Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps: 00:30 Intro  02:00 What does your dating life actually look like? 05:00 Are you placing yourself in opportunities to meet new people? 06:45 Are you giving off signals that you're interested? 08:20 Look at your communication style  09:40 Are you showing up as your authentic self? 11:20 First impressions matter 13:05 Your next steps 14:30 Whats helped you? 14:50 How to work with me 15: H...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 The anxiety around the exclusivity conversation 03:00 Do you know their core values and beliefs? 04:30 Do you know their day-to-day patterns and behaviours? 05:50 You're not interested in dating other people 06:30 Signs you shouldn't become exclusive 07:45 When should you have the exclusivity conversation? 09:50 How to bring up the conversation 13:45 Why I say 3 mont...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:45 Introducing Chat GPT & AI  03:50 What made me acknowledge the impact of Chat GPT & AI 05:30 Why people are going to Chat GPT 08:00 Why you should be cautious of Chat GPT 10:45 AI Makes mistakes 12:25 Chat GPT will mirror back to you what you want to hear 14:45 It can't hold you accountable  15:40 It can't "read a room"  16:25 Your Chat GPT conversations are not privat...

Loving Your Body Changes Your Life 00:25 — Intro: The truth about body image and self-love 01:45 — Finding my first gray hairs—what it brought up 02:35 — Emotional impacts of aging on body image 03:55 — A cautionary tale: Your body will change 05:15 — I didn't expect to feel this way about aging 05:35 — How do you want to experience your aging process? 06:25 — Why aging is a gift not everyone rece...

02:55 — A new age of emotional inner work and healing 03:35 — What does "holding space" really mean in relationships? 03:53 — The true definition of holding space 04:25 — Why holding space is different from emotional responsibility *** 07:25 — How emotions are formed in relationships 09:05 — How your thoughts shape your emotional experiences 09:36 — When your partner actually does upset you 11:40...

00:25 — Intro: Let's talk about closure after a breakup 00:40 — Can you really heal without a final conversation? 02:25 — Why closure is something you create 03:10 — Wanting your ex to admit they were wrong 03:55 — Seeking justice or karma after a breakup ** 04:45 — What you're really searching for: Comfort, relief, peace 05:25 — Closure comes from within, not from your ex 05:55 — Let go of needin...

Timestamps: 00:25 — Intro: Why this year has been emotionally draining 02:15 — Go deep, not wide, in your healing journey 04:45 — How to feel better: Turn down stress, turn up support 07:50 — Simplify your systems to reduce overwhelm 11:55 — What actually works for  you , not the latest trend 12:20 — Why rest is a critical part of your breakup recovery  14:40 — Take smaller, manageable steps to he...

00:25 Intro 02:30 My own victim mindset 06:25 Control the controllables 09:51 Look at what's going well 13:10 Where are you contributing to your circumstances? 20:12 Stop complaining 23:47 Put up the blinders and stop comparing yourself to other people   Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Join The Breakup Glow-Up...

00:25 Intro 02:45 My experience with the fear of commitment 04:15 Signs of the fear of commitment 07:40 Why you might have the fear of commitment 09:25 History of women in relationships 15:25 What do we do about the fear of commitment 16:48 Personal example of where I feared commitment 17:15 Challenge those thoughts 17:55 Look for evidence of the opposite 19:25 One of the ways I combated this fear...

00:25 intro 02:25 the effects of being cheated on 04:50 what is lying and cheating? 05:55 we need to talk to our partners about what we define cheating to be 08:45 10:35 it's not wrong to be on the same page as your partner 11:45 this will help if you've been cheated on Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Join The...

