Intelligent Intoxication

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. Devotion is a mix of love, loyalty and enthusiasm. You must LOVE the experience AS you live it, be loyal and consistent to doing it in a way that aligns to your truest self, and deeply excited and lit up by the experience.  Devotion is also having the sustainable energy for the things that light...

You don’t need to be disciplined or determined in order to get your shit done, but you must be DEVOTED. My brilliant podcast producer, Rubi, sent me this note: “... I’d LOVE to hear a mini series on your podcast about how you stay consistent and determined to the things you set your mind to - for example, the daily episodes.” Thank you, Rubi, for the terrific series suggestion! As I pondered, I re...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach When we are in the habit of “seeking more” we are typically doing so from a place of inferiority, inadequacy, or insufficiency. When we commit to creating something different, we are determined to make space for what we desire to create.  I invi...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach When we don’t do what we tell ourselves that we “should” do, we topple into shame. When we shame ourselves, we call ourselves names based on “black and white” labels like “good” or “bad”. Shoulds will also dilute your integrity.  I invite you to...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach An OBLIGATION is anything that you say YES to that was a NO or a NOT YET.  Obligations dilute your joy by: cluttering your life deplete your limited time and energy fill the space that must stay open for YESSES I invite you to consider these que...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach “Busy” work dilutes your joy by: wasting your time and energy with unimportant tasks and activities failing to challenge you not requiring you to use your gifts and talents cluttering up your schedule I invite you to consider these questions: Wh...

These are the 6 habits that will dilute your joy: “busy” work obligations shoulds seeking more balancing your time and energy a one-size-fits-all approach I invite you to consider these questions: How willing are you to protect your joyful mindset? How willing are you to eliminate or reduce habits that dilute your joy? If you have something you’d really love to hear on the podcast, I would be gidd...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  Both joy and happiness matter deeply.  I invite you to consider these questions: What is deeply joyful in your life? When do you notice fe...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re hustling to “feel” happy, it’s much like: a filmmaker over-relying on special effects at the expense of a solid story and wonder...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re hustling to “feel” happy, you’re likely cluttering your life, schedule, body, and mind.  When you’re experiencing joy, you’re li...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re hustling to “feel” happy, you’re likely: stuck in comparison-itis to other or competition with others hustling for more  seeking...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  If you’re striving to “feel” happy, you are likely doing so from a place of: insufficiency inadequacy restlessness perfectionism guilt Whe...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is temporarily created by the meanings you create about your circumstances. Joy is a consistent mindset which is independent of your circumstances.  What we think or believe will influence whether or not to strive to feel happy or are adopting a joyful mindset. I invite you to consider...

There’s a huge difference between “feeling” happy and “being” joyful. Happiness is an inconsistent feeling which is dependent on your circumstances.  Joy, on the other hand, is a consistent mindset that you intentionally choose to practice. Joy is independent OF your circumstances.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling happy? When don’t you? When do you notice being...

When we love the process of doing something, we are satisfied AS we create a result. When we only love the result of “having done” something, we are trying to live vicariously through the results of our actions.  For something to be sustainable, we must love the process AND the result.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice love the results but not the process? When do you n...

When we return things we’ve purchased, we want our money back because we don’t  want to invest it in the items we’ve purchased.  We must also ask for our “spirit” to be returned when we’ve invested our limited time and energy into a relationship, experience, or experience, and it’s time for it to be “over” or “closed” because: the relationship or job must end you no longer feel “animated” regardin...

“Empty nest syndrome refers to the distress and other complicated emotions that parents often experience when their children leave home… parents may feel lonely, sad, and have some degree of grief when their children leave the nest, whether it’s to live on their own, start a college career, or pursue their own relationships. Women normally suffer more than men do, and feelings of sadness may be mo...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “The more difficult it is for us to articulate our experiences of loss, longing, and feeling lost to the people around us, the more disconnected and alone we feel. Talking about grief is difficult in a world that wants us to ‘get over it’... “ Atlas of the Heart I invite you to consider these questions: When have you felt like you...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “In my research, three foundational elements of grief emerged from the data: loss, longing, and feeling lost.” “Grief requires us to reorient every part of our physical, emotional, and social worlds… when we imagine the need to do this, most of us picture the painful struggle to adjust to a tangible change… “ Atlas of the Heart I...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “In my research, three foundational elements of grief emerged from the data: loss, longing, and feeling lost.” “Longing is not conscious wanting; it’s an involuntary yearning for wholeness, for understanding, for meaning, for the opportunity to regain or even simply touch what we’ve lost… longing is a vital and important part of g...

According to best-selling author and shame researcher, Brene Brown: “In my research, three foundational elements of grief emerged from the data: loss, longing, and feeling lost.” “While death and separation are tangible losses associated with grief… (some losses) are more difficult to identify or describe… the loss of normality, the loss of what could be, and the loss of what we thought we knew or...

"Each person's grief is as unique as their fingerprint. But what everyone has in common is that no matter how they grieve, they share a need for their grief to be witnessed. That doesn't mean needing someone to try to lessen it or reframe it for them. The need is for someone to be fully present to the magnitude of their loss without trying to point out the silver lining." David Kessler/Grief Exper...

It’s important to know who you are outside of the groups you belong to.  I invite you to consider these questions: Which of your groups define you? Which don’t? When do you feel inspired by a group identity? When don’t you?   If you have something you’d really love to hear on the podcast, I would be giddy and grateful to hear all about it: terribradwaylifecoaching@gmail.com   I invite you to click...

In order to tap into and rely on your intuition consistently, you must be willing to identify or manage your Inner Critic chatter in your mind. Your intuition is in your body whereas your fearful Inner Critic chatter is in your mind.  I invite you to consider these questions: How familiar are you with the flavor of Inner Critic you’re influenced by? How willing are you to identify and manage your...

When we feel deprived, we believe that we “lack” something or aren’t getting “enough” of something we want or need.  I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice feeling deprived of certainty, variety, feeling special, love, connection, making progress, or contributing to others? When do you notice feeling deprived because you’re believing that you’re not enough?   If you have some...