Character Outs

Welcome to the first episode of SEASON 4!! On this episode you will find me rambling about my brother and father in law. It is so great to be back.

That's life, and like good 'ol Frank said, I can't deny it. There I was, minding my own business and BOOM like a storm out of the blue, a hurricane or tornado I wasn't prepared for, I am reminded...girl, you got some baggage!!! Just when I think I am doing ok, this journey of no contact with toxic family reminds me..this is not easy. And just when I think I have healed....oh bless...

You guys, I don't even know what to say about this episode except...you may feel dizzy after listening!! I am legit ALL over the place as I talk about my brother, my relationship with him growing up, what lead to me going no contact with him and the fallout of emotions I feel because he is not in my life. This no contact journey sucks sometimes. Sending so much love, hugs and healing to those of y...

On this episode we get down to the basics. The down and dirty, cold hard truth reminders about our toxic families. Things like: ~No, they don't miss us ~No, they have not changed I rattle off a list of reminders as to why we are on this no contact journey to begin with and I hope that reminds you and empowers you to keep walking. I would love to hear from YOU! What is a a cold hard truth about...

Whale, another one bites the dust. Not gonna lie, I digress a bit about a recent situation cus another bitch reared her ugly head and left my life. But, the main point of this episode is because it got me thinking. Well shit, this keeps happening...between my family, and bitches disguised as friends, it's easy to think that we are surrounded by 'drama.' Is it ME?? I had some epiphanies and we chat...

Hey girl heyyyy....guess what, just when I think I'm all good and I don't have any other issues lurking around in the shadows..BOOM...issues show up like, bitch, yes you do. On this episode of the podcast we discuss things like: ~spending to the edge ~making rules for ourselves ~buying something new, but not using it right away ~having a plan b or escape plan ~grocery shopping as if a hurricane wa...

Welcome to Season 3!!!!! On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we chat about celebrating our birthday while we are no contact with our toxic family. Some years I am happy and some years I am fromp... This year, I am fromp. But, we are jumping right in and discussing all of the emotions that are associated with this no contact with toxic family journey. You are not alone friend. Song: https...

Yup. That's right, my father was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Did anyone in the clown circle call me to let me know? nope. Am I going to break no contact? nope. What am I going to do? Talk about the fuckery with all of you. Song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5drYkLiLI8

Join me as I chat with Marie Birtel. She is author of the book, "I Love You When..." This fictional narrative sheds light on the often overlooked area of covert narcissism in families. Through the main character, Emma, readers are given a glimpse into the profound effects and insight into this subtle and insidious force. The story emphasizes that healing from narcissistic trauma is not o...

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we are going to talk about six things we are NOT going to embrace this year. 1. Minimize, belittle or downgrade ourselves to make someone feel better. 2. Thinking that loving our family more would have made things different. 3. Saying yes to things we don't want to do. 4. Beating ourselves up for saying no to things we do not want to do. 5. Embraci...

Welcome to the shortest episode ever! On this episode I take a few minutes to connect with YOU and talk about the peace that being no contact with toxic family during the holiday season can yield. I also talk about what I did with my peace and ask you..what will you do with your peace? Let's chat in the comment section! Song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YdTTAaYVPM Also making a guest appearan...

This episode of the Character Outs podcast is your friendly reminder to keep walking. Even amongst the FA LA LA and peace and joy. (BAH HUMBUG) You knew why you walked away from your toxic family. Don't let the sparkle of the Holidays gaslight you and make you doubt why you walked away. Song: Taylor Swift: it's time to go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFCNdWPop-Y In case no one has told you, it...

...there is something wrong with you, something seriously wrong with you.... Has your toxic, abusive parent ever said that to you? Same. But guess what, there is nothing wrong with you. On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about my journey with mental health. I feel vulnerable af sharing this with all of you but that is what I am here for with the hope that you feel less alone. In...

Join me as I chat with Dr. Sherrie Campbell. You may think you know Dr. Sherrie and her list of stellar accomplishments, such as her recent TEDx talk (not all parents are good), flourishing therapy practice, groundbreaking podcast (sherapy sessions: cutting ties with toxic family), and the collection of books she has written, (including her most recent, "Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Pare...

Oh, the tales that our toxic family tell. They can swirl around and behind us like an impending storm. And we thought walking away would stop this!!! (aren't we adorable) Also-let's be real...the tales are NEVER good. On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we dive into how we can navigate this inevitable fallout on this no contact journey. We discuss: *Bracing for impact *Our response *Rem...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we talk about the good ol' apology. Wait, you mean the kind I have to give? No. Ew. Knock it off. I am NOT here for that. Omg, you feel that way about apologies too?? YES! WE CAN DO THIS!!!! We grew up in a toxic family where an apology was: ~forced ~coerced ~weaponized When in reality in a healthy and safe relationship an apology is: ~sincere ~ge...

On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast.. The bitch is BACK! Oh, is it great to be behind the mic again! On this episode, we talk about the multiverse. NO, no...not in the Sci-Fi kinda way, but in the way it pertains to us on this no contact with toxic family. The wonderings of: *What would my life look like had I not had the childhood that I did. *What would my life look like if my toxic fa...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about the haunting of our toxic family members that we have gone no contact with. Ok, ok..I'm not talking about Ghostbusters shit. I'm talking about when we see, smell or hear something that reminds us of our toxic family. Let's face it, we went no contact, but they are still a part of our past and our memories. So...what should we...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have the honor of chatting with this beautiful light in the world, Founder & CEO of Beautiful Disaster Clothing, Christina DuVarney. Christina DuVarney is the visionary force behind Beautiful Disaster Clothing, a brand that transcends mere fashion to become a symbol of resilience and empowerment. Drawing from her own journey of overcoming persona...

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the shrinking circle. Ya know, when you have the bittersweet superpower of seeing: ~manipulation ~passive aggressive behavior ~gas lighting ~crazy making And....you want to run but you can't because: ~you would be a bitch ~you've been friends with that person forever ~you would be like your toxic family NO! On this episode I am on...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about that good ol' phrase I ask myself over and over... Am I the problem? Sigh.... That phrase used to haunt me. Yes, it USED to haunt me. Not that I feel I have achieved perfection (hell nah.) I have just refused to comply to the balls of toxicity thrown at me anymore. Things like... 'Oh, your family doesn't talk to you? YOU must...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with Cody who is not only intelligent and insightful, but also a really cool, down to earth dude. He brings a fascinating perspective to how trauma impacts our mind and our body and how we can get to a place of becoming a 'human doing' and not just a 'human being.' Cody is a seasoned entrepreneur at the forefront of AI and Menta...

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SOME of the fucked-up things that we normalized while we were still in the trenches with our toxic family. Cus let's be honest, I could commit HOURS if we discussed all of the every single thing that we normalized, am I right? But....those days are over, so now what? We are also going to talk about what we need to start normalizing no...

Join me as I chat with Danu Morrigan. She is the daughter of a narcissistic mother and the author of five books on the topic of daughters and narcissistic mothers. *'You're not crazy-it's Your Mother' *'Dear Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother' *'Notes From Your Inner Mother' *'How to go No Contact' *'Become a Boundaries Badass' She is also the founder...

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast, I dive into the muddy waters of...boundaries. Does that body of boundary water feel like the Dead Sea to you? Yea, same. How about as you are in the process of even THINKING about making a boundary you hear your narcissistic mother whisper: 'You are making this boundary because you are a spiteful bitch.' UGHHHH!!! NO! Do you struggle with sett...