Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Send us Fan Mail Marriage advice is everywhere, but most of it avoids the hard truth: you can’t “fix” a relationship you refuse to grow inside of. After 27 years together, we’ve learned that the turning point isn’t a perfect partner or a perfect season, it’s a better you. We talk candidly about the early years that nearly broke us, including depression and anxiety, emotional pain, selfish choices,...

Send us Fan Mail Rage bait is not an accident, it’s a strategy. We’re living in a moment where anger gets rewarded, fear gets monetized, and the loudest reactions rise to the top of your feed. Ken and Tabatha Claytor dig into why so many of us feel emotionally “on” all the time and how that constant stimulation shapes our mindset, relationships, and even our spiritual sensitivity. If you’ve ever f...

Send us Fan Mail Prosperity can sound like a scam word until you separate what’s biblical from what’s flesh. We’re not interested in hype or debates. We want God’s heart, because blessing, increase, provision, stewardship, and generosity are all over the Bible, and we don’t want people throwing out truth just because they’ve seen it abused. We talk through godly prosperity versus ungodly prosperit...

Send us Fan Mail Sex gets awkward fast when nobody feels safe enough to tell the truth and that silence can slowly turn lovers into roommates. We’re Ken and Tabatha Claytor, married 27 years, and we’re putting language to what so many couples experience but rarely say out loud: good sex in marriage is built on good communication, emotional connection, and mutual care. We walk through how we learne...

Send us Fan Mail “Let him lead” can sound like a fight waiting to happen, especially if you’ve seen leadership used as control or heard submission preached like silence. We take a different route. From the jump, we talk about real marriage pain, the slow buildup of offense, and why we refuse to settle for a bad relationship. After 27 years together, we’ve learned that the marriage doesn’t change b...

Send us Fan Mail The conflict is not always about the conflict. Sometimes it is pride trying to stay in control, old wounds looking for a target, or a tone that makes people stop hearing your idea and start bracing for impact. If you keep “bumping heads” with your spouse, coworkers, family, or leaders, we are getting honest about the patterns that create repeated relational tension and the habits...

Send us Fan Mail Resentment doesn’t usually sound like yelling. It sounds like “I’m fine,” feels like distance on the couch, and shows up as keeping score in your head. Ken and Tabatha Claytor get real about how resentment slowly destroys a marriage, not through one huge betrayal, but through small disappointments that never get processed and eventually turn into emotional coldness.  We talk throu...

Send us Fan Mail Casual faith sounds harmless until it starts reshaping your conscience. We sit down and talk honestly about the fear of the Lord and why it is not panic, paranoia, or an angry-God mindset. For us, it’s reverence, awe, and a real awareness of God’s holiness that shows up most in private, when nobody is watching and no one is clapping for you. We get practical about what that revere...

Send us Fan Mail A marriage can be stable on paper and still feel strangely far apart at home. We’re talking about the slow drift: the subtle, gradual disconnect that happens when life gets loud, schedules take over, and the relationship starts running on autopilot. If you’ve ever thought, “Nothing is technically wrong, but something feels off,” this conversation is your wake-up call and your road...

Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous prisons don’t have bars, they have beliefs. Ken and Tabatha Claytor go straight at the core of spiritual warfare: the lies that shape how we see ourselves, how we see God, and what we think is possible. We talk about deliverance in a way that’s both biblical and practical, not just a moment in a corner somewhere, but the everyday freedom that happens when you re...

Send us Fan Mail Your words are doing more than describing your life. They’re shaping it. Ken and Tabatha Claytor dig into the Scripture “your sons and your daughters shall prophesy” and make a bold case that prophecy isn’t reserved for a select few with a title. It’s a Spirit-empowered way for everyday believers to speak God’s truth with faith, authority, and love, whether you’re navigating marri...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do when you still love your spouse, but you honestly do not like them right now? We go straight into the real-life stuff couples actually fight about: lights left on, shoes where they “shouldn’t” be, house rules, and that moment when a simple reminder suddenly sounds like disrespect. We laugh, but we also get serious about how tiny irritations can grow into contempt wh...