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00:00 Intro  01:15 There's a lot going on in the world right now… 05:30 How my coaching tools help me navigate our current world 07:15 Control the controllables 09:45 It's hard to make any changes when you feel overwhelmed and stuck 10:15 Boundaries 12:55 Emotional regulation 15:35 Choosing to seek joy 18:15 Humans are resilient and resourceful 19:17 Let me know — what are you taking from this pod...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 02:10 How you engage in social media will either help you heal or hold you back 02:43 Why it's important to have boundaries around social media 06:25 The algorithm can push your ex's posts to the top of your feed 07:15 People can screenshot your posts 08:25 Get curious of your own motives 09:25 Assume the person you don't want to see it will see it 10:25 Control the control...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:40 Practical steps you can take to rebuild your friendships after a breakup 02:25 Why it's easier to make friends as a kid 04:35 Lesson 1: Make friends outside of your partners 06:25 Lesson 2: When people show you who they are, listen 09:17 Lean into friendships you already have 12:30 Evaluate your availability, values, and interests 14:17 Find something consistent that...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:03 5 steps you can take to deal with rejection 01:25 How rejection impacted me 04:05 Could you be rejecting yourself right now? 05:22 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent 07:29 Look at the facts, not the feelings 10:10 Place yourself in the other person's perspective 13:12 Where is this rejection a redirection? 15:55 Give yourself credit 18:25 Outro Lin...

Timestamps:  00:25 Intro 04:15 Get curious about what you've normalized and where things could be a different way 06:21 Your brain is trying to protect you by keeping you in situations you know 08:40 Confirmation bias 09:10 We all have an algorithm 11:10 You have to consciously challenge your thoughts and beliefs 13:15 Scan for evidence that things can be different 14:23 Gather data on where thing...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:40 How anxiety affected me 05:00 My turning point 06:50 Why do we get anxious? 09:14 2 Main takeaways from why we get anxious 10:10 Your brain isn't trying to hurt you or make you feel bad 11:45 How our language shapes our anxiety 13:15 the emotional we describe something the more we feel its true 13:35 Label your emotions to start defusing them 15:15 Regulate your emoti...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:20 What is lying? 03:10 Lying by omission 05:30 But what about white lies? 07:40 Lying is a slippy slope 08:00 We are all capable of lying 11:00 How lying hurts us 12:27 Why we lie 19:03 Where do you draw the line in lying? 25:18 How to not get lied to 27:00 Emotional regulation technique 29:00 Working through conflict 30:26 How to bounce back from lying Links: Intereste...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:54 What to do when you feel like you're backsliding in your healing journey 03:12 Why healing isn't linear 06:16 Cyclical processing 09:09 Focus on growth and what you have achieved 10:36 Anchor into one or two practices 12:40 Final thoughts 16:00 Outro     Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/con...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  01:24 Identity change is uncomfortable 02:24 What inspired this episode - My story 07:59 What beliefs do you hold around the identity shift 09:24 Challenge your beliefs with compassion 10:38 Find acceptance in it being uncomfortable 12:54 You contain multitudes 14:23 Practice your new identity 15:49 You have to break the habit of being yourself 19:39 Your identity is meant...

Timestamps:  00:00 Intro 03:37 #1 You feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells 06:01 #2 You are having the same conflicts over and over 09:17 #3 Not feeling like yourself anymore 14:24 #4 You try to avoid them 15:11 #5 More things you dislike about them than you like about them 16:15 #6 You want to, but you're avoiding it or looking for a good enough reason 20:50 #7 You don't have the same...

Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro 02:53 Does the love & affection match the pace of the relationship? 04:05 What does love bombing feel & look like? 05:25 If your friend was in this situation, what would you think? 06:25 Love bombing is hot & cold, real love is steady 09:55 Love can stand the test of time and stress 12:55 Final Thoughts 14:45 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a co...

Timestamps: 00:59 Navigating boundaries long term 07:54 Personal example of setting boundaries 11:24 What is a boundary? 11:39 How to handle it when past baggage comes up in the relationship 17:24 People process things differently 23:32 How has our relationship changed in the last 5 years? 29:14 What has allowed us to have so much trust in our relationship? 34:24 What do you love about our relatio...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:00 1. They can apologize 04:12 2. Ability to receive feedback 06:08 3. Wanting to include you in their life 07:42 4. They're supportive of your goals, interests, and passions 09:20 5. You know you can have the hard conversations 10:30 6. They boast you up in front of others 13:25 7. They have a life & support system outside of you 15:30 8. You don't feel like you have to...

TW: Domestic Violence  Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:40 Not knowing what you don't know 03:00 Everything has nuance 03:05 1. When they minimize or discard your experience 04:55 2. They are physically intimidating you 09:00 3. Pushing boundaries 11:20 4. You become more isolated from your family and friends 13:15 5. Extreme emotional shifts/outbursts 18:25 6. Immaturity 21:27 7. Always shifting guilt...