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In today’s episode, I’m talking about being okay even if others don’t change. There's a common misconception that having a regulated nervous system means we're calm all the time. But that’s not how it works. Regulation is about being able to respond appropriately to what's happening around us and return to a place of rest when the moment has passed. I've spent a lot of time reflecting on the exper...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about why asking for help is comfortable + why I’m practicing what I preach. A couple of weeks ago, I found myself in a situation where I needed to take my own advice, even though doing so felt very uncomfortable. I love this podcast and the opportunity it gives me to use my voice, share my experiences, and help others feel seen and heard. I'm also passionate about...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how to get unstuck from dread and negativity. The first step is acknowledging the suck. For a long time, I was really good at finding the silver lining, telling myself things could be worse, or jumping straight into gratitude. But dismissing the hard stuff didn't make those feelings disappear. Now? I allow myself to acknowledge what's difficult + name what I'm...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how to handle your kid’s big emotions. What do we say when they're angry, crying, covering their ears, or emoting loudly? Everything in us wants to tell them to just stop, and it can be so HARD. While every kid and situation is different, there's one approach I keep coming back to: validate, stay present, and help them regulate. Validation doesn't mean I alway...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about feeling lonely in your marriage + how to go from roommate mode to reconnection. I’d be lying if I told you Tom and I have marriage completely figured out now. We still disagree, still trigger each other, and still fight (sometimes). The difference today? We’re coming to those moments with awareness, practices, and experience we didn't have before. Good, clear...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about why healing isn’t linear and other things I’d wish I’d known. Doing the work doesn't mean you'll never bump into an old wound again - you definitely will. But maybe it doesn't hurt quite as long, or you recognize what's happening sooner. You have new information, more capacity, and different tools to move through it. Healing can also be messy and super slow. A...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what to do when you don’t know what you feel. I’ve definitely been there. For a long time, I was comfortably numb and disconnected from what was happening inside my body. It wasn't until I experienced grief I could no longer hold that I really began learning how to feel again. Our bodies often speak before our minds do. But when we've spent years putting our h...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how we really toughen kids up. Honestly, my own thoughts around this have shifted dramatically in recent years as I've done my own inner work + learned more about brain development, psychology, and emotions. Whether a child is taught to stop crying because they'll get a reward OR because they're afraid of what will happen if they don't, the result looks surpri...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how we don’t know how to hold grief. Over the last three years, I've experienced loss and uncertainty in ways I never anticipated. After my dad died suddenly in 2023, I knew I couldn't simply shove the grief down as I had before. Shortly before his death, I heard something that has stayed with me ever since: we don't know how to hold mystery, and we don't know...

Tom is back for episode 150! In today’s episode, we’re talking kids, control, and changing minds. One thing that has drastically changed through our own inner work? How we respond to our kids’ emotions. We want them to know they can tell us when something we've said or done hurts them. We don't always get it right, but we want to listen, repair when needed, and give them room to feel, rather than...

In today’s episode, I’m diving into why you were taught not to cry, and why it might be time to unlearn that. For many of us, the message that crying isn't okay started early. Maybe you heard phrases like, "Dry it up," or "I'll give you something to cry about.” Maybe you grew up believing strength meant keeping your emotions hidden, or never letting your kids see you struggle. But hiding our emoti...

We talk a lot about curiosity and honest questions here on the podcast. But…sometimes, the best reminders come from seeing those tools work in everyday life. In today’s episode, I’m talking about what happens when we ask more than we state. Recently, I had a couple of conversations that reminded me just how much farther we can get when we ask more than we state (especially when frustration is invo...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about the danger in “you can’t hurt my feelings - I work with my family.” This is often a sign that we've learned to disconnect from our own pain. When we normalize harsh words and emotional wounds, we normalize unhealthy relationships. Over time, we convince ourselves that being hurt is just part of the job (or culture). Numbness doesn't mean we're okay, though - i...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about slowing down without feeling overwhelmed by racing thoughts and emotions. For years, I believed the safest thing to do was push difficult emotions down. But feelings don't disappear simply because we ignore them. They stay with us, often showing up in our relationships, reactions, and even our physical health. Learning to acknowledge those emotions (rather tha...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about what to do when someone says something stupid. One of the questions I hear most often when teaching about validation is, "But what if I don't agree with what they're saying”? It's an honest question, and one that gets to the heart of why validation can feel very challenging. Validation isn't about deciding who's right or wrong. It's about recognizing the human...

Many of us grew up repeating the phrase, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." While it may have been intended to build resilience, I've come to believe it's simply NOT true. In today’s episode, I’m talking about why that saying is crap. The words we hear, and the ones we tell ourselves, shape what we believe and how we experience the world. The encouraging news? Tho...

Self-awareness is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves, and also one of the hardest. In today’s episode, I’m talking about why self-awareness is important (and also sucks). As we begin doing inner work, we often become painfully aware of habits, reactions, and patterns we'd rather not see. It can feel uncomfortable, and yeah, even a little discouraging. But becoming aware of those parts...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about the unhelpful things we heard as kids, and what we can say instead. As parents and caregivers, it's natural to want to fix, stop, or minimize big emotions. But feelings aren't problems to solve - they’re signals asking to be acknowledged. Rather than shutting emotions down, we can create space for them by staying grounded, validating what our children are expe...

Every once in a while, it’s fun to switch things up. In today’s episode, the tables have turned because Tom is back as the host! We’re talking all things ranch, marriage, friendship, healing, and navigating challenges together. Looking back, I never could have predicted that I would get to do the work I’m doing (and truly feel called to do) today. Yet, I'm continually grateful for the opportunitie...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about perspectives and why we’ve all got them. Recently, I found myself reflecting on this idea during a conversation about change and conflict. It reminded me how easy it is to become frustrated when we only see situations through the lens of our own experiences. We know our daily challenges and our own pressures. But we rarely have a complete picture of what someo...

In today's episode, I'm talking about why all feelings are valid + the purpose emotions serve. I wanted to revisit this conversation because they are super important, and EVERY single one of them matters! When we learn to view emotions as signals instead of problems, we can begin working with them, rather than against them! When we pause, make space for our feelings, and listen to the information...

In today’s episode, I’m doing a book review of How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don’t Have To by Eli Harwood. One of the things I loved most about this book is the reminder that good movement truly starts with US. Honestly, it’s not about perfection - it’s about growing our capacity to hold our own emotions, so we’re not unintentionally passing them on. If you’ve ever found yourself wonderi...

Sometimes, the people who love us most say things with the very best intentions. Unfortunately, they can still land in a way that feels painful. In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when well-meaning is actually dismissive. Through experiences like losing my dad, navigating cancer, and living through devastating fires, I've become more aware of how quick we are to search for silver l...

Something that so many people quietly carry (but often struggle to name) is the difference between guilt and shame. While those two emotions are commonly used interchangeably, they are actually VERY different. Understanding that difference can completely shift the way we move through hard emotions, relationships, and healing! In today’s episode, I’m diving into guilt and shame, and how they’re dif...

In today’s episode, I’m talking about empathy and what it really means. It’s often talked about like it’s automatically a good thing. But honestly, empathy can be both a superpower and something that quietly wears us down when we aren’t intentional with it. As someone who has always felt deeply for other people, I’ve had to learn the difference between holding space for someone and trying to carry...