Send us Fan Mail What if the next breakthrough in your marriage is something simple you can do this week at home, not a huge speech or a dramatic reset? We sit down for a Valentine’s week conversation that gets practical fast, sharing five real-world ways a wife can care for her husband in a way that changes the atmosphere of the whole house. We start with honor, because respect is not fluff, it i...

Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest breakthrough in your marriage is waiting on the other side of real leadership at home? Ken and Tabatha Claytor sit down for a direct, honest conversation aimed at husbands, future husbands, and anyone who wants a healthier Christian marriage. We talk to the man who’s doing his best and also to the man who’s stuck, tired, isolated, or never had a model for what...

Send us Fan Mail Most couples don’t break because they stop loving each other. They break because they stop feeling connected, and one of the fastest places that disconnection shows up is sexual intimacy. We go straight at the uncomfortable question many married Christians whisper but rarely say out loud: why does sex in marriage so often drift into frustration, avoidance, pressure, or a roommate...

Send us Fan Mail What if the tension in your home isn’t proof you married the wrong person, but proof you’re fighting the wrong enemy? We get real about spiritual warfare in marriage, and we start with a mindset shift that can change everything: it’s not husband versus wife, it’s two people standing together against division, bitterness, and deception. We open up about our own early years, includi...

Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look fine on the outside while quietly getting torn down from the inside by one habit: a critical inner dialogue. We get honest about what happens when you replay a moment, assume the worst, and start building a case against the person you love. If you’ve ever thought “What did they mean by that?” and felt the rabbit hole open up, this conversation gives you a bette...

Send us Fan Mail Keeping a mental list of your spouse’s mistakes feels like self-protection, but it quietly turns your home into a courtroom. When every argument pulls out old receipts, intimacy dies, progress feels impossible, and “I forgive you” starts sounding like a trap. We get honest about what list keeping really is: mentally recording mistakes, replaying past failures, storing hurt for fut...

Send us Fan Mail A bad marriage can feel like you’re trapped in the same house with a stranger, stuck between “I don’t want to leave” and “I can’t do this anymore.” We go straight at that tension with humility and authority, because we’ve lived it. After 26 years of marriage and a rough start that nearly ended in divorce, we’ve learned that a struggling marriage is often less about “the wrong pers...

Send us Fan Mail Hurt has a way of sneaking into every relationship, and if we don’t deal with it, it doesn’t just fade. It hardens. Ken and Tabitha Claytor get honest about how emotional wounds, unmet expectations, betrayal, and disappointment can quietly turn into bitterness that reshapes your personality, drains your joy, and poisons your marriage, friendships, and faith. We talk through what h...

Send us Fan Mail Some battles don’t start in your schedule, your bank account, or your relationships. They start as a thought you never challenge, a fear you keep feeding, or an offense you refuse to release. We talk about spiritual warfare with a steady head and a strong spine: not blaming the devil for every problem, but also not pretending the enemy isn’t real or organized. We walk through what...

Send us Fan Mail We name the difference between healthy and unhealthy soul ties, then get honest about why certain relationships keep pulling us back even when they hurt. We walk through spiritual and practical steps to break ungodly connections and close with a renouncing prayer for healing and freedom.  • defining soul ties as emotional, mental, and will-level bonding  • healthy soul ties in mar...

Send us Fan Mail We talk about why God promotes trustworthy people over simply gifted people, using David’s life to show what a heart after God actually looks like under pressure. We unpack honor, repentance, private integrity, and worship as the habits that keep your heart clean when influence grows.  • David’s origin story as the overlooked shepherd anointed for leadership  • why time with God s...

Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look “fine” on paper and still feel dead in the day to day. If you’re living in the same house but the air feels cold, the talks are short, trust is thin, and intimacy feels complicated, we want to give you real hope and real tools. We tell the truth about our own early years, including the season when Ken privately planned a divorce, the confusion and immaturity th...

Send us Fan Mail We define hypocrisy as stage acting and name how it keeps us bound when our image matters more than our integrity. We connect the cost to marriage, family, and spiritual witness, then walk through clear steps and prayers that help us live honest and free.  • Defining hypocrisy as pretending outwardly without inward growth  • Freedom versus bondage through shame, guilt, insecurity,...