider these questions: When have you looked outside yourself for external approval or permission? What were you believing about yourself when you did so? Who do you allow to “qualify” your gifts and talents? If you didn’t need validation or approval going...