Damaged and Spicy

I don't think most women are lazy, broken, bitter or dramatic. I think a lot of women were trained to survive chaos and then shamed for not knowing how to live in peace.... Most of these women don't even know how to recognize peace safely let alone live it.

These lessons about a dysfunctional family are hard as hell to feel and acknowledge.... but healing is the ultimate reward after living in an environment like this. Happiness is the end goal and silence doesn't help that at all.

A daughter's self image can be deeply shaped by a mother who controls, criticizes, competes, dismisses or emotionally manipulates the narrative to fit their perfect image that's taken them years, even decades, to create.

Society gets uncomfortable when a conversation calls out a mother's dysfunctional behavior.... But some daughters grew up learning fear rather than love. So what about them??? Do those daughters not matter? That's What Society is saying when they feel uncomfortable or tell you "but she's your mother". They're saying they don't give a fuck about you.

First born daughters are often trained to be responsible, aware, productive & emotionally useful before they are allowed to simply be children. That's why you can't relax without feeling like you invaluable. That's why you can't ask for help without feeling like a burden. Episode One will tackle all of this and then some!

Some families don't raise children how they should.. they assign roles and then punish the child who refuses to keep playing the same twisted & sick game. The child who has a sturdy ass backbone, a well rounded understanding of ethics and a damn good head on their shoulders. Welcome to Damaged & Spicy, the podcast where we do not protect dysfunction just because it shares our last name.