Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Send us Fan Mail Most couples don’t break because they stop loving each other. They break because they stop feeling connected, and one of the fastest places that disconnection shows up is sexual intimacy. We go straight at the uncomfortable question many married Christians whisper but rarely say out loud: why does sex in marriage so often drift into frustration, avoidance, pressure, or a roommate...

Send us Fan Mail What if the tension in your home isn’t proof you married the wrong person, but proof you’re fighting the wrong enemy? We get real about spiritual warfare in marriage, and we start with a mindset shift that can change everything: it’s not husband versus wife, it’s two people standing together against division, bitterness, and deception. We open up about our own early years, includi...

Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look fine on the outside while quietly getting torn down from the inside by one habit: a critical inner dialogue. We get honest about what happens when you replay a moment, assume the worst, and start building a case against the person you love. If you’ve ever thought “What did they mean by that?” and felt the rabbit hole open up, this conversation gives you a bette...

Send us Fan Mail Keeping a mental list of your spouse’s mistakes feels like self-protection, but it quietly turns your home into a courtroom. When every argument pulls out old receipts, intimacy dies, progress feels impossible, and “I forgive you” starts sounding like a trap. We get honest about what list keeping really is: mentally recording mistakes, replaying past failures, storing hurt for fut...

Send us Fan Mail A bad marriage can feel like you’re trapped in the same house with a stranger, stuck between “I don’t want to leave” and “I can’t do this anymore.” We go straight at that tension with humility and authority, because we’ve lived it. After 26 years of marriage and a rough start that nearly ended in divorce, we’ve learned that a struggling marriage is often less about “the wrong pers...

Send us Fan Mail Hurt has a way of sneaking into every relationship, and if we don’t deal with it, it doesn’t just fade. It hardens. Ken and Tabitha Claytor get honest about how emotional wounds, unmet expectations, betrayal, and disappointment can quietly turn into bitterness that reshapes your personality, drains your joy, and poisons your marriage, friendships, and faith. We talk through what h...

Send us Fan Mail Some battles don’t start in your schedule, your bank account, or your relationships. They start as a thought you never challenge, a fear you keep feeding, or an offense you refuse to release. We talk about spiritual warfare with a steady head and a strong spine: not blaming the devil for every problem, but also not pretending the enemy isn’t real or organized. We walk through what...

Send us Fan Mail We name the difference between healthy and unhealthy soul ties, then get honest about why certain relationships keep pulling us back even when they hurt. We walk through spiritual and practical steps to break ungodly connections and close with a renouncing prayer for healing and freedom.  • defining soul ties as emotional, mental, and will-level bonding  • healthy soul ties in mar...

Send us Fan Mail We talk about why God promotes trustworthy people over simply gifted people, using David’s life to show what a heart after God actually looks like under pressure. We unpack honor, repentance, private integrity, and worship as the habits that keep your heart clean when influence grows.  • David’s origin story as the overlooked shepherd anointed for leadership  • why time with God s...

Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look “fine” on paper and still feel dead in the day to day. If you’re living in the same house but the air feels cold, the talks are short, trust is thin, and intimacy feels complicated, we want to give you real hope and real tools. We tell the truth about our own early years, including the season when Ken privately planned a divorce, the confusion and immaturity th...

Send us Fan Mail We define hypocrisy as stage acting and name how it keeps us bound when our image matters more than our integrity. We connect the cost to marriage, family, and spiritual witness, then walk through clear steps and prayers that help us live honest and free.  • Defining hypocrisy as pretending outwardly without inward growth  • Freedom versus bondage through shame, guilt, insecurity,...

Send us Fan Mail We get real about how blame shifting turns a struggling marriage into a dead-end and why owning your part is the first move toward change. We connect Scripture, self-awareness, and practical habits so you can stop living as the victim in every story and start growing on purpose.  • why every struggling relationship has blame shifting somewhere  • what “own your part” looks like ev...

Send us Fan Mail A lot of men were never taught how to be a husband. You can be loyal, hardworking, and faithful, yet still leave your wife feeling alone in the same house. We get honest about the gap between providing and loving, and we talk about why isolation is one of the fastest ways a man loses his confidence, his clarity, and his ability to lead well. Ken and Tabitha Claytor unpack biblical...

Send us Fan Mail “Why am I still single?” can feel like a question with teeth, especially when everyone else’s highlight reel is scrolling past your face. We get honest about the pressure, the loneliness, and the quiet fear that something must be wrong with you, then we confront the biggest lie head-on: you are not unworthy, undesirable, or behind. We believe your relationship status does not dete...

Send us Fan Mail We challenge the quiet norm of “sucky sex” in marriage and lay out why God designs sex for intimacy, connection, and real enjoyment without shame. We share our own healing journey from trauma, body insecurity, and bad beliefs to a healthier sex life built on safety, communication, and mutual pleasure.\n\n• why many married couples settle for frustration and distance\n• God’s desig...

Send us Fan Mail The promotion you want might be carrying more than you think. We get honest about what “next level” really means, because promotion is not only a raise or a new title, it is pressure, visibility, responsibility, and accountability. If you’ve ever watched someone move up faster than you, felt stuck in your role, or wondered what leaders are actually looking for, this conversation i...

Send us Fan Mail People don’t wake up one morning and decide they don’t love their spouse. What we see far more often is something quieter and more dangerous: a hurt that never gets resolved, a story we keep replaying, and a wall that goes up brick by brick until the house feels cold. We’re naming that enemy directly, unresolved offense, and we’re telling the truth about what it does to marriage,...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Doing Life with Ken & Tabatha , we talk about how to deal with rejection, criticism, and being misunderstood — especially when you’re trying to follow God and build something meaningful. If you’ve ever wondered: • Why don’t they like me? • Why do people talk about you when you’re doing good? • How do you keep your confidence when people criticize you? This c...

Send us Fan Mail What if the line between “okay” and “too far” isn’t a line worth walking? We open up about our 24-year sober journey and the moment a mentor reframed the question from “Is it allowed?” to “Is it wise for a king?” From there, the conversation turns honest and practical—how alcohol blurred judgment, complicated leadership, and stole the very peace it promised. We dig into Scripture’...

Send us Fan Mail What if the real path to promotion looks nothing like hustle culture promises? We take on two charged words—submission and faithfulness—and show how they form a powerful, practical way of life that advances marriages, teams, and callings. This isn’t about losing your voice. It’s about choosing God’s order, serving with strength, and becoming the kind of person heaven can trust. We...

Send us Fan Mail Money pressure has a way of sneaking into a marriage and turning simple conversations into fights. We open up about our early years—over $100k in debt, sleepless nights, and two very different backgrounds—and share the seven habits that helped us replace anxiety with unity. This is a practical, faith-filled roadmap: one shared plan, a zero-based budget, the 10-10-80 priority rule,...

Send us Fan Mail Lukewarm faith feels easy—until it costs you power, joy, and purpose. We get honest about casual Christianity, why it’s so common, and how to move from a Sunday habit to a life that actually carries the presence of God. Ken shares his past as a “Christian atheist”—believing in God but living like He didn’t exist—and how that exposed the gap between form and power. Together, we wal...

Send us Fan Mail Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad i...

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Send us Fan Mail Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to scheduling a 20-second hug, we share the small, repeatable habits that build warmth, trust, and momentum across every season. We get real a...